Many of us have been caught up with an attractive woman who would not let us “seal the deal”. She does just enough to keep you around but when you proceed farther, she shoots you down or limps away quickly. The term for this is normally called Dick in the Glass Jar Syndrome because in essence you are being trained to become an extra dick in case the one she wants does not work out. Everyone hates to be lonely and the people who suffer most from this fear are people who have been in relationships for a long time. Some people avoid it by being serial daters or serial girlfriends, you never see them alone, yet they are never with someone for a good amount of time. Now I know guys will get defensive and macho then lie that they will dodge the syndrome if they see it coming. But let’s be honest about the whole thing, many of you will deal.

The Mainstay
Many times guys will hang out with a female in hopes that they will get a chance to be with her. It’s a pretty pathetic thing to do and women know it well and take full advantage of it. In the early phases of The Syndrome, you will be one amongst many (girls tend to keep a few dicks in the glass jar), you will be her “friend” and will be introduced as such. You may be invited to special occasions to celebrate with her, you will go out on dates, dancing and the like and you may even kiss. You will assume the role of a girlfriend minus the lack of not wanting to jump her if she gave you a chance. At this point you are solidly lost and will be deemed expendable if you catch a tantrum about it and give her an ultimatum.

This brings me to the graduated form of The Syndrome which my buddy Marcus calls The Mainstay. The Mainstay is a guy who has all the qualities of the kind of guy this chick would marry but he is too perfect. There is no thug or scoundrel in him so she feels he may bore her but she needs him around for when the scoundrel treats her like shit. The bonus to being in this position is that even when you catch a tantrum she will make up with you and do whatever is necessary to get you back in the jar. The Mainstay, if he is foolish enough to continue the charade for years, could possibly end up marrying her. I know, it’s sad, it really is. The Mainstay will suffer the most heinous attempts at control that the woman can muster to keep him around. If she feels that he is that much into her she will even risk having sex with him in order to keep the control. She will tell him she loves him, she will nibble on his earlobe, she may even buy him dinner and other subtle favors.

If you have found yourself this far in, it is possible to flip the game on her and gain your balls back triumphantly. You will need to step outside of your blind chase of this devil woman and look at the opportunities that present themselves. Normally beautiful women hang with other beautiful women and you aren’t dating this chick so take full advantage of it. The girls have talked about you, you are already seen in a positive light and the ice has been broken. They probably ask her all the time, “hey what’s up with you and him?” They need a man and here is their friend hording you away in her glass jar while she screws around with a scrub.  Jump on the opportunity and kick it with one of them, especially if you all are out clubbing. Corner one by the bar and see what’s really going on. Even if you aren’t feeling her you need her to help break you away from this witch’s spell. And of course the witch is going to hate on her girl to you, so be prepared. She will tell you that she is bad, she’s a whore, she sleeps with every guy and yadda, yadda, yadda. The things she will accuse your new interest of doing is probably a lot more than she has ever done while running her game on you. So stick to your guns and get out of the situation, but don’t go home alone, go home with her friend!

Three  Steps to Getting Out of The Glass Jar (by The Marksman):

1. Don’t be so available if she calls and wants to do something. Tell her “I already have a date tonight, I will call you later” and hang up.
2. Don’t share every detail of your social life with her, all this does is gives her updates on what you are doing. As long as you aren’t meeting any women or she knows you don’t particularly like anyone, then she knows there is not a threat to her status.
3. The hardest thing is to reject the affection, (I know it feels good) but you need to hug her like a friend and not allow all the kissing and groping to go on.  If she wonders “what’s wrong” tell her that you are too much of a man to disrespect her like that when you know she is involved with someone else.  That will throw her for a loop. Just watch the expression on her face and how she recovers to start telling you how great you are.

The point is to get out of the jar and obeying the Marksman Method should see you through.

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Written by Greg Dragon on Wednesday, July 22, 2009 
Filed under The Code of Man, The Dating Game, Women · Tagged with Disrespect, girlfriend, glass jar, Relationships, serial daters