As human beings we tend to come off as being competitive by nature due in part to our comparison check whenever we hear about somebody’s success or failure. As an employee, when we learn of someone being in the same field as we are, we always want to know how much they make. Sometimes it doesn’t even matter how long someone has done their job, how much education and experience they have towards it and at what situation a company was in when they hired them; if they make more than we do, we get upset and feel small for it. A couple of average looking girls will tear a beautiful stranger down behind her back because a guy that they like is trying to talk to her (happens all the time). A skinny, nerdy guy will be ridiculed quietly in the gym for having a sexy, fit girlfriend working out with him. Women get… [Read more]

Racial lines are blurring as time goes along but it isn’t gone or invisible like a lot of commenters (you know who you are) and media people would have us believe. Some would assert that denying racism is actually the newest form of racism because it aims to alienate those who call out the giant whale in the room. Racism is still here folks, let’s not be stupid about it and while some things have been a bit more relaxed, it doesn’t mean that there aren’t still a ton of people who are violently against change. I grew up in the South where racial lines were not only drawn but they were drawn with bright red paint so that everyone knew where they stood. A black boy dating a white girl had to do so in private, and white coaches would call a child of color anything under the sun. We grew up to ourselves… [Read more]

Those who know me know that i love my food and wine. Being able to locate a cheap bottle (cheap being defined as under $15) without traveling too far is my forte. Contrary to popular belief, the key is making sure the wine is very drinkable on its own, not the cost at the counter. I’ve been a frugal chick for much of my adult hood, and finding new bottles at a low price point has been easy. Trust me, I’ve spent well over $40 on a bottle before and still been disappointed, so I’ve become accustomed to trying new wines that only disappoint my wallet on a way smaller level. The following are some great bottles that retail at your local grocery store for less than $15. Cupcake Chardonnay, California This wine has a rich buttery flavor (one of my favorite attributes in a chardonnay) and goes very well with a garlicky, creamy, or… [Read more]

Hate is an International habit but I swear that we of the internet have it mastered over everyone else. Whenever a celebrity crosses over into a different realm of entertainment (yes this includes sports), the first thing people look forward to is their failing – hard. It’s this attitude of “how dare they try and be good at more than one thing” which confuses me. The news of Serena Williams making a rap song hit Facebook and Twitter like a storm and blogs everywhere quickly jumped on it to offer up a critique “it’s aiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiight” seemed to be the consensus, corny, cliché but not necessarily terrible. Why did Serena do this? Well if you follow the tennis legend you would realize that her being young, single and richer than hell allows her to do what she likes off-season, including dabbling in fashion, modeling, making naughty commercials and yes having fun via whatever avenue she so… [Read more]

Don’t you hate nosy people? I know I do. Many of us men come up being extremely private to the point where we turn off family members and friends just by the amount of silence we keep about our love lives. Oft times this code of silence comes from being burnt one too many times by big-mouthed people who make us feel uncomfortable for our preferences and choices throughout our dating lives. Having dated a number of different women from across the spectrum of race, style and class – I know all too well the comments and hurtful jokes that gets thrown at single men for their choices. When I was in college I dated a number of light-skinned black girls, not because that was my thing, but because they were the ones who were talking back to me. You know the game denizens, hell if you read my articles enough, you know why this… [Read more]

“A man can be an artist… in anything, food, whatever. It depends on how good he is at it. Creasy’s art is death. He’s about to paint his masterpiece.” – Rayburn, Man on Fire It’s peculiar how we can fear death yet applaud it’s dealers so heavily in movies, books and videogames. Think about it, the crowd cheers in The Expendables when Terry Crews comes marching down a hallway offloading an Atchisson Assault Shotgun into a crowd of invaders leaving a road of death in his wake. The crowd also roared when little Chloe Moretz as Hit Girl was cutting up adults as if they were paper mache in Kick-Ass. Fact of the matter is that we love our fictional, professional killers. So who are they and who did we decide to list? Well we sorted through the hundreds from cinema to pick out the people who dealt death as their duty, as opposed to… [Read more]

Why would a man hate on a cute, friendly, and well-meaning customer service girl? Well they send men confusing signals which potentially leads to misunderstanding, embarrassment and worst of all – reminders that we’re losers. As we all know, men expect pretty girls to be mean, judgmental witches that don’t smile. Blame it on the defense mechanism that most pretty girls have when a guy gawks at them, you lot get all serious and evasive, so men come up believing that part of the pretty girl package is to have a permanent scowl on the face accompanied by a bit of attitude. But here you have this customer service hawte breaking the rules, she’s smiling, being all good at her job and polite, so we think: “What’s your deal anyway? What’s a man really to think!? Are you trying to earn extra tips? Wait… but you don’t take tips so… oh I know, you probably… [Read more]

If a beautiful woman stays with a bunch of guys and she wants to know which one of them is madly in love with her, all she has to do is take note of which guy is trying a little too hard to be aloof, or mean to her for absolutely no reason. Welcome to Simpin’ 101, come on in and take a seat as I school you ladies and gentlemen on one of the main reasons why men are so resentful of beautiful women. There’s an interesting occurrence that comes up whenever you mix one part single, pretty girl with a few non-confident guys that like her and an oblivious confident guy who merely sees her has dating potential. See, the confident guy will have sex with some effort and attention given, while the other lot will sit back and become both resentful and hateful of them both. What makes this even more interesting… [Read more]