Jan 08

This is the question that I want to ask the blowhard, internet, freedom fighters of today whose opportunistic taste buds get tingly and hot when a movie like Django Unchained is released. If it isn’t Tarantino that is the target it is DL Hughley, or Kanye West. Not seeing the correlation? My point to all of these race champions who have written 1,000 word diatribes breaking down the history of the word nigger and why it makes them boohoo cry at night is that it is a fad to blog about it. Not only is it a fad but it comes off as hot air from a biased voice because most of the writers did not even watch the movie. Whoa! I know, I know, you don’t want to give old racist Quentin your $10 for his movie since it will no doubt slip into the pockets… [Read more]

Nov 05
actor idris elba

There have been a lot of unfounded rumors floating around the internet that smooth, British, black woman panty-soaker, actor Idris Elba may be in the running to play the MI6 super spy James Bond. While this could do wonders for the man’s career I do think that he should become his own super, cool, ladies man via another more original vehicle. How long has it been since we saw a really cool black guy in the title role of a movie, scamming on chicks of every color, thwarting evil, and representing manhood in all its glory? No, no, no not Undercover Brother! I would like more black roles not blackened roles… Think Jason Statham with a deeper tan, or Jason Bourne with a little melanin. Black Dynamite is 100% that guy, but his movie was a comedy aimed at blaxpoitation fanbois like myself and didn’t have the kind… [Read more]

Sep 26
angry black woman

If you read the commentary on sites that are woman-centric and harboring a generally hostile community, you would feel as if the world has gone to hell and women were all out to get theirs at the expense of any man dumb enough to date them. But I have had a much different experience out in the real world where women have been respectful, sweet, and courteous and I can count the number of nightmare experiences on one hand… I know… lucky me. Do you realize that the reason why so many men get ambushed by evil women on dates is because the majority of their experiences were actually decent women? Sure, chemistry may not work out to make for a love connection, but it’s only once in a blue you get that bossy, loud-mouthed user who demands you follow her expectations to a tee… [Read more]

Aug 22
disappointed black woman

It’s a fact that I am out of the dating pool, but there are times when I look at the current swimmers and notice certain patterns that make it hard for one group of people versus another. One such group are the agnostic and atheist black men. If you’ve been paying attention, you know that African American culture is very much of the church in more ways than one – especially women (nods at Tyler Perry). This isn’t to say that ALL black women are bible beaters because as a group black women are a million times more diverse than the media presents. But in the dating pool it can seem very one dimensional for a young man…  If you are anything but a Christian and you are into American black women, I am going to go out on a limb and say that it… [Read more]

Jan 30

Editor’s Note: While family members and self-conscious losers will throw out the word bougie in order to make themselves feel better about putting us down, many people ARE bougie, and more than earn the label due to their elitist behavior. What Does It All Mean? I was reading an article recently where the author was lamenting the fact that she had been called bougie (black slang for bourgeois, which essentially means an elitist faker). From reading the commentary and people sharing their stories of receiving this label from family members and the like, I realized that I had the same things going as those who had been called bougie in the past. You know… education, a love for food and wine, reading, going places where people don’t normally go… etc. etc. The difference however is that I have never been given the label; sure I’ve… [Read more]

Sep 16

Misty Copeland is beauty and grace combined into one awesome package of ballerina. She is one of the first African American female soloists for the American Ballet Theatre and is currently touring with Prince “The Artist” in concert. If you don’t know about Misty, you have to consider the amount of drive and perseverance it takes to be a “raisin in a bowl of milk” in any venture. A world famous black NASCAR driver would not be “average”, nor would a standout black hockey player (if you’re going to invade, you have to be a spectacular invader). So to say that she was a gifted ballet prodigy that started dancing late should not shock you at all. she is very serious about her craft. Misty has won numerous awards and has a flourishing career that most of us could only wish we had. and for… [Read more]

Jun 27

The answer of course is no, its a stupid question but one that holds merit. The amount of attention being placed on black women whether negative or positive have skewed many mens’ thinking into the realm of “high maintenance”. The blogs written by men and women about the black woman’s place in the United States mention many things but it isn’t just the blogs that are the problem, it’s their commentary. You comb the articles of MadameNoire.com, TheFreshXpress.com, Blackvoices.com and any other space dedicated to blackness and you will find that every other entry is about black women and their struggle for beauty and dealing with us “worthless” black men. The blogs bring about a bias from the male brain where you can get to a point of “damn this is too much”. When an explanation of an issue becomes 100 explanations of the same… [Read more]

May 06

There’s a great wish in the African American community for a wonderful utopia known as UNITY. The word brings about images of 70’s era movies where everyone picks their blow-out afros, slaps high-fives and echo “right on” in unison. This reality was lived out by our parents but now the word has become pure fantasy. A fellow AA writer and myself discussed this unity thing and devised that there are 7 layers of division that keeps black unity a myth. This list may not be black exclusive but it plagues us and keeps us separated in a major way. The 7 Layers of Division in Black America: Layer 1 – Bourgee vs. Ghetto Middle/Upper Class vs. Lower Class for those confused by the derogatory terms. These two classes of people don’t necessarily hate one another but cannot coexist due to different outlooks and prejudice towards… [Read more]