There’s an understanding amongst men (sometimes expressed in conversation) about women when it comes to dating. Men as a whole expect that a bachelor, with money, and a good head for conversation can bag any chick he wants all because we have women bottled up into a casual stereotype for our understanding. We see women as the prized deer (with horns) that we have to coax into our trap nice and easy, just before pulling the trigger and snacking on venison burgers. The coaxing of course is assumed to be money, charm and a whole line of bull. So what are some of the things that your casual male date may be assuming when he texts you the address to the comedy show that you planned to go see? Take a look at these 5 things… sure they won’t make you happy, but trust me – it is what it is. 1. Women Can Be… [Read more]

I know we often hear about being the alpha male, letting your beast mode personality do the talking for you, and having the mindset that any girl can be yours. I’m here to drop a little reality on the situation. You can be alpha all day long, but until you truly evaluate what you see in the mirror, you’re going to be disappointed with the chicks that are interested. Now don’t get me wrong, I strongly support the alpha personality. I know that only suckers are holding their girls purse while she shops for shoes with his credit card. That’s being a beta, and nothing kills my soul more than seeing a beta male in action. Something I think most guys neglect to realize is there’s a difference between being alpha and being attractive. These guys, and even myself a while back, get the alpha mentality and think they can score any broad in town…. [Read more]

There are a lot of men out there who will sleep with anything.  Everyone has their own preferences, but there are many cases where a guy just wants to get some.  A lot of times they don’t care from whom, and this is where the problem lies. By lowering your standards people will talk, and word will get around that you will jump on anything that moves.  There are several reasons that you don’t want to be the person people are talking about. Building and maintaining a good reputation is one of the prime concerns for a man of worth, and anything that can have a detrimental effect on this can easily hinder his future actions and plans. If you start slipping and begin to entertain a certain “type” that isn’t up to your standards, word will get around. Lowering your requirements for the sake of a roll in the hay is something that desperate, lonely men… [Read more]

One of our Lady Dragons brought up the subject of dating a blogger to me and I thought that it would be best to discuss it in an article as opposed to Twitter where it originated. She had read on another space that us opinionated writer types were a bit of a bear to date for one reason or another which gave me pause but I thought about it and there may be some validity in that claim. The main issue of course is jealousy (female readers can be verbal about their appreciation of you, and some girlfriends don’t like it). The other thing is time, many of us are workaholics who write whenever we aren’t working. Then you have the guys that write about their lives – whoa, now that should give any woman a complex. Good looking male bloggers who reveal themselves at seminars, via video blogging, podcasting, about me sections or whatever… [Read more]

Dating can be fun but many times after what you thought was an awesome first date, you are stuck wondering why your phone calls aren’t being answered or the person’s profile (for you online daters) is no longer viewable. To help you understand what it is that you may have done to lose that perfect date, we have made a list of secondary red flags that people see that aren’t as popular as the typical stuff. You know the standard flags of: bad hygiene, being rude to waiters, texting or using the cellphone, not really listening but waiting to talk, those type of things. Check out the list of innocent red flags and if you’ve been guilty of one in the past, you may want to reconsider doing it on future first dates. 10 things that may impact your first date negatively: 1. Admitting that you are only attracted to her because of her nerdiness… [Read more]

Editor’s Note: Don’t be a reactionary troll from my title, read the article. According to a lot of men, the idea of a suitcase carrying woman in a pantsuit does not vibe well with the happy housewife image that is the conservative ideal. This accounts to many of the issues women with strong careers have with finding a peer (in business) to date and marry. Men aren’t necessarily looking for a “lesser” woman to marry but they are looking for a woman who fits into the mold of what is shown as the ideal. Donald Draper looks for Betty Draper not a Peggy Olson aka the career driven go-hard that’s pretty but focused on the prize. Sure this doesn’t account for every male who shies away from single professional women but it describes a healthy chunk of us that run for the hills when we know a woman is an earner. Men who seek a… [Read more]

One of the major disconnects that men and tomboys have is the fact that a rough-and-tumble girl usually has a large collection of guy friends. It would be silly to assume that a woman who partakes in things that are almost exclusively boys club would bond mostly with women when men are what she’s going to be most comfortable around due to her day-to-day. Many people assume things from a distance and although the friendship may be innocent to her, for the guys in her circle 99.9% of them are trying in their own way to have sex with her. As men we carry a lot of stigmas towards these women, not to say that women don’t have their fair share. In the last post I did on tomboys we had women commenting that they are all lesbians and a bunch of other noise so I know for a fact that women stigmatize Sporty Spice… [Read more]

Are you a guy that freezes up on the approach? Worried about how you will look to some hot stranger and the chance that you may come off as lame or uncool? Then imagine how you would feel if you saw a major celebrity? What if that celebrity was single, from your hometown (or close) and out and about having fun… at a venue that you’re attending? Would you be the type to try your luck at making that fantasy (of you and her) a reality, or would you slink away into the crowd hiding, observing from afar as if she was still on TV? You know those guys who have casual pictures of them and a celeb but the body language in the picture reads more than “fanboi and celeb”? Sure you do, and you probably see other people going crazy like “DUDE! Where did you meet her? Oh my god! I mean, that’s… [Read more]