Being confident and sexy for women is something that some men are blessed with naturally and others have to work at it. Often times magazines and blogs offer guides as to things that should be done in order to attract women but is this general outlook on the fairer sex even realistic? Women are as different as men are so one woman’s attraction is another woman’s turn-off, for this reason following a how-to guide will yield about the same results you had before reading it. Many men lack a good presence to them when they move around throughout society, the guys with swag stand out. In order to be “chosen” one must standout, be apart, be your own sense of cool. Please re-read that last sentence, you must have YOUR OWN sense of cool.

When you go emulating Joe Hollywood or your wolf buddy Samuel , you present a transparent façade to the world and no-one will take you seriously. When you can leave the house, walking, talking and acting as if the skin that you are in is the most beautiful and comfortable out there, people will take notice immediately.

Developing your comfort zone and fashion

This one can be tricky based on your natural talent for dress. If you suck at coordinating and don’t give two craps about what you wear, then I would recommend you enlist some female help. Some guys step their dress game up after having a girlfriend who made it a habit to upgrade his fashion. They split up and she moves on, leaving him lonely but fortunate to have a sense of style and a closet complement. If you already have this part covered and you have your own style then keep it up and don’t worry about it. Just remember, you attract what you attract. If you are a prep who dresses like a douchebag jock and are out looking for women that want preps, guess what?

What Defines Swagger

Our last three presidents here in the United States of America each carried a man’s worth of swagger in their demeanor. Bill Clinton came off as an approachable, fun type of guy, you could feel it in his walk, his talk and in his memorable smile. George W. had it in his mannerisms, his walk and in his sarcastic grin, President Obama looks and acts as smooth as silk. These three men exemplify swagger, Denzel Washington has swagger, Johnny Depp, Leonardo DiCaprio, the lis goes on. It is a demeanor thing, it is how they are seen by outsiders, it is a confident look of comfort in their stride and how they carry themselves day to day. Larry King has it, yup old Larry King has it, do you have it? If you don’t then you need to get it fast because swagger pulls women faster than you would believe.

“Check out my swag’ yo I walk like a ballplayer / no matter where you go you are who you are player” - Jay-Z

How do I get my Swag Black Dragon

There is one tricky thing about writing an article like this, it is not an easy thing to teach. Most people have their own sense of confidence and their own style, some unfortunately lack it all. If you lack any of this and feel you are the most awkward, uncomfortable person in the world, then it will be necessary to find one or two models to emulate that share the same likes/dislikes as you. These models can be fictional (movie characters) or real (your best friend who does well with women). It will be up to you to look at these models and find what it is that they are doing, dressing and saying that makes them smooth.

It is not a nerd thing, so don’t let your mind drift to that archaic reasoning of “cool”. It is a confidence thing and for that I can show you the nerdiest of nerds who have as much swagger as the dumbest of jocks. It is not about your likes, it is about your comfort within yourself. Follow your model’s lead and make his walk your own, study the way he talks to women, does he talk too much or does he keep it short and sweet. Go full doppelganger on him for as long as you need until his methodology cannot be separated from your own, then dump the model and walk out on your own. Soon enough your copying of this model will become your own style as you incorporate more of you into it as the days go past.

How do I know when I have it?

Simple… people will tell you. It doesn’t take much for a woman to remark that there is something special about you. Haters will say things like “why do you walk like that?” or something along those lines, you may even be called “cocky”. Just keep it together, make it your own and keep your ears open. Swagger is permanent once you attain it, so it’s a worthwhile thing to strive for.

So what about you, you’ve read this (and I thank you), do you have that slide in your glide and that dip in your hip? Do you think my methodology will help those who don’t?

Written by Greg Dragon on Tuesday, August 10, 2010 

Filed under The Code of Man, The Dating Game
Tagged with charisma, confidence, douchebag, haters, hollywood, media, nerd, sexy, swagger