I’m Sorry I Messed Up, Are You Dating Anybody Right Now? The game of courtship can be a rewarding one, men earn themselves a beautiful, loving mate and women earn romance stories to brag to their girlfriends about. One of my best friends planted his wife’s engagement ring amongst the branches of the tree that they first kissed under. It is no doubt that she will tell that story forever – they just celebrated the birth of their second child, it’s a beautiful thing. The majority of my friends are seemingly happy in their marriages, so the statistics of divorce rates, alimony and child support woes that I read about daily gets balanced out just by hanging out with them. One thing I’ve noticed however is that all of them were either married out of High School or a few years after college – the younger 20s. As myself and other men of my age grow older we lose tolerance, accept independence... [Read more]

Porn actress Katja Kassin was a hardcore worker and one of my favorite girls up until her retirement last year from the industry. On her MySpace blog she, like most women in adult films was bombarded with the “I would hit that” and the “you need to let me f-ck you” commentary on her pictures. Given that it takes a true loser to put himself out there like that on a public profile, it must have been some real dark creeps on there sending her emails behind the scenes. If you are a porn addict aficionado and wonder how you could get yourself laid by one of the “pros” Katja Kassin answers your question with this blog post from 2008. Seems like you would still have to put in work to score the panties from a porn actress the same way you would a regular girl. I guess if you want some quick, easy poon you’d be better off calling a local escort. The letter written to Katja by random... [Read more]

“Cause don’t forget who’s taking you home and in whose arms you’re gonna be, so darlin’ save the last dance for me” - The Drifters Its an ongoing debate as to whether jealousy is inherently a female trait or not. While many guys tend to fall into the passionate/lover boy role because we know ourselves better than any woman does. We know that guys do not pursue women for friendship and we know that Julio getting her number at work means that Julio wants to get in her panties badly. Women who willingly give up the number or allow themselves to get into scenarios where they are a smooth word away from opening their legs are not good girlfriends and wives. For a level-headed alpha male you may get away with flirting with his girl or even sneaking around to try and romance her off his hands – but the minute you cross the lines of “respect” for him as... [Read more]

Deal Breaker: noun.  Any issue or factor that is significant enough to terminate a negotiation. It could be that she loves pop music and you do not. She loves gourmet meals on a Friday night, but you are content with your Ramen noodles and chicken wings.  You always put things back where you got them from and she is from the school of “I’ll do it later”.  Whatever it is, if you treat it like a serious issue, it can always become a deal breaker.  You have to remember that not all people have the same thought process when it comes to pet peeves and character flaws. Communication is the key to compromise in a relationship rather than breaking the deal.  She may not know that every single time you get inside your car and Pink is blaring through the radio it makes your skin crawl to the point of resentment. Tell her how you feel Understand that she may not know that it bothers you... [Read more]

“It was like napalm, sexual napalm” - John Mayer about sex with Jessica I am sure you have heard about, or read the allegedly racist comments John Mayer made in his interview with Playboy. While I do agree that the man has zero brains when it comes to foresight for backlash when you make dumb jokes to the press – calling him a racist is not going to be exact science, and it will be based on who you are talking to. I could care less what John Mayer thinks about black women or who he chooses to run up in when the groupies come flooding backstage for him. I’m not sure when being a sexualized object became a standard to aspire for (speaking to the women who are now pissed at him for dissing them) but the man apparently has a flavor – in a sense we all do, does that make him racial? Nah. Just boring. What I did get from his interview though is that Jessica Simpson must... [Read more]

There was a time when men going to the spa was considered a gay activity, so I can understand where the man’s man would want to argue the validity of him laying in a chair with someone rubbing his feet. However, lately, there has been an influx of men who go to the spa to the point that they now make up about a third of the spa population. The places to go are no longer catered to women where the man feels out of place, but they have gender neutral atmospheres and special treatments just for him. MANicures As a woman with soft skin, being touched by a man with callused hands definitely does not feel as good as it should.  I love a hard worker just as much as the next woman, but hard workers can take care of their hands just like the next man.  The manicure is simply a treatment for your skin and exfoliation of dead skin off your hands with professional products that work way better... [Read more]

Are you into Martial Arts? Do you wish to become a better grappler? Or maybe you have a youngling in training to be a badass, roundhouse kicking Jedi. Then there’s a new product coming out to help you become said badass. The  Tommy Boi by inventor Tommy Jubei Knight is a solo grappler’s dream come true. You know, It’s one thing when you have a friend talk out his ass about what he plans on doing and then there’s another thing to have them actually do it. Tommy Jubei Knight (yup that’s his name) worked out at the same gym as me and we got to know each other through martial arts. As one of the only people to refer to me exclusively as “black dragon”, Tommy would recount to me his misadventures of sparring, fighting and squaring off against real opponents in multiple situations. Being of a stocky, hard and solid fighter’s stature, you would think that the man would not get... [Read more]

Every so often Hollywood will squat down, take a huge dump and put it on screen as an American martial arts movie. Normally these feature a good looking white or black dude whooping ass, banging Asian chicks and saying cute one-liners. Although onscreen everyone fears the man, the audience as a whole is so sobered to this cliche that we almost laugh at him. Now we all know life imitates art (or vice versa) so the “coolness” of being a badass fantasy fighter has spawned a few McDojos (as I like to call them, since their schools are probably as false as they are) who aim to impress the ignorant on their skills. Okay, I swear – the next pasty, fat, blowhard that comes up to me and lies about his martial arts accolades will probably have to cover his face as I literally explode out of frustration. I understand that in this age of quick fixes, microwave dinners and Mixed Martial... [Read more]

“The things we forgot about being different in the Public School system.” My friend’s young daughter has had issues with school, she is smart as a whip and extremely polite so as you can expect academics aren’t the issue. Although she is 22 years younger than myself I can understand what she’s going through. Blame this on me being an enormous 6 foot child mentally or the fact that my childhood memories are still pretty keen. Either way, the aspect of “fitting in” is starting to really grate on her young nerves as she battles the name-calling, the unsupportive people who look like her (more on this later) and the adults who lack the imagination to see things from her side. It’s a struggle that I remember well, and I hope for her sake that she is as strong a child as I was. If you (the reader) are not black, some of what I am about to say will... [Read more]