Jun 24

Okay, I don’t normally issue warnings when I write would-be offensive material but I am issuing one right now. People for whatever reason love to associate themselves with others that are being called out, and I am more than sure you readers will do the same. If you are a complainer, or an “activist” in name only, that looks for things to be pissed about so that you can post, hashtag, or appropriate for the sole reason of playing the part of victim then you should be offended by what I am about to say. If you are a person who points out social injustice, offers up solutions, or actively does things to make a change (besides “bringing awareness to it” #rollseyes) then you have no reason to be offended. With that being said you have been warned. A complaint about our modern culture of complaint Am… [Read more]

Jun 18

Men, do you have a career deal breaker when it comes to your dating? If not, why don’t you? It’s a rhetorical question really, being that I know for a fact that we still think in a traditional sense when it comes to a mate and what he/she brings to the table. There is still pressure on the male to have ambition, have a career, and have money, but as men our pressure on women still goes toward the physical, ie: stay skinny, be pretty, don’t annoy me. Why is it that we aren’t looking for our mates to have a career that is deemed “respectable”, and why aren’t we saying things like “a woman that does (insert job) is not a woman that I want to date”? It has been perfectly okay for women to proudly proclaim that they don’t date “(insert job)”, so… [Read more]

Jun 14

Well it’s Father’s Day weekend (as of this writing), and I have a new book out… You DO see where I am going with this right? In my new book Lady Hellgate, the lead character “Helga”, is influenced by her father and various father figures throughout her military career. Fathers have been the topic of many discussions throughout the media but more “spoken of”, versus “spoken to”.  I would love to add something positive to the climate by putting together a few responses from real dads about how they love fatherhood. But I wouldn’t just ask… I know better. How about I give you some good reading in exchange for your voice? Here’s an excerpt from Lady Hellgate: The dark man in white stood up suddenly and touched Helga’s arm with the rod. It was cold to the touch and it made her happy. She was no longer… [Read more]

Jun 11

How can you tell a disciplined person at first glance? Is it the way they carry themselves? The way they walk, talk, work? It is an interesting question being that we assume that we can get this insight from conducting job interviews, playing golf or cards with someone, or just inviting them to lunch for some small talk. There are many hints into a person’s discipline, but they can be hard to differentiate from quirks, compulsive motives, or habit. We can look at a bodybuilder and assume that the hard work and dedication he/she put into gaining a muscular body is a sign of a person that can make a goal and stay the course to attain it. Similarly we can look at a person that is an “other” in their career path, assume that they had to be twice as good to get there… [Read more]

Jun 09

Male and female relations in a general sense are not unlike race relations… It’s very important for a single male to keep female friends and attractive women who are genuinely good people are an absolute necessity. Why? Well, as a single man going through life it can become very easy to see women as an alien race with feel-good cookies that are only available if you can get past their defenses. Much of this thought process comes from the many toxic women that we come across in life and if a man has no balance—like a good female friend—it can be very easy to go down a dark path. Consider a day when you—the standard male with no female friends—goes to work and sits in a meeting where you are being liberally harassed sexually by female coworkers. In the back of your mind you check their privilege,… [Read more]

Jun 02

There will always be people around us to uplift us as well as tear us down and it may come as a surprise to us. Family members that we assume will have our backs will become jealous, overly judgmental and extremely negative. The troll on your Facebook that you have as a political sparring partner may end up being your best ally when it comes to your goals and aspirations in life. Positive people are a breath of fresh air, and they show up in the strangest places. Negative people come in many forms and they strike when we least expect it. A lot of people who mean well will play devil’s advocate at times when we need their support and will kill our spirits with their opinion. Oft times this opinion comes from a place of fear because they would not be willing to the things that you… [Read more]

May 28

Do you remember Street Fighter? If you’re my age and got down in the arcades in the nineties then you will “remember” the games, but if you are still into fighting games and play them regularly then you don’t just remember Street Fighter, you know about it. Street Fighter like many video games that developed a cult following has had a rough time transitioning into film. One of the main reasons for this is that the game was created to give players a variety of fighters to choose from to compete and with no thought to making a grand, central story. When it became popular and players wanted character development for their Japanese karatekas, and green Brazilian monsters, Capcom (creator of the franchise) began to add in more elements to make the fighters seem “real”. Street Fighter has never had one all-inclusive story, what it… [Read more]

May 27

This past weekend, me and a couple of my friends were out and about having drinks outside of a nightclub. The club in question is one that has a reputation for being a cougar hunting ground so many players go out there to “get chose” so to speak by ladies north of forty looking to have a good time. After a few hours pass a few single friends of mine were spotted making an entrance, we (the boys at the table) introduce them to our girlfriends and wives and they made nice before proceeding in to the hunting grounds to do their thing. After an hour or so, one of the guys exits from the dance floor with a woman in tow—their hands liberally exploring each others bodies—and they walk around a corner and disappear. As we watched this go down, my buddy’s lady—looking baffled—asked… [Read more]