Oct 31

betty draper

Many of us get called things that we dislike and hate but usually there is a reason behind the name-calling that extends beyond childish attacks and bullying. Lately I’ve seen a few articles by women who are upset at being labeled “bitter” by their male and female counterparts. It rings hollow to me when I know of instances where the author has thrown around words like misogyny to label men—who did not deserve it—and other names towards people who didn’t agree with her.

Some people ARE bitter but don’t want to deal with the label when people write them off with it. Let us observe the word as it is defined by Dictionary.com:

bit·ter
adjective, bit·ter·er, bit·ter·est, noun, verb, adverb

  1. having a harsh, disagreeably acrid taste, like that of aspirin, quinine, wormwood, or aloes.
  2. producing one of the four basic taste sensations; not sour, sweet, or salt.
  3. hard to bear; grievous; distressful: a bitter sorrow.
  4. causing pain; piercing; stinging: a bitter chill.
  5. characterized by intense antagonism or hostility: bitter hatred

Having battled with some of the angriest and man-hating women alive, I look at the above definition and I can see why some people are labeled bitter. Sure some folks toss it around way too liberally, just like they do with the word hater; if you express disappointment they call you bitter; if you bemoan a past relationship they call you bitter; but this isn’t to say that truly bitter people don’t exist.

The Signs of A Bitter Person

  • Overly negative towards a subset of people based on a past occurrence from one of their membership. For instance men who refuse to have a healthy relationship with a woman because their ex cheated on them.
  • Having a stance of anger and negativity that defies all attempts at reasoning with them about the opposite sex.
  • Makes long 2,000 word comments on sites like this one berating men for being cheaters, liars and more.
  • Tends to dislike others of the same sex who have a positive outlook on love and relationships.
  • Did I mention that they’re angry?

Bitter people tend to run others away from them as time goes by. Nobody wants to be around someone who is not only angry all the time but wanting to change their happiness to match their bitter taste. Remember Dictionary.com’s definition:

Hard to bear; grievous; distressful: a bitter sorrow.

When someone calls you bitter they are saying that they’ve given up on you – at least in that facet. They are saying that not only are they done with you and your bitter subject but they will no longer attempt to help or fix your issue because you have proven that it is impossible.

Some people are bitter, so why should we pretend otherwise? If you find that you are indeed bitter and have been called that more than once in your life you may want to consider finding a way to heal your wound. The reason I say this is due to the fact that bitter people get shunned by society and it won’t be long before you find yourself very alone.

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