When a man thinks that you’re beautiful and asks you to smile, he probably does not intend it to be a full frontal assault on everything feminist and right in the world. You would think that this was a non-issue but recently there has been a backlash against men asking women to smile… I assume the word patriarchy fits in the logic somewhere but it eludes me.  Ladies of the Hall… Does it bother you when men ask you to smile? Well apparently for a large section of female bloggerdom it actually does. So what does this mean for the men who ask of smiles to compliment or break the ice with pretty ladies? Probably nothing, but I’m a sucker for punishment so let’s look into the deeper problem with this question. “women want us to answer for the sins of our brothers” What bothers many of the guys out here about this question is… [Read more]

Our generation of men has possibly become the torch bearers for the bachelor way of life. Our emotions regarding relationships are not excessively unfavorable or even optimistic since we view marriage as one of a couple living options in the future. For many years in this country, women were treated like 2nd class citizens; they weren’t allowed to leave their parent’s houses until they were married and to get married they had to be courted. Women had to rely on a husband to take care of the finances while she took care of the children and home. Well now times have changed and many women are making just as much or more than men. Women no longer need a man to survive People can take care of themselves now and don’t need to partner up with someone to get through the tough times. This has led to women marrying at older ages than in the past, and… [Read more]

This is the question that I want to ask the blowhard, internet, freedom fighters of today whose opportunistic taste buds get tingly and hot when a movie like Django Unchained is released. If it isn’t Tarantino that is the target it is DL Hughley, or Kanye West. Not seeing the correlation? My point to all of these race champions who have written 1,000 word diatribes breaking down the history of the word nigger and why it makes them boohoo cry at night is that it is a fad to blog about it. Not only is it a fad but it comes off as hot air from a biased voice because most of the writers did not even watch the movie. Whoa! I know, I know, you don’t want to give old racist Quentin your $10 for his movie since it will no doubt slip into the pockets of those Uncle Toms like Jamie Foxx and Samuel L…. [Read more]

There have been a lot of unfounded rumors floating around the internet that smooth, British, black woman panty-soaker, actor Idris Elba may be in the running to play the MI6 super spy James Bond. While this could do wonders for the man’s career I do think that he should become his own super, cool, ladies man via another more original vehicle. How long has it been since we saw a really cool black guy in the title role of a movie, scamming on chicks of every color, thwarting evil, and representing manhood in all its glory? No, no, no not Undercover Brother! I would like more black roles not blackened roles… Think Jason Statham with a deeper tan, or Jason Bourne with a little melanin. Black Dynamite is 100% that guy, but his movie was a comedy aimed at blaxpoitation fanbois like myself and didn’t have the kind of mainstream love that I want for a movie starring… [Read more]

If you read the commentary on sites that are woman-centric and harboring a generally hostile community, you would feel as if the world has gone to hell and women were all out to get theirs at the expense of any man dumb enough to date them. But I have had a much different experience out in the real world where women have been respectful, sweet, and courteous and I can count the number of nightmare experiences on one hand… I know… lucky me. Do you realize that the reason why so many men get ambushed by evil women on dates is because the majority of their experiences were actually decent women? Sure, chemistry may not work out to make for a love connection, but it’s only once in a blue you get that bossy, loud-mouthed user who demands you follow her expectations to a tee on what a date should demand. One of the best… [Read more]

It’s a fact that I am out of the dating pool, but there are times when I look at the current swimmers and notice certain patterns that make it hard for one group of people versus another. One such group are the agnostic and atheist black men. If you’ve been paying attention, you know that African American culture is very much of the church in more ways than one – especially women (nods at Tyler Perry). This isn’t to say that ALL black women are bible beaters because as a group black women are a million times more diverse than the media presents. But in the dating pool it can seem very one dimensional for a young man…  If you are anything but a Christian and you are into American black women, I am going to go out on a limb and say that it is quite an obstacle to get around the giant holy… [Read more]

Editor’s Note: While family members and self-conscious losers will throw out the word bougie in order to make themselves feel better about putting us down, many people ARE bougie, and more than earn the label due to their elitist behavior. What Does It All Mean? I was reading an article recently where the author was lamenting the fact that she had been called bougie (black slang for bourgeois, which essentially means an elitist faker). From reading the commentary and people sharing their stories of receiving this label from family members and the like, I realized that I had the same things going as those who had been called bougie in the past. You know… education, a love for food and wine, reading, going places where people don’t normally go… etc. etc. The difference however is that I have never been given the label; sure I’ve been called weird, nerd or even derogatory terms, but bougie… [Read more]

Misty Copeland is beauty and grace combined into one awesome package of ballerina. She is one of the first African American female soloists for the American Ballet Theatre and is currently touring with Prince “The Artist” in concert. If you don’t know about Misty, you have to consider the amount of drive and perseverance it takes to be a “raisin in a bowl of milk” in any venture. A world famous black NASCAR driver would not be “average”, nor would a standout black hockey player (if you’re going to invade, you have to be a spectacular invader). So to say that she was a gifted ballet prodigy that started dancing late should not shock you at all. she is very serious about her craft. Misty has won numerous awards and has a flourishing career that most of us could only wish we had. and for the boys Misty is perfection – cute face, slender muscularity… [Read more]