So a single man walks into a building and sees three women that are similarly attractive. Girl one is of his status, has the persona that would likely match him perfectly and is at the party looking for a potential date. When our guy looks her way, she chooses not to look at him even though she finds him attractive. Girl number two is at the party to have a good time, she has had her share of dates and knows how to flirt to get what she wants. Upon seeing our boy, she gives him a little smile and returns to what she was doing. Girl number three is completely foreign to him in both look and feel, she however finds him curious, gives him a look (not an unfriendly one) and then continues on with her thing.

Many of us guys have seen this scenario before, for the wolves in the pack, all three are equally consumable and all it takes is timing, wordplay and suave to get her heart in your teeth. For the more humble, modest, regular guy he will more often than none, go for girl number two with an assumption that she will automatically be down. This often leads to a whole lot of misunderstanding and hurt feelings before the night is over. More confident guys will go for two or three, one will appear to be uninterested therefore a waste of time so most guys won’t bother. Yet as much as this comes off as common sense, girl number one continues to wonder why guys won’t talk to them. These same women wonder why, when they do get approached, it’s by a dude with a quota to reach in his pants. While her aloof, shyness or mock tough act comes off as a deterrent to bullshit from bad guys (to her), in reality it makes her look like an unapproachable, mean-spirited woman, who is on the brink of getting loud and telling you to get out of her face should you approach. Not getting me? Imagine if he spoke a different language, looked differently than all the women and was trying to fit in. Without the ability to explain that you are a nice girl and not a bitch -- despite the scowl. How exactly would you relay to him that you are interested and he may approach if he wants to give it a try? Girl number two wins that one all day long.

I think a lot of the misunderstanding stems from our unwillingness to break past the idea of traditional roles, notice my emphasis on idea. The people of today are far removed from the working husband and dishwashing wife of our grandparents generation. Oft times a woman has a lot more to offer than a guy does, yet the guys are still held to a hunter’s standard -- fine by me, don’t get me wrong, I’m old school, gimme a spear and I’ll bring something home. What I do mean however, is that men are vastly outnumbered by women, less educated than women, and being emasculated more and more as time goes by. So why would this standard of intelligent, overpopulated, beauty expect that the man will even want to chase her. Women, WE HAVE OPTIONS, if you aren’t willing to permit us a hint of interest, then do not bemoan us going to the smarter girl for a chance.

For the Women:
Sorry ladies but being pretty, sexy and fine no longer cuts it as a means to get hollered at. You may need a few more things on top of that, I know, I know, I am asking a lot but bear with me. A non-toxic personality goes a long way, and as this article states, you have to give us more than psychic brainwaves for us to come at you. Men don’t have that intuition, we are wired for logic, plain and simple. Logic says, if another human being seems hostile in both their demeanor and actions, then one should probably not prove him/her. Logic also says that a smile, a friendly glance and eye contact means that the person is attempting to appear friendly. That is all it takes, divas aren’t particularly attractive to guys. If a guy says he loves a diva attitude it’s probably because he thinks he will be able to knock it out of you sexually when you drop your guard. I can dig it.

For the Men:
I have friends who are baby wolves in training. See a wolf knows the game, has played it for years and eats very well from the hunt. The baby wolf see the wolf, wants what the wolf has and sometimes apprentices under the wolf. While an uninterested girl may fend the wolf off -- mostly because he knows it’s hopeless -- the baby wolf is normally persistent. He will buy her drinks, withstand her hater friends cock blocking him on the dance-floor and will pester her to death in hopes of cracking the ice. Baby wolf ruins the game for a lot of us because she assumes that he represents all men. Stop kissing these girls asses fellas, stop being baby wolves and grow up!

It reminds me of a song Alicia Keys did a while back called You Don’t Know My Name. The video speaks to the willingness of an interested woman to break past the ridiculous and let a dude know that she’s interested. Had she not done so, my man Mos Def would have stepped on to something else (probably less fine and talented) than the modest waitress girl but she did what she had to do. Now granted her calling him up was a power move than no man could resist (I mean damn it’s Alicia Keys) but her subtle mannerisms, kind gestures and looks were tells of attraction that any guy could have grasped. see for yourself, and stop wearing the stink face ladies.

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Written by Greg Dragon on Thursday, January 7, 2010 
Filed under Relationships, The Code of Man, The Dating Game, Women · Tagged with bitch, diva attitude, mos def, wolves, Women, YouTUBE