Mar 04
friend zone, kiss, interracial couple

Getting in the friend zone is something that men have lamented since the dawn of time. It is a situation that comes about from a lot of misunderstanding, fear, and a bit of entitlement. Generally men will put the blame on women for the friend zone, we tend to view it as manipulation on the part of the woman. She does just enough to keep you around but when you press the issue of a relationship, she shoots you down or limps away quickly. Comedian Eddie Murphy called it being a “Dick in the Glass Jar” because in essence you are being trained to become an extra “dick” in case the one she wants does not work out. Who here has been friend zoned? This is the part where I raise my hand. Chances are, many of you reading are in this situation right now. Well let’s… [Read more]

Feb 11

There will always be attraction in an office where men and women work in close vicinity. I would venture to say that when fallout happens at home for an attractive married person, the chance of the person they cheat with being an office-mate is pretty high. Office romances are a byproduct of working closely with someone for a period of time, the freedom of imagination, and that strange magic that makes someone grow more and more attractive to us as we get to know them better. For people who click with an office mate and would like to pursue a romantic relationship, there must be a level of maturity on both sides that is beyond what is expected of a stranger out on the streets. Dating a co-worker puts your job at risk from the outset and you must know the temperament and volatility of… [Read more]

Feb 10

There are two frequently searched terms that I see monthly coming to this website: “why are women unfriendly at the gym?” and “how to attract guys in the gym”. Isn’t it amazing that these questions—obviously from members of the opposite sex—are asking about one of the most controversial aspects of gym membership? For every ten women that are convinced that guys only go to the gym to ogle them for being fat or sexy, there is one that wants to use her gym membership to make a love connection. On the opposite side is the serious lifter who could care less about how many women are in his gym, what they look like, and whether or not they are looking at him. The irony of it all is that the person asking “how to attract guys in gym?” is probably attracted to this “serious lifter”… [Read more]

Jan 22

There is a broad line between stalking and courting. Stalking cannot be mistaken as anything else whereas courtship is still up for debate on it’s definition in today’s world. Many men that stalk would have you believe that they are “courting” but let us put a full stop on that right now. When it comes to talking up a woman you have to learn to be a knife, your surface being smooth and refined, your edge being absolutely deadly.  While stalking a chick may yield firm results from a woman who wants to be heavily chased, most women will want to kill you. If you want to get over your infatuation, make sure you do it in a healthy way. It saddens me to see guys having restraining orders slapped against them or women having to purchase handguns because some fool crossed the line. Lust like… [Read more]

Jan 08

Contrary to popular belief, it is very easy for a man to tell on the first date if he will be able to get a second. Most of the signs are there, but men do not see them right away. Several times I have walked down memory lane with my current boyfriend, discussing our first date and how he had no idea that I was looking to be more than friends. It can be difficult for a man to figure it out solely from the body language or the way she looks at him, but the signals are definitely there. If you pick up on them, there will be no guessing as to whether or not she will want to see you again. 1. She keeps the conversation going A bored and uninterested woman will not listen intently to your stories and she will definitely… [Read more]

Dec 19

If you are a woman that has a guy in your “back pocket” due to any number of reasons, he may become a hindrance to your love life. Many women have a guy that they want, but refuse to go their with him for one reason or another. This leads to the guy being placed in the friend-zone, or her back pocket (as we will call it here) and regulated to little more than buddy status. When you look at this woman’s list–of course she has a list–it should not be a surprise that back pocket guy encompasses much of what is on there. For a man who isn’t looking to settle down, the back pocket is nice, warm and cozy, because it can easily translate to sex with no strings attached.  It is the perfect situation for a player, especially if there are several… [Read more]

Oct 01

I don’t think that it is a bad thing for a man or woman to fade away from someone that they have been on one or two dates with. The beginning phase of dating is still a “getting to know you” period and while an overly invested person will dislike the split, you are still strangers with no attachment to one another. Almost daily I come across articles where men are being called cowards, mean, evil, and many other names for disappearing after date number 2 or 3. Usually these names are being hurled by women that have dated men, assumed that things were great (assumption is a common theme) and then get upset when that perfect guy stopped communicating. The last time that I was on The Love Jones Experience we discussed this very topic and myself and author Pamela Antoinette Lordette both agreed… [Read more]

Sep 24

When I tell men that a woman sums us up within five minutes as to whether or not there will be sex and/or a relationship in the future, many argue back with the foolish notion that “game” is above natural selection. If you are one of the nonbelievers who believe that, please read this: “We end up meeting up on Monday (Labor Day) for coffee at a cute little cafe. Immediately, I know he’s not a match. It was just a feeling like, “I don’t EVER want to have sex with this person.” We grab coffee, go for a walk and he tells me all about the great work he is doing in the nonprofit world (which I commend), but he is still in his mid-thirties and flailing to find success in his life and profession.”  – (Emily – mylifeonmatchandmore) The above quote is from… [Read more]