May 23

There has been much discussion lately about women that date broken men only to be disappointed continuously in the end. Women that get with men struggling and weather the storm for a time in hopes of helping their partner find a place of normalcy. And why not? Many good men take on multiple jobs and more in order to support a woman going through school or going through hardships. Relationships are built on support before anything else right? But what I want to talk about today is a specific dynamic, the one where a woman finds a man in a bad situation and chooses to become the light in his life. Let’s not confuse these “saints” with women that purposefully find “projects” to enhance and show-off to their fellow white-collar girlfriends as the women in this situation genuinely want to help their men. In many… [Read more]

May 20

They say that all we need is love but in reality all we need is someone that fits into our world that worships the same god we do, stays thin, is of a “good” height, and can broil a mean fish dinner (Afro Samurai reference ftw). Our standards can seem—for lack of a better term—ridiculous when we write them down on paper can’t they? Everyone has their flavor but many of our preferences are echoed by so many that it seems like a normal thing to demand them of people who can’t fix it. Like height! Seriously? In any event, the following list is of ten deal breakers that I have heard over the years when it comes to dating. 1. Hygiene isn’t just a greeting Get it? Like “Hi Gene”? No? Okay whatever. Ever get into a relationship with someone that you really like only to… [Read more]

May 15

Nothing makes me feel more broke and plebeian than viral celebrity news. When you’re stuck on the ground floor, or hell even the tenth floor, you are forced to drown in it. As a writer and Social Media resident I have to take it into my nose, swish it around a bit and let it marinate before I can spit it out. We worship celebrities and for someone that can’t help but be a cynic it all looks like we’re a bunch of broke people gossiping to me. One of the newer hooks in celebrity gossip is the memes that were born from the dregs of the nerd ghetto. Memes were once a treasured secret of spaces such as 4chan and Reddit, but now everybody with a computer is snatching up photos of celebrities and typing ugly, pixelated font quotes all over them to garner… [Read more]

Apr 29

I find it very interesting that I’ve been called just about every M-word that populates the modern, angst-ridden, reading-comprehension-lacking, mainstream mindset of today… all because of my writing here. Many of these labels are opposites but come as a reaction to articles that I have penned to further the notion of true equality between the genders–while celebrating the great features that make us unique (yes it’s possible). When I take men to task I’m labeled a “mangina”, and when I take women to task I’m either a “mysoginist” or an “MRA” (not exactly offended by this one). But what’s in a label if the name-caller is missing the bigger picture that the author is presenting? To delve deeper into this name-calling business, I will point out two of my most popular articles on this site. The Curse of Being A Beautiful Woman One thing I… [Read more]

Apr 08

Is it true that more often than none it’s the woman that initiates and/or pushes for unsafe sex? When people talk about men and women not “strapping up” they romanticize it into this theory that involves a discussion, a clear choice, and two idiots tempting fate. But life doesn’t work this way does it? There is no choice wheel that pops up with a sad face next to the bad decision and smiley face next to the good one. No, choices are given mere moments. When sex happens—and I am looking at you young, single guys on the hunt—it happens sporadically and you only get one chance at a bad decision before you are stuck with an annoying STI for life. Have you seen Dallas Buyer’s Club? If you haven’t I would highly recommend it. DBC is one of the best unsafe sex deterrents in… [Read more]

Apr 07

For the longest time we have seen Hollywood showcase “the strong silent type” as the epitome of manliness. Turns out that they were not too far off the mark. Recent studies have shown that quiet men are regarded as more manly and attractive to the opposite sex and both men and women prefer mates whose voices sound familiar in some way (source). I want to stay a bit on the deep voice thing though since it pretty much debunks the whole ideology that women are no longer liking macho men. “Researchers at McMaster University have found that women were more attracted to men with masculine voices, at least for short-term relationships.” – source The downside to this of course is that the same women who are attracted to the James Earl Jones and Keith David types assume that eventually they would cheat. Women in these… [Read more]

Mar 26

If you aren’t watching History TV’s Vikings then first of all I am mad at you, second of all I am about to fix your life. Here, click this link (right here), watch the awesomeness, then come back and finish reading this article. Vikings is where it’s at. Now when I call Vikings “the most manliest show on TV” (right now), what I mean is that it takes us to a place of raw, unbridled, machismo. seriously, I had a buddy who sat through an episode with me and he swore off skinny jeans forever after seeing Rollo (character on the show) solo an entire army with a club… Dead serious. It is the kind of show that will make your feminist Twitter activist wife cringe since the characters aren’t written to fit neatly into a 2014 ideal. The setting is dirty, grimy, and absolutely… [Read more]

Mar 24

One thing we can all agree on is that we look to a leader to guide the way. Many associate leadership with bossing someone around which is understandable given the types of “managers” that populate the work force nowadays. But don’t get it twisted, a leader is a bit more than that. This misunderstanding of leadership becomes even more prevalent when a man hears a woman say that she desires a husband to “be a leader” in one breath while claiming independence in another. It may sound confusing but it’s not when you understand the concept of leadership. A Leader Versus A Boss Just from reading the titles “boss” and “leader” I am willing to bet that your mind rings negatively to one and positively to the other. Am I right? A leader seems elected, as in someone you want to follow whereas a boss… [Read more]