There seems to be this ongoing concern amongst women of our time that the standard of giving up sex within a 3-week period is making it hard to hold us men to a relationship. This can be very true on the surface but the thing you must understand is that sex is an activity to men, it isn’t emotional, special or complicated. For us men, sex is something you do to feel macho, sexy and on top of the world. It is a drug of choice with the only side-effects being STDs and children. This does not mean you can no longer hook us with sex, it just means that having us wait is an old and tired method that will have you wondering why your calls aren’t being returned. Being that as it may, if you want to hook a guy, you have to think outside the “box”.

Although it may seem otherwise, most of us guys aren’t jerks. Most guys you run into are happy to be getting some tail, much less trying to get as much as possible. Younger guys (18-26) will be trying to sew their oats randomly a lot more than the older, experienced men. If you are a cougar-type who has found herself in bed with a young buck, the likelihood of him playing house with you after the fact is next to nil. I give the same advice to older women about younglings that I do for my fellow men, play with them but don’t go fooling yourself into assuming it’s long term. That being said, when you do find someone who seems serious about a relationship and you get past the sex barrier after some time, you better hope there is something worth sticking around for outside of what you were born with between your legs.

Locked Up Behind Her Sugar Walls

Some women have something special down there that can even have a wolf second guessing himself. Her mountain of Venus comes with sparkling waterfalls, rainbows and fairies. Her passion is intense and unforgettable, it is so good that men want to lose their minds and toss aside the protection. It is so good that no STD, no baby mama drama and no amount of anything can put logic in his head ahead of that feeling. The legendary sugar walls will let a man marry, give up half his estate and defend the most wicked women in the world. It is just that good. The only guys that can defend themselves against this type of woman are those who have had enough sex, porno and experience to know exactly what it is. A guy who can handle it will accept it, destroy it and file it away as a good memory and nothing else. Mount Venus can hold many a man captive but some of us are invincible to her wiles. If you are a woman who hones this type of prowess (and those who have it KNOW they have it) then the rest of this article will do you no good. Women with this blessing normally have a rolodex of victims calling and begging to get back with her.

The Representative

Unless we’re scamming for ass, most men go into things with a woman open-minded and assume that things will work out. Leading up to the sex, the courtship is nervous and probing, his aim is to “break the ice” leading to your secret garden in hopes that it will be glorious and he can finally reveal himself. Once the ice is broken and we sit in bed thinking about what just happened, we make a conscious decision on where things will lead after. If the sex was amazing then the guy will more than likely go for a morning encore. If it was okay and the woman has been a bear to deal with, the guy will either excuse himself politely or slip out quietly and call it a day. If the woman is cool, and in cool I mean tolerable, cute, someone you wouldn’t mind being with or special in a great way, then it is the beginning of what could be a great relationship. This is why it takes more than just the sex to stick a guy once you have decided to take it to the bedroom with him. During that awkward period of courtship before the sex, we are sizing you up and analyzing your every action. We want to know whether you are a keeper or someone we tolerate up until the sex.

We already know whether to keep you

Barring you having something really horrible down there or the sex was dreadful due to you being an “ouch ouch” girl or a prude, most guys know whether you are worth a relationship or not. The way how we think is a math equation with the sex being the denominating line that separates the sum from the total. Once the line is crossed we then reveal where you stand within our world.

Remember the paragraph on women with the sugar walls? That is the only woman who trumps my theory on the “knowing whether we will stick around or not”. So keep this in mind within the dating spectrum, whatever you bring to the table will decide your fate after the sex. Please do not take what I say here as the end-all rule to men and our patterns, but take it as a pathology that many of us do. One friend told me he used to categorize women he met based on whether he only wanted sex or if he wanted to be in a relationship. No man will turn down sex, but its what happens afterwards that matters in the long run.

Written by Greg Dragon on Tuesday, August 24, 2010 

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Tagged with bar, cougar, courtship, ego, representative, scamming, sex, sugar walls