Nov 28

Before I start let me say this: Women, you will not find this easy to wrap your head around because like it or not men see sex a lot differently from women. While there are some women who defy this generalization, most men have absolutely no qualms with having no-strings attached sex.

What this means is that there is a difference in friend-zone for a man and a woman dealing with someone that they tried dating before. When a man fails to impress a woman enough to sleep with her and become her man, she will slap him firmly into the friend-zone where he has access to talking to her but little else. Most men absolutely hate this crap and it takes some time and observation before he realizes that he is in it.

For women however if she dates a guy that she’s into and she lets him have sex with her and she loves it, he may not like her as his girlfriend so he will string her along for the sex. Like the man in the friend-zone this woman will be clueless (most times) and will only figure it out with deep thought and perhaps the realization that the guy has found a woman to call his own and that he is only calling her for periodic sex.

Consider this common occurrence:

You’ve dated a guy a few times and he got in your panties about the 3rd date or so. Afterwards you ask him about your status and he gives you the “I’m not ready for a relationship” spiel and it pissed you off but a few failed attempts to move on later you call him up and you guys go out and he sleeps with you again. You think that with time and the opportunity for him to see how great a gal you are, he will come around and make you his. It never happens and it probably never will.

Just like a man in the friend zone there are many tell-tale signs that you ignore because your ego will not let you come to terms that you are merely convenient for this individual.

Here are things that a man won’t do for you if you’re in the friend-zone:

  1. Listen to you on the phone go on and on about your day.
  2. Buy you gifts.
  3. Take you to special events that involve people he cares about (office party doesn’t count).
  4. Cuddle with you on the couch without going for the royal.

Like a man who is trapped in the friend-zone, it takes a certain amount of self-respect to move on with your life and get out of this user’s black book. Count your losses and move on because if a man values you, trust me, he will lock you up as quickly as possible to slow the chances of losing you to another male. This is real ladies; you have been duped into thinking that there are men out there playing the friend-zone like you do. Only a few men waste their time collecting a Rolodex of women’s numbers that they aren’t sleeping with.

This is how we do and if I just blew your mind let me know in the comments. Stop playing yourself and sitting in some guy’s friend-zone because I can guarantee it that there is another male who wants to wife you up being ignored because you’re too busy trying to make miracles happen.

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  • Zuz

    Thank you. I really needed this.

  • Mango

    but can you get out of it once you’re in it? i mean how to navigate according to the way a man’s mind works to remove thyself from that limiting space…

    • finally done

      This really sucks… thanks for the reality check.