We often hear the many ways that men mess up their chances with women, or turn women off with merely a few words out of their mouth.  It can be the difference between having a great time with someone, and having a boring time with the same person.  We are going to present four ways a woman can turn a man off, as this topic does not seem be covered all that much these days.  It is important to remember it does not take much to turn someone off, and if you follow these general guidelines it can help you keep a man’s interest in you.

1) Act Like A Flake

One of the most common things I hear men complain about when dealing with women, they either can’t commit to plans or constantly flakes on them.  If you regularly pencil in your plans with a “maybe” and/or cancel plans at the last minute, you’re giving the man an impression that he’s tentative in your life, aka “good enough for now.”  Who wants to date someone who makes them feel temporary?  Chances are you don’t, and you shouldn’t be the girl who makes her date feel that way either.

Editor’s Note: Many women equate their flakiness to “being a player” or pimping a guy. Here’s the game ladies you aren’t playing anyone but yourself, any real cat will walk on a woman who continually stands him up or break plans at last minute.

2) Display Poor Communication Skills

This happens all the time your date/boyfriend commented or did something you did not like, instead of saying anything, you just kept quiet.  At some point down the road, you got upset about it.  Maybe you even blew up at an inappropriate time, causing an argument that completely took your significant other off guard.  Most people are guilty of passive aggressive behavior at least once in their dating past.  It happens.  But when you repeat that kind of behavior over and over in any dating/relationship scenario, the only thing you’ll succeed at is sabotaging your efforts.  Just as you deserve to be with someone who’s comfortable communicating his wants, needs, and desires, you, too, should be a healthy communicator.  Don’t say one thing if you really mean another, get in the habit of saying what is on your mind.

3) Try Your Damnedest to Change Him

It seems to be quite common how often in the media we see, hear, or read about a woman who tries to change a man.  Whether it’s changing how he dresses, what he watches on TV, his manners, or his friends, the woman at the helm of all this change always comes off as a control freak.  Do not let yourself become that woman.  Just as the guy in your life should accept you and all of your flaws, you should accept him for who he is.  You should not be dating him if you are unable to even do that.  The whole point of being single and dating is to meet a variety of different people, find out who you are as well as who your perfect partner might be.  At some point you will settle down with someone who’s right for you.  Rather than trying to change the wrong guy into Mr. Right, why not keep playing the field until you meet that special someone who’s far from perfect but whose imperfections you have no desire to change?

4) Don’t Play Fair

From your initial encounter to your first date and beyond, guys pay attention to whether or not you’re playing fair.  If, for example, you always expect the guy to come to your side of town, pick you up, open your door, pay the check, drop you off, call you the next day, and in general placate your every need without you so much as lifting a finger, you’re not dating fairly.  More important, if there’s a disagreement and you don’t fight fairly, i.e., you throw things in his face, hold grudges, and insist on winning every argument, you’re going to be a very lonely single girl because you’re not being fair.  In the new millennium, chivalry goes both ways and the dating game requires plenty of give-and-take.  If you can be fair in dating times both good and bad, guys will dig you so much more!

5) Give Ultimatums

Nothing turns a man off more than a woman who gives him an ultimatum, this is probably the gripe men complain about the most.  Not only are ultimatums not sexy, they just do not work.  Healthy and happy relationships do not need some made up deadline.  When you are regularly communicating your needs to the person you are in a relationship with, ultimatums are generally not needed.  When communication breaks down, one person feels his or her needs are not being met.  When the relationship is not going in the direction one had hoped or at the speed one had anticipated, then ultimatums are usually issued.  A huge turn-off, ultimatums are a tricky relationship tactic and should be avoided at all costs.

That’s it ladies, do any number of these things and watch your man slip away emotionally and eventually physically

Written by The Marksman on Monday, July 26, 2010 

Filed under Relationships
Tagged with chivalry, comfort, game, guilt

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The Marksman writes about dating, relationships, love, and the methodology of men and women. For more of his articles, you should visit TheShootingRange.net.

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