To be called a “good guy”, or a “nice guy” is normally a negative thing for a guy being that a woman saying this normally doesn’t want to sleep with him. The problem with being a nice guy and finishing last is that you begin to reflect on things and assume that there is something wrong with you instead of the women. While the term “nice guy” can go hand in hand with “sucker”, it doesn’t always have to be that way. You don’t have to “finish last” or “act like an ass” in order to get a woman. Niceties do not have to accompany sappiness if you follow this advice and do things correctly.

While being a nice guy naturally and doing nice things – this does not mean that you should dote on a new date. When you find yourself doing things for a woman that could be construed as “spoiling her” or letting her get away with murder when she insults you or takes advantage then you are in the realm of “sucker”.  Nice guys, the secret to not finishing last is to extend a hand to shake but keep the other on your pistola. Define your boundaries and never let a woman cross it, no matter if she looks like Angelina Jolie or not. You can demand respect without giving up your politeness, your care and your natural positivity. Trust me if you can keep that smile on your face, help little old ladies cross the street and then check a broad who has crossed the line then you will be the level of mysterious that women love. Women like to know that they can prod you but that you have a limit, a very short limit, a little bit of crazy. While you may not have the “bad boy swagger” which is corny at best (especially if you’re a grown man) you will have a known boundary and she will feel safe with you.

Nice guys with an edge don’t finish last, they finish first actually because they don’t turn off the women who have played with bad boys all their lives to start writing them off. They attract women on all levels except the freaks who have an attraction to fake thugs wearing scowls on their faces. A nice guy with an edge catches you off guard, he is a knight in black armor atop a white horse, he’ll save you with one hand and take your head off should you prove yourself an enemy. It’s very simple, he is the gentleman and the gangster, a paradox to some of you who can’t wrap your mind around the concept but for nice guys it is optimum that you adopt the ideal. Remain nice but when someone disrespects you, switch blades to dangerous.

Written by Greg Dragon on Thursday, April 8, 2010 

Filed under Gangster Shit, The Dating Game
Tagged with bad boys, disrespect, gangster, grown man, nice guys, sucker, swagger