“Dear Dragon, my neighbor upstairs is in a new relationship and I can hear her bed hitting the wall hard almost every night at the same time (2 am), what the hell! How do you talk to her without the embarrassment?” – Steven.K I had this same problem Steve when I moved into my new house. It didn’t help much that the chick was a straight up block rocker, nothing cute about her – and she was on bitch mode on the regular. So giving the boyfriend a pound and hollering at him wasn’t even possible. I’ll get back to my story but my advice is to holler at the dude, our male bond makes a question like that more of a prop than a diss. Do you understand? I’d pull him to the side like “hey what’s up man, look its real funny to me but you and your girl wake me up like… [Read more]

“Dear Dragon, I am on the last nerve with my wife who has not had a job now for almost a year, doesn’t put any effort in finding one and bitches when I bring it up to her. We have been married for 4 years and we went through this on year 1 when she was unemployed and sitting home watching TV all day. The last time I yelled at her she got a job for a while but hated it and ended up getting fired. Now it’s the same thing, she doesn’t even cook or clean for me to consider her a housewife, I am basically her bitch that brings home the money. How do I get her to grow the hell up?” – William.T So you’ve married a bum and are now pissed off at that bum for being a bum? This may not be the answer that you’re looking for but you chose to… [Read more]

“Hey Dragon, check this out – I talked to a white woman who has 2 kids from her former husband (black man) and she’s now dating a white guy who ever so often gives her flack about her being with a black man and having his children. This is supposedly a white dude from ‘the hood’ too with ‘many black friends’! What’s the deal with that? I have Latin girls who told me the same thing about their Latino boyfriends too.” – Calvin.D Hey Calvin, black stepfathers are guilty of the same bull… (I know a lot of guys who would quickly remind their black woman about the white man that ran out on her after knocking her up) but before I go in on dumb women who let jackasses get near their kids, I want to talk about racism for a bit. What’s sad about the situation that you describe is the often hushed… [Read more]

Dear Dragon, I have been with my boyfriend for a few months now and I really think he’s the one. We have a very active sex life and I honestly do enjoy it. However, I have a more kinkier side to myself and I am afraid of scaring him away. How do you suggest that I introduce that side of me without him feeling like he’s doing something wrong? – Thanks, Karen Hi Karen, unless your man is one of these repressed religious types that is drunk on the Kool-Aid I can put money on it that it’s game on if you try him. Wait! You aren’t trying to put a deal in his deal or anything are you? There are lines that most men won’t cross so I would encourage you to feel him out during one of your sexy chat moments or one night when he’s good and tipsy. Listen your man may… [Read more]

“Dear Dragon should I hit a married girl who acts single? well I mean it’s like she and her man are married, live together, just don’t really care. Have grown apart or something, don’t even wear rings. Do you hit it or no?” – Patrick.T Hey Patrick in a perfect world that’s game on all day every day right there. The complication comes with whether you know the husband or not though. If you know the man, have met him or gone to his house for football then write her off. If he’s a stranger then you aren’t in the wrong for playing paramour to his estranged wife – sure many will disagree but there are hundreds of married couples out there using the “we are separated” card to f@!k other people, so why not you? Look, I call it the Bettie Draper / Carmella Soprano treatment. With those two women from their respective shows… [Read more]

“Dear Dragon, there’s this guy I met recently and being the nice person I am, I didn’t exactly push him away. When I finally told him I have a boyfriend it seems as if it made him more aggrsssive. Almost as if it made me more appealing. Am I crazy or do guys get off on the fact that the woman is already spoken for?” – Cenise.R Cenise that man knows that he cannot win you over but is bullying around in his own bullshit to see if he can get in your panties for bragging rights. It’s an extremely silly game that we play, especially guys that aren’t exactly cool. WARNING: The following explanation has very strong language so reader beware. Most Some men take great pleasure in cutting another man’s balls off to assume dominance through ridicule. It is such a pleasant game to us that we take pleasure in lightly jabbing at… [Read more]

“Dear Greg, I am having trouble dating because it is hard to keep men in my life due to none being interested or wanting to stick around. My last boyfriend told me that I don’t need a man, and no men would want me – at the time I thought he was just being mean but its all coming true. Is this the way men think, that my independence is a sign that I neither want or need them? The comment that I have always heard is that I am unapproachable, how do you determine this? Is it looks? Guys can be so frustrating to understand and it annoys me that I am not given a chance.” – Paula G. Hey Paula, you may be giving out negative signals if men aren’t even getting to know you before they throw the towel in. It could be the frowned brow, or mean eyes that you give… [Read more]

“Dear Dragon, I don’t want to sound conceited but why do so many men seem to either feel or be intimidated by me?” – Haseena.Z Well Haseena, what you suffer from my dear is The Curse of Being A Beautiful Woman – don’t deny your looks for fear of conceit, if you have it going on then you have it going on. Let’s break it down starting with the obvious, you are a beautiful woman so immediately from the jump you will scare away half the guys who secretly can’t get enough of you. Men are strong naturally, but when it comes to women, an inexperienced guy always fears being that dude who is shot down by the beauty in an embarrassing way. I need to figure out a way that a beautiful woman can signal to us guys that she is safe to approach (I know lol) and that even if she is not… [Read more]