Jul 03
You’re probably wondering why I am taking the time out of my busy life to write this crap but you’re welcome. I do it because maybe one of you confused guys who was never schooled on life will realize that the crap you are dealing with is not cool. If she is slighting you, let her know or cut that bird off… women outnumber us 3-1 in the world so there’s 2 more like her out there, waiting to treat you right. Gain some self respect (they will try to fool you by calling this cockiness or arrogance) but it’s self respect, if you don’t budge she will have to choose and most often than non she will play ball. Self respect guys, self respect… I don’t care how fine a girl is, when you hit 30+ you should know that beauty only goes so far… if she’s fine and disrespectful then you are a bish for being with her, that’s it.
Wearing her ex’s jewelry
If your girl has a nice ring or necklace that glitters ever so brightly and she never takes it off you may want to get some history out of her. Girls are quick to get pissed when we keep a trinket but all the while wearing an engagement ring or otherwise to hold unto the guy who cheated on her and dumped her before your rebounded ass. How can you respect yourself, you making love to your girl and some dudes name is tattooed on her back… she holds your hand in line affectionately with some man’s ring on her finger. Check yourself, check her and look into it. It happens a lot, girls got jokes.
The hang-arounder
Lol me and my man Conan laugh about this guy… you know this guy, he hangs out with your girl’s parents. She gives you vague explanations as to who he is exactly but he gives you odd looks when you see him. Sometimes you go out to a movie and he comes along, because he is her friend… it happens alot. Check her ass dude… that guy right there, he will marry her and you are a dumbass. The hang-arounder is usually a childhood boyfriend, he doesnt have anything else going on but he’s patient. When you piss your girl off he’s in those panties. When you are trying to be a big pimp and flirt with other girls, he’s in those panties. When you finally break up with her, guess what? He’s in those panties. Mark my words, this guy is worst than the d-ck in a glass jar dudes, he knows the game and he thinks your girl is worth the wait.
Going through your cell phone
Lol ok where do I start… how far along in a relationship have you shown so much weakness that she thinks this is cool. One way to avoid it, check her hard the first time it happens. Second time you catch her, cut her off, it’s not cool. Do not go through my email, and leave the cell phone alone. If you think i’m doing dirt, have the balls to confront me, stop trying to be Olivia Benson.
Flirting with a guy on AIM, Yahoo or an MMORPG
If she’s at this point your done. Seriously, wrap it up dude. If you are married to her and she’s doing this something is very wrong bro. That guy is a plane ticket away from boning your girl. Keep thinking it’s innocent… heh I have stories, but it will be in a book i’m writing so I can’t give up the game here so freely. I am being dead serious, if she is doing it, she will f— that guy. You need to cancel that ticket.
Make you spend Vacation time to see her when she really has a dude in her life
Wtf… seriously… are you serious here? Is it rocket science that if a man is giving you his time, so much so that he takes a vacation to see you… that he is your girlfriend? Come on ladies do not play with my intelligence here, you know wtf it is, you just like your d-ck in the glass jar to know where he stands right? Lol, okay it happened to me once, I drove home 300+ miles the same night. The royal ass had to be kissed clean before I even talked to her again… disrespect me like that.
Keeping you on the sidelines (d-ck in the glass jar syndrome)
Okay there are only a few situations where us guys have girls as friends. Bear with me because this is a huge item that women have a hard time grasping. Here it is in black and white. IF A DUDE APPROACHES YOU IN ANYWAY OUTSIDE OF WORK, SCHOOL OR FAMILY HE WANTS YOU. Okay let me explain now. Alot of guys get into the friend zone and are unhappy there. They are there because the game was weak, the girl feigned marginal interest and now the sucker hangs around hoping one day he will get some pity booty out of the deal. Lol okay… fellas, don’t do it man. I have seen it a million times, the friend comes over (and she’s female) and she gives me the time of day because she likes me… and then you are mad at me because you have paper handcuffs on her. Don’t play yourself, you will get pity booty in times of loss and rebound situations… if its worth it to you to be this woman’s male girlfriend, go right ahead.
The official times that a girl is a friend is if you worked with her and kept contact, went to school with her, you played an online game with her and kept contact, she is your buddy’s wife or girlfriend, or you grew up with her. Guys don’t seek out women for friendship, we aren’t built that way. If you met a guy and dated him and now you are friends, you are both full of it, stop lying to yourself. So stop getting mad when someone else gets with her… she doesn’t want you!
