One thing about favors and loans, some people love receiving them, others like giving them and others don’t want jack to do with them. Well I can identify with the latter, I mean imagine if you get a favor done for you by Don Corleone and he shows up one day with his bullet-ridden son for you to prepare for a wake? That has got to be the most nerve-wracking preparation of a body you’ll ever have, what if he isn’t happy with the results? BANG to the head, that’s what would happen. But Don Corleone is fictional, we know this, but the favor can be a complicated thing that tightens friendships or causes animosity that will end in friends becoming enemies. Favors rely on the principle of giving and repaying.

As a general rule there are two types of favors, the small favor and the major favor. The gauge of the favor’s size is based on an intricate understanding between the giver and the taker. One man’s small favor is another man’s big deal. When you go to agree to the favor you must make it known how big a deal it is for you. The best response is a quick one, as this example indicates:

Johnny: Hey Greg Dragon, can you give me a ride downtown tomorrow for this Court date?
Greg Dragon: Oh that’s no problem, I don’t have anything going on I can blog while you’re in there.

See that exchange right there, Johnny now owes me a favor but based on my response he knows it’s water under the bridge. Now if I had a job to go to and I responded with hesitation and said “am I the only one available? I have a thing I need to be at but I’ll take you if I am”, then he knows that I made major adjustments to accommodate him. At this point Johnny is in my pocket and he should know better than to slight me if ever I need something done, ie: moving day Johnny should be there to help me carry that heavy bed. You get my drift, a favor for a favor is what makes the world go around. Some guys break this basic rule and show themselves as being savages. Let me explain:

Repay Your Favors

It’s really simple, if someone does for you then you in turn do for them. When you start to conveniently forget the major favors done for you then you are behaving in a manner that is both unfair and dangerous. In the case of some people when you forget a favor they will bring up a few things they have done for you in the past. Not me however, when a favor is shrugged off from someone with whom I have bent over backwards for in the past, I silently place them in a very devastating category. This category is so harsh that if I was to ride by them and they were in a burning car, I would weigh their worth in determining if I should help or not. Harsh I know, but it is that serious, men have been killed over favors. Do yourself a favor, pay your debts and repay your favors to people who have helped you in the past.

Written by Greg Dragon on Wednesday, June 30, 2010 

Filed under Money and Business, The Code of Man
Tagged with friendship, money, principle, savages, worthless