Apr 14

While studies may suggest a link between selfie-taking and mental illness, my experience has been anything but detrimental to my mental health. I would hazard to guess that many people who experience PTSD find selfie-taking a healing, rather than damaging activity. When growing up, I was discouraged from looking in the mirror and, as a result, was not able to identify with myself in ways that most children took for granted. I did not have pictures of birthday parties or other happy moments to refer back to. These kinds of pictures were simply not available to me. As a result, I grew up lacking a key foundational element in my development… | Read the rest at Toilet Paper People |

Sep 09

I am often asked the question about what I would do if I won the lottery. Of course my answer is that I would give the large majority of it to The Toilet Paper People Foundation, a foundation created to serve child abuse victims in an attempt to give them new and creative futures outside of their abusive pasts. “Um, well once the damage is done to a kid, it’s kinda done isn’t it? Kids have plenty of opportunities that animals don’t.”Some well-intentioned people will ask me more questions of this nature until I have to wonder if it would have been more p.c. of me to have suggested I give the money to the Humane Society. In many cases question askers of this variety will go on in an attempt to discredit the already disenfranchised, “I mean, humans have more of an opportunity to… [Read more]

Jun 27

“Is it true? Can it be? How could she be DATING someone when she’s been so friendly with me on chat! NO! That BITCH! How could she!” Guys (more males than females in my estimation) get “friendly” wrong so often. Some (insert A LOT) of us females like the attention we get online and will waste ENORMOUS AMOUNTS OF TIME emailing with you, sending you photos of ourselves, chatting with you about what kind of coffee we prefer. You don’t like coffee, but you play along. What are the chances you are REALLY going to meet this chick? I mean c’mon! For those of you who think that flirting on Facebook is no different than online dating, you’re wrong. Facebook flirting is worse than online dating because people on Facebook aren’t on a dating site. They are on a social networking site SOCIALIZING. For the ladies out there… [Read more]

Jun 14

Yesterday, Greg Dragon wrote an article about silencing those of us who rant on social media by sharing their “thanks Mom for playing Dad” stories. As an advocate for child abuse survivors and non-conformists everywhere, I beg to disagree with his varying thoughts on this. He states that those who rant on Father’s day are bitter and want to mess up the holiday for everyone else and that the rants are merely haters who like to male bash. He does his best to dissuade those of us from alternative backgrounds by offering a thunderous round of applause for parents forced to assume both roles. I am left wondering where their national holiday is. I often wonder why child abuse survivors must hide their disdain for the parents who got it wrong and why they should be ridiculed for choosing to celebrate the one that got… [Read more]