Strippers don’t love you
I thought this would be common knowledge but maybe I am just a bit more rational about this. The girls in there are entertaining you… it’s like thinking a bartender is cute and that she likes you just because she knows how to work a flirt for tips. Come on fellas, you have to do better than this. Now i’m not saying this is 100%, i’m sure there’s some Captain Save-a-Ho’s out there who managed to rescue Julia Roberts from “The Life” but I doubt it was anything less than him looking good, having some nose candy for her habit and a whole mouth full of game to snap her up into his web of tricks. Speaking of tricks… you know what you’re doing right? I mean, she squeezed a few hundred out of you and now you think she loves you… wtf dude. If you think i’m wrong, keep going. You are buying some dude’s X-Box and paying his car payment by tricking for his girlfriend weekly… thinking she wants you. Tighten up guys.
Okay i’m tired, so this concludes volume 1. Study your man bible and grow your self-respect fellas. If you are insecure or weak… I can’t help you, hell you’re hopeless and you will lose her anyway… a weak man isn’t sexy, once she sucks you dry she will drop you like a bad habit in lieu of a dude who probably follows the code. .. not necessarily one of these grown men acting like teenage thugs, but a man who is really a man. Go watch a Humphrey Bogart movie and get your manhood back. Thanks for reading.
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on July 5, 2008 - 12:08 pm
lol so true, women are shady, but not all women.
on July 5, 2008 - 1:33 pm
Dude, your wisdom is appreciated! With this knowledge, hopefully most of the guys out here will avoid the disrespectful/foul dame! lol Big ups!
on July 7, 2008 - 7:20 pm
A book huh… ok… just one thing.. you better let me read that thing before its published lol cause now im worried lol
on July 7, 2008 - 9:55 pm
Hah yeah we’ve discussed some of these situations as they’ve happened. It’s funny, you start switching from “friend” mode to “self-respect” mode, they suddenly don’t want to see you or they snap in line. Either way, it’s a win.
on April 26, 2010 - 4:33 pm
What is on the cell phone that you have to hide? If she goes through your phone why break it off? Its like seeing who called on the caller ID or what came in the mail. Who the hell hides that crap? Only someone who has something to hide.
If you are in a relationship then you should be an open book. And so should she. My cell phone is never locked. If the bf wants to see in it then he has every right to go for it and I don’t care. Just like if he gets the mail.
On the other hand, he thinks it is his privacy to lock his phone. Then I found out he was texting his ex about us, orgasms and other shit and getting porno pics from friends. I am about to leave him because he won’t leave the stupid secrets behind.
on April 26, 2010 - 4:34 pm
Oh, and I did ask before I snooped and he lied through his teeth!
on April 27, 2010 - 10:38 am
Alina my dear, your man sounds like a true loser if he is giving an ex play-by-play of your relationship. You deserve better, we here at the Hall do not back up that type of activity from a man. It sounds like he needs a lesson in “The Code of Man”.
on April 27, 2010 - 11:04 am
Contrary to what you might think EVERYONE has something to hide, people have things in their lives they do not want everyone to know. You break it off if she goes through your cell phone because that shows there is no trust in the relationship, which is one of the foundations it should be built on. It also shows a woman does not have enough confidence in herself to not care about such trivial high school things, we are all adults and gong through cell phones, counting condoms, and listening to peoples voice messages are all childish things. Where will it end, you want a copy of his bank statements and documentation of what he ate at a restaurant without you to make sure he was alone?
Just because your cell phone is an open book that is your choice, there are things I talk to my friends about that I do not want my girlfriend privy to. But in your case it sounds like you were with the wrong man and ignored the warning signs that I am sure were there. Also he played you, the reason he let you look at the phone is so you can dump him and he won’t feel like an ass for dumping you. It’s a classic trick that people do, so the person can feel good about themselves rather than getting dumped. Also every guy looks at porn, if he wasn’t that would be the strange thing lol.
What tells me the most about this is simple, you said that you are “About” to leave him. If you are so adamant on your point why isn’t he dumped all ready? You need to be with a person who you do not have to worry about those things with, if you feel like something is going on where you need to investigate the persons personal belongings then find someone else.
on June 24, 2010 - 11:21 am
Dude, everything you say is on point. We all been through getting disrespected by a woman. They feel its there right to do this stuff. Your article is so powerful that I have linked it to my site.
on June 26, 2010 - 2:42 pm
There one thing i don’t tolerate when dating a women. If woman tells you she keeps in touch with her former boyfriends, you are in trouble dude. This chick is removed from reality and get rid of her quickly. Heck I dump chick like this the first time she mentions it.
on June 26, 2010 - 2:46 pm
Another thing — men and women can’t be friends! When a women sings the word “FRIEND” it means you stand no chance with me. A women that is interested or wants you romantically never uses this word.
on July 14, 2010 - 4:20 pm
L o L I had one for 20 years took her to dinner always i made good money the last two years i have been unemployed her paycheck always went in the bank in the last two years she hasn’t taken me to dinner once. I sent her down the road
on October 11, 2010 - 7:38 pm
Since I’m not a guy, I dont know what it’s like to deal with dating women. However, I can tell you that dating men is no walk in the park. I know you’re just posting this to vent, but I have to vent too- i just find it insane when I come across men that actually think they’re the ones that have a harder time of it. So here’s your list.
