Apr 12
She’s comfortable wearing a velour jogging suit, sneakers and no make-up when you go to the sports bar. She can throw a spiral as well as run a post to actually catch the ball. She hates how women backstab each other so she keeps at most one girlfriend choosing instead the company of guys. She either ran track or played volleyball in college, keeps up with a professional team and can stomach beer. She is sexy all the time but beautiful when she dons make-up and skirt for her friend’s wedding or dinner party. She is the quintessential hot tomboy.
She is the woman that most guys go crazy over on paper, but few guys actively pursue in life. Most women like this are snatched up out of college; they are godsends, goldmines, and diamonds in the rough for an athletic type of guy. They make for low maintenance, highly loyal and cool girlfriends for the college ball player. Yet in life as college ends and we hit the workforce they get lost amidst the pant-suits, the seasonal fashion and the girly girls. It becomes difficult to figure out who will watch football with you and who will force you to give up the television because you watch too many sporting events. It’s as if the window shrinks and the chance at the ultimate tomboy girlfriend goes away. You are probably wondering why I am making these women out to be the best things since sliced bread, but let’s consider the pros and cons.
Pros:
The tomboy is a natural beauty; if she wasn’t you would not have started talking to her in the first place. She is dressed down 99% of the time so what you see is what you get. She likes a lot of the things you like, it’s an instant attraction based on interests. She will play Tekken with you, try to outrun you, tackle you and keep you on your toes within an active lifestyle. She is guaranteed to stay in shape, based on the background of athletics throughout her life – going to the spa, and shopping are not what she considers activity. Like I said before, for the athlete, this is the woman that is seen as gold.
Cons:
If you want a woman who is dolled up 24/7 to impress Chip and the boys around town then you don’t want a tomboy. For guys who get turned off about women who know stats or show interest in professional sport teams etc. then she will no doubt piss you off. For guys who worry about a woman who may be physically faster, stronger and better than them, then this ex track running, weight-lifting, volleyball serving femme is definitely not the one. For guys who get extremely jealous with their females for having more than a few male friends – stay far away from this woman. I re-iterate, most tomboys do not keep a collective of female friends. They roll with dudes, which is why they are the way they are, deal or leave.
In the rounds of life beyond high school and college you will have to be creative to find a woman of this make and model. Online dating yields easy access since you can search for women who workout 3-4 times a week, list things like watching football and running as part of their hobbies or just seeing the picture they post says a lot. Look for a tight body in a sweat suit with a ponytail; they aren’t that hard to miss. I am a big fan of tomboys, since parading your business amongst girlfriends seem to be the norm for the girly girl. Just keep in mind that a lot of what goes into dating a tomboy falls squarely on your shoulders. Do you dare to handle it, or do you prefer a traditional build? You already know what I like, are you feeling me or do you think otherwise?
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on April 12, 2010 - 11:08 am
I’m feeling you on this one. Great article again. Keep them coming.
on December 26, 2010 - 6:10 am
> They roll with dudes, which is why they are the way they are, deal or leave.
Heh! So true. Most of my friends are guys because we share common interests like technology and science, and I’d never give them up, not ever. Those with jealousy, possessiveness, and trust issues need not apply.
WYSIWYG – Copy that. Looks *and* personality-wise.
Btw, it’s worth mentioning that not all of us are serious athletes or big-time sports buffs. Not that I don’t enjoy a good game of tackle football sometimes, mind you. But some of us prefer to get our geek on, fixing/modding electronics or sitting down to do a little shell scripting. Just sayin’.
on January 7, 2011 - 1:05 pm
The fact is tomboyish girls are more likely to cheat, especially when they are attractive, because they hang around guys a lot and these guys can easily tempt these girls to stray from you. Also, tomboyish girls are less likely to commit to relationships.
on January 7, 2011 - 3:19 pm
I’ve dated many women and I can say that without a doubt, the best relationships I’ve had were with the attractive tomboys. The tomboys I have dated and the ones that I know are not cheaters, maybe in your reality you’ve had that experience but for myself and several other men that helped me put this piece together tomboys are loyal once committed. This isn’t to say they are 100% faithful, people are people and circumstances dictate action. I just cannot agree with a blanket assumption that being attractive with a lot of guy friends automatically equates to a whore, this is an old religious construct that stigmatizes every woman who dares to like things outside of pink dresses and Barbie Dolls.
While a tomboy may not realize that she is attractive till later on in life, or even believe it when guys flirt, this doesn’t mean that she won’t accept a boyfriend or husband. Like I’ve stated, I have dated and been in relationships with several – hell a nerdy/rough girl IS my preference and I have never had a problem finding one. The one girl that I have experienced infidelity with was as girly as they come, and I can put money on it that many guys with stripes in the dating arena will echo my sentiments.
Tomboys rock, my immediate wolf-pack agrees whole-heartedly on this and the ones who seem to have issue with it tend to be women.
on January 19, 2011 - 8:32 pm
I am a real true tomboy- but people think I’m weird. I mean I am so different from all the other pink plastic girls- I am considered crazy and weird. Even though I could care less about what they think- and I punch them in the face for saying that- it’s still sad. I hate to say it- but I cry sometimes it’s that bad. My life is so messed up. Sigh.
on January 20, 2011 - 12:37 am
Hey Shayla, thanks for spending some time in The Hall. Let’s be honest hon you do care what they think, if you didn’t you wouldn’t consider your life to be messed up based on other people’s idea of you. Continue to be yourself and strive for things that will make you happy beyond the box that the pink plastic girls will paint you in. Lots of girly girls want to be tomboys but they are so afraid of the scrutiny that society pushes on them that they brush it off as silly and ridicule the women who do whatever it is they feel. There’s love out there for everybody, and it is more important to love yourself since that will influence others to do the same. Enjoy my halls and I hope that things get better for you.