Oct 28

I happened upon an article that happened to hold some excerpts that hold the claim to assist in understanding the male brain. I tentatively clicked on this article, wondering what would be found within. Would there be some meaningful insights that would shape the way that I would from here on in understand men?? I would not. Dr. Eric Haseltine, author of Users Manual for the Male Brain posits a theory and then a practical application for understanding the male brain. Theory: The male brain is better at spatial tasks, such as visualizing objects in three dimensions, than verbal tasks, such as recalling words. Practical Application: Explain difficult concepts—like why it’s important to keep the house neat—in visual terms, not verbal terms. Better still, show what you mean, don’t say it. For example, illustrate the benefits of tidiness by going to the other extreme. Scatter… [Read more]

Oct 02

With the campaigning starting we are seeing the pandering beginning already. Seeing someone running that is outside the “norm” brings forth issues concerning “ism’s” again. With Obama, racism was brought up and questioned on its overt or subversive nature. And now with Clinton re-entering the fray questions of sexism and a glass ceiling are floating around. This is not an issue about candidates; this is simply about what is and what isn’t evident. Just as many people would stake claims that racism is over, they like to say that sexism is over as well. Sorry, but that just is not the case. Sexism, ideals regarding what men and women are capable of and should be able to do. Simone de Beavoir, author of The Second Sex (1949) is such a foundational piece in the women’s rights movement and feminism. “Representation of the world, like the… [Read more]

Sep 23

Of course as you sit down with your friends and lament the obstacles of your single life, the angle that is spun is in your favor. “…it was our first date and after walking me to my car; he asked me if I would ‘kiss it’…” Yes, that is a true story and no, I didn’t kiss it and while I don’t think that it was appropriate or flattering for him to ask me that in the parking lot of an Applebee’s on Wednesday night, years later I can take a more objective view on that early evening meeting. When you have been single for years and seem to only go on dates that are fodder for dating horror stories, it might be time for you to take a good long look in the mirror and see what’s there. It might not be the losers… [Read more]

Sep 16

With oral pleasure we have to understand that everyone is different but generally speaking getting surprised during the act can cause some anxiety… to say the least. Not everyone likes giving it but under the right circumstances giving it can be a great way to get sexy times started. And men, please remember that your average lady is not a porn star and will probably not appreciate you having your hands on the back of her head “assisting” her in getting her where you need to be. Gagging and having tears running down your face just doesn’t feel sexy to us ladies, and I am speaking generally, maybe on your birthday or something, I don’t know but on a Tuesday – no thank you. So, after things have heated up a bit and blood is definitely flowing to your extremities and things are likely to… [Read more]

Aug 22

Bad Boys, for some reason these guys have some kind of magnetism about them – not that all girls date the bad boy but it seems like the bad boy always has someone in their lives.  Luckily for me, I got over my bad boy phase in my younger years.  And some research would connect this draw to the sexy, dominant, physically attractive and yet hopelessly unreliable man to ovulation. Whew and here I thought I had some control over my rational thinking! And just to be clear, when we are referring to these ‘bad boys’ we are not referring to men that are violent, abusive or criminal, those men are just dangerous. “Bad boys” are dangerous in another sense altogether, in a way that author Adele Parks refers to as: “…much more subtle… he oozes untrammeled masculinity, confidence and independence, all of which we… [Read more]

Aug 16

Despite my reluctance to title this article with such a polarizing and subjective word as “good” the content that I am writing about basically requires it. Ideas about what a “good girl” is and what it requires to be a good girl are so rooted in our upbringing, our culture and the times that we are living in. In an article I read about Good Girls in the New Millennium there is a girl that is described as a “good girl”, she is a 28 year old Hispanic woman that waited until after college to have sex for the first time since she was trying to protect herself from an unplanned pregnancy. The story continues with the outcome of when a smart, educated woman finally does have sex, she contracts gonorrhea from one partner and then genital warts from another. Alicia felt stuck—she’d done “the… [Read more]

Aug 06

I feel like I’ve been seeing articles and blogs all over the place talking about people that are living their lives childless. As if it’s some kind of condition. As I was making my coffee this morning I heard a journalist leading into a story on this topic and asked the question, “Have Americans really become so selfish that ‘having it all…’ means having no kids?” Really? I was instantly transported back to when I worked with sixth grade girls and we were having a discussion about what it means to be a woman and one of the students turned to me and asked, “Don’t you wanna be a woman, miss?” Confused since I was hovering right around the ripe old age of 30, had a full time job, my own car, apartment and a had received at least two college degrees, I asked her… [Read more]

Aug 02

Having a strong opinion, independence and no non-sense attitude have long been traits and qualities that have been revered and appreciated in men. When a man utilizes this attributes he is a leader, decisive and usually a considered quite a catch; what? with that kind of confidence, even a less attractive version of this man will be a vied after mate. When a woman, however, embodies these characteristics she will suffer a significantly longer sentence of single-girl status. And not even necessarily single-single – she will be able to get laid, if she so chooses but more than that (deep sigh) can be much more elusive. Verbalize what it is you want As a lady, I get it, we tend to want our partners to be so in tune with us that they ‘just know’ what we want and are intuitive about our needs so… [Read more]