Jul 27
hot blonde on date

Men how many times have you read articles written by confused women asking why it is that they are single when they have sooo much to offer? How many talk shows, Reality TV interviews, books, etc. have shown us this drop dead gorgeous woman complaining about her inability to find a guy? Tons of them right? What does a man say when he reads, hears or watches this stuff? A man thinks to himself “that’s all fine and dandy, but I bet she has a real annoying personality, or even worse – a ridiculous sense of entitlement.” I know that’s what crosses my mind, having known enough strong women in my time who remained chronically single, unaware that their poisonous demeanor was the culprit. I have learned that we all have a poor sense of self when reflecting back on why a date went south…. [Read more]

Jul 19
two women flirting

So you are at your local dive with a few of your people and your buddy shows up with 2 women – one being his girlfriend and the other a friend from work. You all start kicking it and you notice the girl is actually pretty damn cute and is really friendly to you. What does the average guy ask himself at this point? Does she like me, or is she playing nice because we are all out and she wants to have a good time? Many times the way a woman responds to us when flirting can be confused to the way she acts when she’s just being friendly. Consider the Starbucks barista who is the common offender of this type of thing. The barista is forced to smile and be courteous to the patron who sees her smile, attractive face and warm behavior… [Read more]

Jul 17
socially awkward woman

It’s a bit sad that we cater so much to the outgoing social women that we tend to generalize and paint every woman with the same brush. While many women may have girlfriends, take pleasure in using girl power to make things harder in the dating game and comment on relationship blogs, they are not the whole. Socially awkward women are everywhere, some are beautiful physically, some are beautiful mentally, and others are just normal. We never speak to them because they shrink back into the background as props and watercolor to our animated series of life. The bold, sometimes loud girl commands attention in a room; she likes us but wants us to chase her while her socially awkward friend would love to talk to us but doesn’t know how to make it happen. As men we know it’s as simple as some eye… [Read more]

Jun 28
crazy second date

It’s interesting how things get misinterpreted in the dating game due to lack of communication between the sexes. One of the biggest examples of this is when a guy stops calling after what seems to the woman to have been the perfect 2nd date. She’s confused, he moves on and she tells all her friends about it. So what really happens after that 2nd date to make a guy vanish from what a woman could read as an obvious love connection? Ask a woman and she will say one of many things that are nowhere near accurate. Having dropped a few numbers myself in the past, and speaking with men out there dating today – I will present you with the real reasons why you never got a call back from that guy: Darren S. Single, IT Professional who dates to find his future wife…. [Read more]

May 15
happy guy talking to girl

Don’t you hate nosy people? I know I do. Many of us men come up being extremely private to the point where we turn off family members and friends just by the amount of silence we keep about our love lives. Oft times this code of silence comes from being burnt one too many times by big-mouthed people who make us feel uncomfortable for our preferences and choices throughout our dating lives. Having dated a number of different women from across the spectrum of race, style and class – I know all too well the comments and hurtful jokes that gets thrown at single men for their choices. When I was in college I dated a number of light-skinned black girls, not because that was my thing, but because they were the ones who were talking back to me. You know the game denizens, hell… [Read more]

May 10
Disgruntled woman

There’s an interesting occurrence that comes up whenever you mix one part single, pretty girl with a few non-confident guys that like her and an oblivious confident guy who merely sees her has dating potential. See, the confident guy will have sex with some effort and attention given, while the other lot will sit back and become both resentful and hateful of them both. What makes this even more interesting is that 60% of the guys will ignore her, 10% will try lines and PUA games, and the other 30% will pretend as if they didn’t care either way. It starts in school when us boys finally figure out that girls are pretty and that having a pretty one as our girlfriend will make us more like our uncles or our Alpha Male heroes that are shown on TV. Little boys being naturally shy will… [Read more]

May 03
Woman waiting for a call

As men we can over-complicate the dating game to the point where we think we need formulas and metrics to get things right, but more often than none the more you over-think something, the more chances you have of losing confidence in yourself. Take as an example the act of “getting her number”, which has become the initial step in courtship. Some guys take the number, think on her for the entire day, brag to their boys about how “bad” (as in sexy) she is and then sit on it for a day before calling. You would think that with the amount of feelings the man had for that woman he would call her immediately, but he fears that he will seem desperate and possibly scare her away. Come on we’ve all been there with this thought, and it is so bad that we use… [Read more]

Apr 16
Man stares at two women

Improving your appearance will get you more looks from the opposite sex and more looks can be translated into more dating opportunities. One of the most important reasons for being yourself in both your appearance and your attitude is because you want to attract a woman or man that will appreciate you. Many times I read forums and blogs where men are suggesting for other men to switch up their dress and “fake it till you make it” in order to attract a girl or score a date. The same can be seen on web spaces where a nerdy girl complains for lack of dates due to men not being interested etc. The problem with this “fake it till you make it” advice is that while it does work, you may end up landing a fish from the wrong side of the pond. Don’t Change… [Read more]