Women, why is it that when a man tells you that he doesn’t want a relationship, he just wants casual sex, you stick around? Is it because you think that sticking around will somehow lull the savage beast into liking you as a person eventually? Do you look behind the shiny red eyes and imagine a possibility of love when all he wants is the prize between your thighs? Why does one saying this to you go right into one ear and out the other? You protest, act offended, get upset but there you are calling, hanging out and eventually giving it up, forgetting that this same man had told you that all he wanted was sex. Why is it that you then get angry when he stops returning calls and coming around? Why weren’t you listening?

Why is it that a man will tell you that he is unhappily married but still loves his wife and will never leave her – yet you let him get it in the stall at work every Tuesday when everyone is out to lunch? What makes those words he so sincerely uttered about “loving his wife” and “never leaving her” fall on deaf ears? Was it the confident swag that comes through his steps when he marches in to work every morning, or is it some bizarre challenge that you are determined to win? Is it low self-esteem that makes you completely ignore the words which places you in permanent “mistress” status? Why weren’t you listening?

It is the most common complaint by women of men, that we do not listen when it comes to matters of the heart. In the courting phases we sit through your prattling on about your crappy day and how much you hate your job. On dates we sip our wine patiently as you go on and on about the upscale restaurant you and your girlfriends visited last year. Then we have sex with you, we realize that you are committed and we switch listening mode to honesty mode. The thing is however, between the white noise of your gabbing our ears to death, had you mentioned something of importance to us, we would have caught it. But let that attractive, balling type of player mention that he isn’t looking for a relationship and magically your supposedly well-tuned ears tune it out. Do women hear what they want to hear when it comes to a man and the promise of relationship? I know that many women place sex as a sort of precursor to engagement. How many of you men have gotten some sex from a fine woman you were courting, only to wake up with her staring at you with the inevitable question: “so what does this make us?”

Throw us a bone here ladies, how do we get it across to you in black and white (the language of man), that all we want to do is feel your insides and move on? It must be this inability to listen why I saw so many girls give it up to a guy they know was a “dog” only to bemoan performing the act in the first place. It’s like swimming in a stagnant swamp and expecting to get out without being prey to an alligator, leech or amoeba – it makes absolutely no sense. I need a woman to explain this behavior to me. I can’t fathom the reasoning in my limited man’s mind, as to why a man can tell you one thing, and you ignore it as if it was never said. You say that men don’t listen, well au contraire. Tell you what, let’s give it a test and see. Tell the next man with whom you are dating, that he will absolutely, without a doubt never get into your panties without marrying you first and see if he’s listening or not.

Written by Greg Dragon on Monday, April 26, 2010 

Filed under Relationships, Womanology
Tagged with girlfriend, honesty, listening, low self esteem, mistress, sex