There are men that:
1-lie and make false promises
2- expect women to cater to them
3-criticize women that are not attractive
4-criticize their own girlfriends for not being attractive, gaining weight, or not being up to their idealistic standards
5-act angry and aggressive when politely rejected by a woman
6-act entitled to women in general
7-act superior about their intelligence (there are a lot of men out there that really believe themselves to be superior to women, I’m not making this up)
8-refuse to listen to women’s opinions or give them any consideration
9-take credit for the work or opinions of women when convenient
10-push their girlfriends/wives to do sexual acts they see in porn
11-look down on a woman’s feelings as “illogical” or “crazy”, while at the same time refusing to take any responsibility for being rash, tempermental, and ironically, illogical and crazy.
and this isn’t doesn’t even begin to cover the truly evil things that men do to women, including
1-verbal abuse
2-consistent disrespect
3-abandoning women with children and/or refusing to pay child support
5-physical abuse
5-rape
6-abuse of young women or small children
7-more psychopathic forms of abuse
Thankfully I have not had experience with every item on this list, but I have unfortunately had experience with quite a few of them. And to those of you that say this is an “extreme list” and most guys are not like that – actually, a lot of guys are like that. approximately half of the women I know have been hit or abused at some point in time. And then the other half of the time – we just have to deal with the more minor crap that we all have to deal with.
on March 6, 2011 - 6:21 pm
the men and women can’t be friends is a complete bullshit. i’ve seen too many examples of men and women as friends to know better. what is true is that it isn’t common but sure as the sky is blue, these friendships exists. a better point to make is that if there is a dude who looks like a threat, then a man has every right to scope it out to see if it is a threat and then talk with his lady about it. don’t be insecure cause that’s a quick way to lock yourself out of your ladies panties for good.
and the cell checking? my ex lied to me once after i suspected something and asked him about it i checked his cell and i was on point.
on July 3, 2011 - 4:23 pm
A woman will only disrespect you if you allow her to, because you are weak and needy she can use you to wipe her ass. The moment u start radiating fear of losing ‘a pretty face’ and start asking her approval and giving her control u are fvcked! She’ll svck another dick, bleed u dry and leave you when you find out. Ask her : where u got yo bling?, oodafux dat skeezy guy (on the interwebs)? If your in the dickjar, touch her more fire her up with words and powerdrill dat azz.
Get yourself together little poofter, think like a shark, theres plenty fish in the sea.
Turn off your TV.. those fags are scamming you cause they fear real men.
on November 16, 2011 - 5:04 am
Fabulous! you are the man. And that’s how we should treat women. Although, I just started with my girl recently made mistakes but after reading a couple of things, now starting to think like that. Although, these things were natural in me but still needed some reassurance and I was confused. if it is right or not but now I know we need to save women from themselves and treat them and ourselves right.
on July 3, 2011 - 4:28 pm
i want to add to my reply that a real man pays close attention to aaaa’s list of things NOT to do.
(comment 13)
on July 25, 2011 - 7:56 am
Each person is 100% responsible for whatever happens in any relationship. If someone is consistently disrespecting you, won’t make an attempt at self-awareness or listen to your feelings (man or woman), and you stay, YOU are responsible for making that choice.
My ex-husband of 20 years, and I have a great relationship. We don’t hang out all the time but we stay in contact. I also wear my wedding band around my neck because I respect that marriage and it is a reminder of my part in ending that relationship. SELF-AWARENESS. I was not all perfect and my ex was not the only “bad-guy”.
My boyfriend was told from the beginning that my relationship with my ex will not cease because of this new relationship, and they have both found a way to accept each others presence in my life.
The problem I’m experiencing with my boyfriend is that he has an issue with respecting women in general. He can be condescending, but I don’t put up with it and he is learning to listen and will have to change his view if he wants to be with this woman. He shows disrespect for his female bosses, his ex-wife and his daughter. Whenever he does that, it shows me what he thinks of his mother. Luckily, I see he is capable of self-awareness. It just takes time.
All human beings deserve a basic respect as a place to start. That should not have to be earned.
On being an open book in a relationship… Any relationship “expert” will tell you that the first thing a couple should do when they decide to be in a committed relationship is to exchange passwords to emails, phones, and social networks. What an awesome offering to show commitment! If you want to stay together, be open. If you want your relationship to eventually come to an end, be secretive.
When my best friend tells me a secret, the first person I tell is my partner. I keep nothing from him. HE is my true best friend. I see anyone who asks me to keep a secret from my committed partner as disrespecting my relationship.
The average person isn’t evil. They’re just insecure.