It has been discussed millions of times but as much as it has been made to look like common knowledge, it really isn’t. If you are a drop-dead gorgeous woman who hasn’t gone into modeling, acting or porn, your dating pool by default will be a shallow one. This fact is usually dispelled by women who don’t fit the mold of this with statements such as “you can have ANY guy you want” or “you’re one to complain”. This gives the beauty instant guilt resulting in the not-so-hot girl feeling better about herself and the beauty thinking there may be some truth to this. The problem with this myth however is that a typical guy will be intimidated to make first contact and if the beauty pushes up she will be instantly placed into the slut category. For a seasoned wolf, the beauty will be tried because the wolf knows more often than none a beauty will be single.

Going into the dating pool, the beauty has to battle against insecure men, unspoken stigmas (will explain in the next paragraph) and female haters (who aren’t as hot). A beautiful woman is so deadly that her photograph will bring instant venom from any casually cute woman who sees it. Posing with her will yield unstoppable questions from the girlfriend/wife as long as you keep it. Your fellow guys will press on and on about who she is and whether you “blazed it” or not. See in our society, this site as an example, we worship beautiful people, some of us try to join them in their beauty through all sorts of healthy and unhealthy methods and some try to conquer them. Since this form of worship makes porcelain dolls and marble statues in our minds of a stunning beauty, whenever we encounter one many of us react strangely.

Male Stigmas on Beautiful Women
Most red-blooded heterosexual men will tell you to stay away from the beautiful women. In our minds a woman cannot be a total package. She cannot be nice, well-mannered and supportive as a beauty. She cannot be drop-dead gorgeous and not be a psycho or a total bitch. Many times a guy who gets in with a beauty will literally be waiting for bitch mode to reveal itself and if he isn’t that type then his friends probably are. If I had a nickel for every time I’ve heard a guy say that pretty girls are psycho, I would have a couple hundred dollars from that statement alone. It’s a harmful cliche because it gets into your head and it sits there. The stigma presents itself in books, movies and tales of woe from friends who have found a crazy beauty. It is expected that you are off just by being considered beautiful.

For the guys who land a beauty and are happy with your relationship or marriage, other guys will hate on you them as hardcore as women will hate on her. Guys will say stuff like “did you see her husband? He’s just some fat nerd cat, he has to be loaded”, or “how is she that fine and dude looks like some average frat boy?” Guys spew this rhetoric without thinking twice because of how we see things. In this world every guy believes that a dorky guy or an average guy has to date down. When we see a guy that has a banger on his arm it turns into her being either a gold digger or a lunatic. Rarely do we congratulate a fellow male who is happy with his beautiful wife, unless dude is a living specimen. Let a Denzel Wahington, a Michael Jai White or a Jason Statham that is built like a linebacker roll out with the beauty on his arm and dudes don’t have jack to say. It is our view that only a manly, man amongst men, alpha dog, stud deserves to have a beautiful woman. Anything else gets hated on, which is quite funny since more times than none the guy hating would never, ever in 100 years step to that woman to ask her out.

Women hate Beautiful Women
This is common knowledge to the world so I will not spend much time on it. Women unlike men run comparisons with one another. It is one of the reasons they hate each other so much, ESPECIALLY if a woman has it going on. The attitude becomes that of “oh she thinks she’s all that” or “those are fake anyway”.  The aspect of hate is not foreign to most women when it comes to beauties unless they themselves are the stunner and they know it. If you want to test your girl on this, just ask her what she thinks of Giada De Laurentiis, hell you can go on any Food Network relative blog commentary and read their thoughts on Giada. The confident women will prop her cooking and scoff at her low cut dresses but the other 98% will say her head is big, her mouth is too big or refer negatively to her breasts. It’s amazing how much negativity a woman can receive just for looking good.

What can a Beautiful Woman do to dispel stigmas?
Absolutely nothing, this is why it is a curse ladies. I will say this though, not all guys are intimidated and the ones who aren’t are probably the ones you will find attractive anyway. Manly guys with enough confidence and swagger to pull you without fear will be the ones approaching you.  Now don’t mix these guys up with the married losers who will try to pull you for Gooma status. A married man has absolutely nothing to lose in terms of rejection, he doesn’t care, he just wants a chance at some beautiful “strange” that he would not step to as a single man. I see it all the time, dude gets married to average looking, supportive chick then runs out as many fine women as he can on the side because the fear factor is nil.

It amazes me how easily beautiful single women slide their panties off for someone else’s husband. Oft times this guys isn’t even a winner, doesn’t have the physique of a god and isn’t even a gentleman, just some married dick with a promise. Still I won’t be the one to hate the player, the game will keep on going regardless of me telling you about the traps or not. Women, it’s simple, many of us are literally afraid of a gorgeous woman telling us that we are not good enough, good looking enough and manly enough for you. Many guys will step to you expecting you to go into bitch mode and when you don’t we assume that you open your legs a whole lot. Not sure who you can blame for this but it is extremely complicated. I apologize for the cowardly section of the man race and I encourage you to find someone who can appreciate your beauty while treating you like a human being.

Written by Greg Dragon on Tuesday, January 26, 2010 
Filed under People are Strange, The Code of Man, The Dating Game, Women · Tagged with beautiful woman, bitch, Giada, haters, loser, single women, stigma