Reading the articles and general attitudes of the single women in the Washington DC area it seems that the search for a good, successful, single man is done out of want for a status symbol as opposed to a loving mate. Ladies correct me if I am completely off base with this but what would you assume if a man was to write the following inquiry from a place where women are scarce:
“I have everything a woman could ask for around here; I have a new Benz, a plush apartment, all my teeth, a Doctorate, AND I’m about to make partner! Why are all the good girls around here acting as if they’re gold that I can’t afford?”
I’m going to go out on a limb and say that question would put you on the defensive even without me having to name the area, person, or situation.
The fact that it’s a male saying it about a subset of women, makes that male seem like a boring, unattractive, entitled, individual who probably has social issues that are keeping him single. Yet I have read quite a lot of articles from single women that echo very much the same feeling.
When a woman has everything in the world that most Americans strive for, why would she “need” a partner of similar or better positioning? I pick on the women with this article because studies have shown that on the flip side the successful men tend to aim the other way – gunning for beautiful, unambitious women to play a support role rather than a partner of equal standing.
Is a man really a necessity anymore to the successful she-bosses of the world? If you say that it’s for the family, then I have to ask again, why… are we the 3rd to last checkbox on the winning sheet for the game of life? The checkboxes being the trophy husband, the college-bound children, and then the funeral in a gold-laden casket.
Is it companionship?
I ask all of this because these articles are written by the women I like to think of as “cliff jumpers”. They’re freshly 30, have lived hardcore regimented lives that revolved around career and money, and are now at the point of “find a husband or else” in their minds. I can’t help but wonder if it’s more about appearances than actual want for a life-partner. Which one is it?
For women who write these articles about the men that they are owed for being so awesome at life, I wonder if the single, successful women of the world are a failure in their minds.
Many young women still live by The Cosby Show ideal of the super successful woman married to a super successful husband, living in a large, luxurious house with 4 beautiful kids who are college-bound, well-spoken and on the road to success themselves. Not a bad fantasy to draft a bucket list from but we aren’t owed that life… we are lucky to have that life.
So to the single, successful ladies of the Hall I ask: Is a man a necessity for a successful woman’s life, or are we just another impressive asset to feel like the world is yours? Speak your mind… please.See some words or phrases that you don't understand? Check out The Dragon's Lexicon.