Don’t you hate nosy people? I know I do. Many of us men come up being extremely private to the point where we turn off family members and friends just by the amount of silence we keep about our love lives. Oft times this code of silence comes from being burnt one too many times by big-mouthed people who make us feel uncomfortable for our preferences and choices throughout our dating lives. Having dated a number of different women from across the spectrum of race, style and class – I know all too well the comments and hurtful jokes that gets thrown at single men for their choices. When I was in college I dated a number of light-skinned black girls, not because that was my thing, but because they were the ones who were talking back to me. You know the game denizens, hell if you read my articles enough, you know why this… [Read more]

If a beautiful woman stays with a bunch of guys and she wants to know which one of them is madly in love with her, all she has to do is take note of which guy is trying a little too hard to be aloof, or mean to her for absolutely no reason. Welcome to Simpin’ 101, come on in and take a seat as I school you ladies and gentlemen on one of the main reasons why men are so resentful of beautiful women. There’s an interesting occurrence that comes up whenever you mix one part single, pretty girl with a few non-confident guys that like her and an oblivious confident guy who merely sees her has dating potential. See, the confident guy will have sex with some effort and attention given, while the other lot will sit back and become both resentful and hateful of them both. What makes this even more interesting… [Read more]

As men we can over-complicate the dating game to the point where we think we need formulas and metrics to get things right, but more often than none the more you over-think something, the more chances you have of losing confidence in yourself. Take as an example the act of “getting her number”, which has become the initial step in courtship. Some guys take the number, think on her for the entire day, brag to their boys about how “bad” (as in sexy) she is and then sit on it for a day before calling. You would think that with the amount of feelings the man had for that woman he would call her immediately, but he fears that he will seem desperate and possibly scare her away. Come on we’ve all been there with this thought, and it is so bad that we use this formula even when the woman isn’t the one who… [Read more]

Improving your appearance will get you more looks from the opposite sex and more looks can be translated into more dating opportunities. One of the most important reasons for being yourself in both your appearance and your attitude is because you want to attract a woman or man that will appreciate you. Many times I read forums and blogs where men are suggesting for other men to switch up their dress and “fake it till you make it” in order to attract a girl or score a date. The same can be seen on web spaces where a nerdy girl complains for lack of dates due to men not being interested etc. The problem with this “fake it till you make it” advice is that while it does work, you may end up landing a fish from the wrong side of the pond. Don’t Change Your Flavor – Improve Upon It! The best thing to… [Read more]

Okay about this pay on the first date thing; men and women are going to have to accept that there are different schools of thought on this and that there is no right or wrong way to do it. For the traditionalist who wants to mirror his parents in the way things are divvied up between man and woman, he will always want to pay after the first date but the new age Omega Man will either look to his date to pick it up or split the bill evenly. Nobody will abide by one rule, it is a new age people of the dating world – either you adapt or you will get outrun. What’s a Girl to Do? In my opinion a woman should always reach for her purse to pay for her half of the meal. It’s a respect thing because even though a man may offer to pick up the entire… [Read more]

The following is a list of men that women should avoid for fear of disappointment once the honeymoon period is over. The list was compiled based on the feedback I often hear from women whenever their new dream guy turned out to be a nightmare. I find that because the right questions aren’t asked initially and a man’s lifestyle, background and habits aren’t examined many women take us at face value only to feel salty about it down the road. I will say that I am not just some writer pointing fingers as I see parts of myself within this list; being a Stargazer with a little bit of Trick Baby to me has made my love-life a journey of mountains and valleys. So don’t be offended if you see yourself in there. With this in mind I hope that you find the list interesting, entertaining and somewhat educational. 10. The Wolf Aggressive, somewhat rude,… [Read more]

So you have been wanting a girlfriend (within your race) for some time and have found it to be a task. This could be due to a lack of that certain type of woman in your area, compatibility issues, bad luck, or something you personally do to turn women off. Whatever the reason, you find yourself at a crossroads in life – one path demanding that you broaden your horizons, the other will leave you lonely for years to come. What I am about to offer you men that are in this situation is a bit of perspective on interracial dating and what it is that disallows you from trying it – with a suggestion on how to get past it. Why Should You Branch out? Believe it or not, most men think the same way you do and it makes sense when you think about it. We grow up within a society that keeps… [Read more]

As of recent, I’m finding myself in a new relationship. It’s in that early phase where you’re still getting to know each other, but you’re fairly confident it will last a while. You don’t call each other boyfriend/girlfriend etc, but you act like it. While I’m going to try and leave out some of the personal details, I figured I’d set the pretext for this article by letting you know where I’m at in the scheme of things. Most people who are still single are wondering when they’ll find that special someone. What the general populace is waiting for is someone to come along and “sweep them off their feet”. Obviously we’re talking about having that “special” feeling. You want to feel all tingly and sparkly and magically head-over-heels in love. Many people have experienced that before, but somehow it didn’t last. This is where everyone needs to realize there are different types of love…. [Read more]