Ever wonder why some people stay alone regardless of want or desire to be in a relationship? Well chances are they are giving off an aura of hostility without even knowing it. Below we give five reasons why a person may be single for an extended period of time. If you’re single take a look and see if any of them apply to you.

1. You’re one part of a flock of birds
Although it is safer to go partying with your girlfriends, you should be wary of this practice. Typically when a guy is brave enough to invade a flock, he will either be aiming for the best looking of the lot or the alpha female. If you are neither then you may want to separate from your buddies once you get inside. This is a heavy negative because most guys will not invade a circle of women to talk to any of them, a single, solitary target feels more approachable and will get you hollered at a whole lot more.

2. Solo flyer on a set course to nowhere
Many single people fall into this category. You have your career, your exercise routine and your weekly call to mom that you follow religiously. Your daily rounds has you seeing the same people doing the same thing at the same places. None are attractive, most are with someone and all of them don’t really do anything for you. Due to work being tiresome and draining, you stay home during the off days and try in vain to regain your vitality.

It’s real easy to be single doing this. The only way you would find a relationship is if someone invaded your world from the outside and forced you to come into theirs. The AC guy who you call one day when your unit breaks, the plumber, the hustling Pizza guy. All “below your level” if you’re of the elitist stock, but you get my point. You are Rapunzel, stuck in a tower, stroking your endless hair, hoping that a prince will come for you. This is why I advise women and men to break the comfort zones, branch out into different dives and try new things. To stay on an island is to stay alone.

3. Your love advisor is either married or serially single
This one I’ve never understood. Why would you take advice from someone who has either never been in the adult dating game, who has no clue on what you are going through, or someone who isn’t doing much better than yourself? This is right up there with people taking financial advice from others who can’t pay their rent or have never had any sort of success with money.

Better you get advice from someone who has either been successful in the dating pool or someone who IS successful in the dating pool, or someone who has had experience in the dating pool. Taking advice from people who do not fit these descriptions will keep you alone. Consider your source when asking people for dating advice and leave those three time divorced comedians to telling the ignorant masses who to date.

4. You have a list and/or type
This one is easy for me to categorize being that many people are guilty of this but don’t consider it an issue. Here’s the kicker, it gets worse with age! I have a friend that has the same issue going on and is serially single for it. The reason for this is because he only dates black women. There is absolutely nothing wrong with dating a race/type of woman exclusively (stay with me here) as long as you aren’t putting down the rest for it.

Black women are few and far between in the city that I live in. Seriously, I can take a ride into the city right now, walk through a few malls and be lucky if I saw 3 good looking black women. My friend only seems to look for women in the club, so you can dock a few points in the likelihood department for that too. So the few women who he does date are normally full of crap or of the type that he shouldn’t be with.

If you have a list of what a man needs to have to be with you, or if you have a type of woman that you are exclusive to, then you will be single for a very long time.

5. Your personality sucks
The sad thing about this is that unless someone you know tells you, you will not know. Many of us have crap personalities, then wonder why it is we can never get someone to commit or why we can’t even get a second date. Naturally you point the finger and say that the other person was the one with issues, but if you get 3-4 in a row you have to wonder.

What if you have a crap personality, what can you do about it? What can make you less of a bitch or douche bag. Well it takes a strong, unwavering outside opinion to point it out to you, so the person who does, is the person who should field this question. So remember, it may not be your looks, or credentials that turned off your potential lover, it could just be your big, fat, negative personality.

Written by Greg Dragon on Monday, May 3, 2010 

Filed under The Dating Game
Tagged with bitch, black women, ego, girlfriend, guilt, personalities