Jun 30
Elina Brotherus, Le Printemps, 2001, elinabrotherus.com

In a man’s perception of the dating game, a woman can walk outside, trip, fall and land on some penis (slang translation: there are so many men desperate for women that no effort is needed by a woman to get a man). While this is crass in it’s explanation, It truthfully reveals how we think when it comes to a woman dating. Part of the reason is because we know how desperate our fellow men are and because of that we assume that women have little effort to make in order to gain a mate. It doesn’t help also when you see women turn down friends of yours (that you know are good men) only to see them lament later on about having been dogged out by someone else.   The problem with this assumption however it is that women are picky about their mates… [Read more]

Jun 29
Multi-tasking efficiently does not mean texting and driving!

Recently a friend of mine was telling me how he has to rewatch the Game of Thrones series due to having multi-tasked the World of Warcraft while viewing it. I was amazed that he would even attempt this but I compared him to the people in the movie theater whose constant texting would ruin the movie for everyone else. The parallel is in the idea that people try to multi-task things that cannot be multi-tasked. It’s like the guy who is on the phone with his wife listening to her discuss their son’s injury all while he attempts to carry on a conversation with someone in front of him. These people think that they are being efficient but in the end they will have a million questions about the movie, or look at you blankly when you ask a question. Do you know the amount… [Read more]

Jun 28
Have you ever told a blatant sexual lie for entertainment?

I remember my Freshman year in college and how my roommate and myself would go upstairs in our dorm to hang out with “the Twons”. Now we often visited the two Twons (they both were named Antoine) because they were great story tellers and being horny Freshmen there was nothing like a good story of conquest from 2 supposed experts in the game. At least this is what they made themselves out to be and we believed them… well I did until they told me the tale of the “spitting dragon”. I won’t elaborate on what a “spitting dragon” is, but the technique involved smacking a woman in the back of her head and one of the Twons claimed he had done it. These two clowns were entertaining but looking back at it they were pretty full of crap and a bit pathetic. This is… [Read more]

Jun 27
The beautiful but complex black woman of America

The answer of course is no, its a stupid question but one that holds merit. The amount of attention being placed on black women whether negative or positive have skewed many mens’ thinking into the realm of “high maintenance”. The blogs written by men and women about the black woman’s place in the United States mention many things but it isn’t just the blogs that are the problem, it’s their commentary. You comb the articles of MadameNoire.com, TheFreshXpress.com, Blackvoices.com and any other space dedicated to blackness and you will find that every other entry is about black women and their struggle for beauty and dealing with us “worthless” black men. The blogs bring about a bias from the male brain where you can get to a point of “damn this is too much”. When an explanation of an issue becomes 100 explanations of the same… [Read more]

Jun 24
I had a crush on the Assistant DA played by Angie Harmon

Before I get into it let me dispel your thoughts of nasty chain-smoking Dr. Girlfriend sounding women right now. When I say raspy, I mean feminine voice but with the sound of something slightly hoarse. So let’s call it “slightly raspy” as opposed to stereotypically “chain-smoker raspy”, Jennifer Tilly not Marge Simpson or her sisters. Got it!? Oh and raspy does not mean manly, I’ve seen this mistake made several times on web spaces, a woman’s voice can still be nasally sweet and have that grating sound on it to be considered raspy. Check yourself on your definition folks – now allow me to explain my attraction. I used to watch Law and Order religiously back in the day because I had a crush on the Assistant DA played by Angie Harmon. She was sexy, but a slight little thing, dark hair, dark eyes, whatever… [Read more]

Jun 23
It is ludicrous to spend thousands of dollars on a toy

I am an IT guy that works with technology all day, every day. I do not own a smart phone or tablet of any type. Is this a little bit odd? Yes, yes it is.  I’m supposed to be a techno freak, not a Luddite!  However, the fact remains, when I answer my cell phone, people look at me as though I am an alien because I carry a flip phone. “…I am an alien because I carry a flip phone…” So let me tell you why I choose to live this way. I have several reasons but primarily, I do not own these items because I feel that it is ludicrous to spend thousands of dollars per year on a toy. Yes, I know you can check your email… so what? Mostly, that’s just an excuse to ignore the person/colleague to whom you are… [Read more]

Jun 22
Having Money and Fame Doesn't Make You Donald Draper

Editor’s Note: I use very strong language in this post so care bears beware. There seems to be this attitude from people on the outside that the woman you cheat on your wife with had better look a lot better than your wife does. We take for granted the situation with which you meet and eventually begin sleeping with these women and instead imagine the world that Hollywood gives us in terms of “the jump-off”. Consider Tony Soprano, a husky mob boss on HBO’s The Sopranos who leaves the thick goodness that is his wife Carmella (played by Edie Falco) to go play in some of the most beautiful Italian and Russian women’s bedrooms. Tony pursues these women because he doesn’t respect his wife and family, he is a predatory person in all aspects of his life so marriage vows are a joke – he… [Read more]

Jun 21
Attached at The Hip but Detached From Friends

If you and your lover are always together, sharing friends, sharing hobbies, living, eating, breathing together every second of the day, you may start to find that your “still single” friends are not as friendly as they were back when you were in the salt mines together. What you may not realize is that you have informally lost your name in lieu of some combination thing that you are being referred as behind your back. You are no longer Bill and Jennifer, you’re Bennifer, no longer Sean and Elizabeth, you’re Shelizabeth. you have put this crown unto your head by making the mistake of being with your lady/man ALL THE TIME. Let Me Explain… I have 2 sets of happily married friends, one guy will come out with us solo and then return home when the night is over. We see his wife on events… [Read more]