Nov 08

The ultimate woman for any man is the mythical Ride-or-Die chick. The concept itself is one of selflessness that borders on insanity when you observe the women with whom this term was coined for. Originally a Ride-or-Die girl is the one who would hold your gun, hide the crack in her… crack and mule the cocaine overseas so that you both could be paid. The Ride-or-Die chick would get upset when you slept around but she would never leave, she would stick to Omerta and do 25 to Life in prison before allowing you to be taken by the authorities. She would have your babies, feed you and coddle you without the need for thanks because her love was unconditional. Yes there have been many women of this ideal and to outsiders it is a mentality that is seldom understood.

When Tupac sung about this mythical woman back in his days of influence, every hood chick dreamed of being that jewel in her man’s eyes. Many still do it and take drug charges, get knocked up and live with the STD’s that the hood in their life brings home. Ride-or-Die is the ultimate construct of unconditional love, it is what marriages on paper are meant to be but as statistics show – not the same. In certain cultures and religions where divorce is unheard of or lethal for the woman, being Ride-or-Die is forced. In our western culture especially within the bourgeoisie, it is unheard of. One cannot imagine the high-powered wife of the CEO in some Fortune 500 company taking the bullet for her husband when it comes time for a prison sentence. No it rarely happens and this is why it seems that the concept of Ride-or-Die is one of a low income, hood mentality.

The Professional Ride-or-Die Chick

There are many ways that a woman of a law-abiding citizen can be construed as Ride-or-Die, in reality many are but the term is never used for them. These women allow their men to leave high paying jobs to pursue their dreams without risk of leaving, they allow for mistresses to come and go without risk of leaving and they will cut the balls off of anyone who crosses their men. Thugs or Professionals all have the same woman with the same mentality when it comes to being Ride-or Die, the definition is “unconditional love”. It is the same love many of us have for our parents and siblings, you don’t disown them, you forgive them, love them, and defend them. They may be assholes but they are your assholes and you would rather put yourself in harm’s way than see anything happen to them. That is the Ride-or-Die mentality.

Women from TV/Movies that exemplify a Ride-or-Die Mentality are:

Padme/Amidala (Star Wars), Adriana (The Sopranos), and Mama Corleone (The Godfather),

Are there any benefits to being a Ride-or-Die chick?

A man knows when his woman has his back and loves him unconditionally. He may be a flawed, imperfect, scumbag but he loves her beyond any other woman that will ever be in his life. He loves her deeply because he knows that no matter how much the world is against him she will be there by his side. While he may not show it, it forces him to have a strong loyalty for her that goes beyond fidelity, it is a soul bond.

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  • RG

    You forgot about the chick from the first Conan movie..Ride or Die.

    • You ain’t never lied… that was a true Ride-or-Die lady right there. She fought demons from hell to keep her man and then took an arrow for him. Loved that movie, and you’re 100% right, she defines the term.

  • I see no benefits in being a Ride or Die chick.

    I like your blog a lot btw 🙂

  • Keysha

    I ride, but nowadays you need more then just you riding for a man.

  • mikki

    I feel that if a man really loves a woman, he would not put her in any risky situation. If you love someone you respect them. I hate this ghetto “ride/die” mentallity. It sounds good on blogs but imagine doing 10 years for your man. While your mna is out still doing illegal activites and sleeping with other women. What a blow to your face.

  • Truth

    You said nothing in this article.

  • Bianca Miller

    Id rather die than ride.. fuk that give me the simple life. Not all men are the same. There are men out there that want to ride and ride. No need for this die shit.. Man or woman up people… Get fuked outta here with this ride or die shit…

  • I double dare you to be a ride or die bloke…what a crock one-way street self-serving philosophy. Feet of sand of a little boy needing a yes girl.

    • Guest

      Preach! SMH!

  • lkofie

    Well I suppose “ride or die” is the “hood” term reflecting “for better or worse” for married couples. Only “ride or die” seems to go BEYOND “for better or worse” considering the woman don’t even have to be his wife to make such self-sacrificing, suicidal choices (STD’s, a practically a lifetime in jail, potentially losing her sanity) and then some like put up with the continuous infidelity if that’s his thing DESPITE putting HER LIFE on hold, as if her only job is to live (or die for that matter) for him.

  • knucklehead

    That is the meaning of unconditional love I love my man no matter what I may not like his choices sometimes and may not like him sometimes but I will stand by him and love him always and nobody better mess with him or it brings out something bad in me he has to calm me down lol. He may not be perfect but to me he is amazing

  • Guest

    So…….basically, “ride or die” is another term for foolish. Got it! Funny how this allegedly “unconditional” love is only prescribed to women. Yea, miss me with that. I will never wish this foolishness upon the women in my life.