Jun 29
men fighting over a woman

There are only a few times when fighting over a woman can be justified. The reason why I say this is because fighting over a woman is the ultimate sign of a man losing control of himself. Fighting for a woman is the fantastic clash of love stories, historical fiction and fantasy. The werewolf boy beefing with the vampire kid for their human girl. It’s everywhere you look but in real life it is seen as some real lame activity. This isn’t to say that some women aren’t worth fighting for but you should consider why you need to fight for her in the first place. The video below features Ne-yo and Kanye West warring over an oh so delicious looking Keri Hilson. Granted any man with a pulse could see the validity of Miss Keri as a beautiful war prize, it still wouldn’t be… [Read more]

Jun 28
crazy second date

It’s interesting how things get misinterpreted in the dating game due to lack of communication between the sexes. One of the biggest examples of this is when a guy stops calling after what seems to the woman to have been the perfect 2nd date. She’s confused, he moves on and she tells all her friends about it. So what really happens after that 2nd date to make a guy vanish from what a woman could read as an obvious love connection? Ask a woman and she will say one of many things that are nowhere near accurate. Having dropped a few numbers myself in the past, and speaking with men out there dating today – I will present you with the real reasons why you never got a call back from that guy: Darren S. Single, IT Professional who dates to find his future wife…. [Read more]

Jun 27
packing up to leave

It would surprise you but a false state of entitlement is the cause for many types of fallout between men and women in relationships. Speaking with a young lady last night we got on the topic of this very thing after watching a movie where a man left his long term girlfriend and mother of 2 to link up with a beautiful young woman who he quickly married… his name was not Tiki Barber by the way. The lady’s annoyance with the man’s choice in doing this was evident and we began a long conversation on relationships and entitlement. Is Marriage a reward for good behavior? Most people believe that time served should be rewarded with a state of permanence. This belief extends beyond relationships into the work force where the word tenure can be used to apply to people who stick it out for… [Read more]

Jun 26
gold digger korean movie

Here’s my take on this, my dear “Sugar Babies” of the world; if you are willingly giving up sex and time to a man for his money then you are a prostitute. Sorry, it’s too thin a line for me not to get confused over here. I know that when people think of prostitutes they immediately imagine a chick in 6-inch stilettos, a bad wig, smeared on make-up, and no front teeth, walking the street and looking into cars to solicit sex – but if we break down the definition of prostitute then guess what? There is a new craze taking over Universities and the popular waves of the internet and it is called Sugar Daddy Services. For those of you who aren’t in the know – this is a dating service online that pairs up old rich bastards with sexy, young college students who… [Read more]

Jun 22

What could be more funny than a medieval blacksmith taking a mom away on a fantasy of a hot kiln and a skillet full of Velveeta’s Cheesy Skillets? If you haven’t seen these ads then I am proud to present 2 of my favorites to you… Did you see the 3rd pair of hands? Muhahahaha… The smith doesn’t discriminate apparently, ANY mom can be taught how to make a delicious cheesy dish! To me this was the funniest due to the actress who looked genuinely shocked the entire time. I want to nominate The Blacksmith as Man of The Year!

Jun 21
sad black woman

I was talking to my best friend the other day, and we came upon the subject of love and whether or not true, all-consuming-can’t-live-without-each-other, love really exists. We unanimously decided that the answer is no. As women, we are sold the fairy tale of a one true love. A man who will travel the world to get you back after he screws up. A man who will break up a wedding in order to have the woman he really truly can’t be without. He will profess his love for her to the public and make an ass of himself just to prove to her he’s willing to do anything to have her. This fantasy of so-called “true” love is the death of happiness for women, as it is unreachable and does not exist. Real relationships are based on love (not being in love), trust, understanding… [Read more]

Jun 20
cleaning the kitchen

Are you a slob? Well if you answered “yes” then you have made the first crucial step in fixing it; you have accepted what you are and want to do something about it. Part of the reason people are messy or hoarders is due to the fact that we keep things around too long even beyond their expiration date. In the past I offered up tips to keeping your place clean but based on the feedback I received it may have been a tad too hardcore. Today I offer you 4 steps that will make even the biggest slob a neat freak in the eyes of his/her friendship base: Step 1 – Minimalize Your Belongings If you haven’t used something in 6 months to a year then chances are you don’t need it at all. This is what I love about my monthly minimalist ritual;… [Read more]

Jun 19
couple in bed bored

Years ago whenever I would hear my son declare “ I am bored!” I would cringe. They would even critique certain events, movies etc.  as “B-O-R-I-N-G” and I knew that was a definite thumb’s down. Right on cue I can remember my mothers favorite mantra,“The devil finds work for idle hands to do!”” Huuuuuuh! So with all these memories swirling in my mind, the year I took my two sons and two of their friends to Jamaica for a week’s vacation, I was hell bent on keeping four pairs of hands and feet so busy having fun, I would never hear the dreaded words, “I am bored!” and I did! Sadly, this malady is not limited to teenagers. So many of us as adults are bitten with the bored bug and its symptoms spill over into us being bored with life, bored with the job,… [Read more]