There is a social dilemma in the black community, brought to light by blogs, news stories and opportunistic authors looking for sales. The dilemma is an ongoing meme that there are no black men for black women and that the women themselves are practically unlovable with the bad attitudes and high expectations of the professional thug/ ball player who stands over 6ft tall and can blow her back out with his super penis while keeping her draped in diamonds with his super bank account. This stereotype is there for a reason (bare with me), it is constructed from many experiences with the wrong kind of black woman and has made itself the avatar of what a black woman in the dating world is. Who are these women, and why are they so bad? Most of us men go for ass over class, looks over books and sex over common sense. Coming up as a common… [Read more]

Anybody else ever get this message from women seeking a date? “Hi I like your complexion, I really think we need to hook up, blah, blah, blah” Well I have yet to got this one from non black women but I am willing to bet it’s on the tip of their tongues when contacting me. What’s the deal? this is a new one to me yet lately, I’ve gotten quite a few women emailing that “compliment” in the last month or so. Everytime I see this, I think “fetish” or “shallow” because seriously who would say such a thing? Some quick sex is one thing but I probably won’t take you serious when you say this. I realise that dark skinned men are some sort of fad thing for girls nowadays but this is just weird. I remember the early days of school up until college where girls were looking for the bright, near-white type. Now… [Read more]