“Dear Dragon, I read your article on “ride-or-die” chicks and related to the post in a very personal way. My boyfriend and I have been together for 5 years and have a home and a beautiful baby girl together. The problem is that I am constantly finding him talking to other women… I know that he has cheated on me, but it’s hard to catch. When he leaves I have no idea if he’s telling the truth or not, I am 21 and he is 22, and I want to know if I am wasting my time. I am definitely that R.O.D. chick for him but will he realize that I put a lot of work into us and settle down? Why does he keep doing this stuff when I literally beg him not to and it’s the only thing I ask of him? I’ve EARNED that much. Is he just greedy? Is it too… [Read more]

“I’m currently in a situation where my significant other makes less money than I do. I’m not bothered strictly by the fact that he makes less money but more so by the fact that he readily states that he wants to work more/make more money, but isn’t willing to expend the effort required to ensure that happens. I really tried to be what a lot of men here have said they want… a ride-or-die chick – Someone to hold them down rain or shine. Five years I’ve done that. But what I have yet to see a man state is exactly where the buck stops. I’m not about trying to change someone into what I think they should be. As quite a few have pointed out, a person is going to be who they’ve always been. In my case, I didn’t understand how that would play out in real-time, because as we all know, there… [Read more]

“I met this young lady at the gym and we had a few conversations then I asked her to lunch. She accepted the invite with the understanding that I knew her source of income (She told me off the top). My plan was just to have a good time but then I got to know her. She’s been there for me when noone else has. She makes me feel comfortable enough for me to think she’s not cheating or hoeing her self… But anything is possible. Can I marry this woman, under this situation?” – Jimmy Hey Jim, thanks for writing me about this lovely lady of yours. It sounds to me like you have some doubts my man and doubts will make that whole “eternal trust” thing a tad too complex to be happily married (just my opinion). What you need to do is come to terms with yourself on this mistrust and consider… [Read more]

“Hey Greg, when I read on message boards about what men dislike that we girls do in bed, laying still during missionary seems to be the number 1. What exactly do you want us to do when we’re on our backs? What do you expect from us? It isn’t a flexible position to hump you guys back, so what else can a gal do but lay still?” – Elise.J Hey Elise, when it comes to missionary it is the subtleties that count in terms of feedback. Many women get confused when they hear men complain about women who “just lay there” or “do nothing” when we’re on top because you view the position as one of relaxed acceptance. While we man may be doing the majority of the work, the one thing that we are looking for is feedback on our performance. It doesn’t have to be a verbal “yes that’s the spot baby”, or… [Read more]

“Dear Dragon - What if you had a girl that all she thinks about is having sexual intercourse with you, and you’re like, “I don’t want to” but she insists on seeing you, knowing all she wants to do is have sex. Would you break up with her because of their nympho ways or you would just give in?” – Patrick Give in! If you are young and not really looking to settle down just yet then you are going to regret turning down all of that hot, unbridled action in the future. If you are an older man in your late 30’s and trying to find a wife then maybe you move on, but it is completely up to what you ultimately want out of that relationship. Most men pursue women for companionship and of course some sweet sexual intercourse. When you hit the lotto and your girl is a fan of your sex game,… [Read more]

“Dear Dragon.. I am a woman who is very much in love with my boyfriend and we have been together for several years. I made the mistake faking my orgasms and I want to tell him so we can start our sex life over, but I don’t know how to do that without him hating me. I really love the person he is and I know he is “the one” which is why I want to come clean. How do you tell a man that you’ve been faking it without it sounding like he sucks in the bedroom?” - Signed, Tough Love Hey Tough Love, there’s a reason why men care about a woman’s orgasms and it isn’t very complicated. We men want to know that we are doing a good job so that there is no question as to whether we will get more job offers, or a possible referral. At the very minimum men… [Read more]

  “Dear Dragon, I read your site often and I am a big Jessica Alba fan (seen her on your top 100) but my girl is giving me all sorts of grief about her. What do you say about a girl who gets jealous about your celebrity crush? I notice that she even talks about dudes like Bradley Cooper and I don’t even trip over it but she get mad over Alba? Sup with that?” – Frustrated Fred Men of the Hall, take this however you want to take it but if you are with a new girl and she freaks out over your liking a celebrity woman or watching porn then you are in for a world of hurt if you stick around. There is nothing positive that comes out of dating a control freak with low self-esteem and that chick will ruin you and waste your time by the time she’s finished. A… [Read more]

“Dear Dragon, my neighbor upstairs is in a new relationship and I can hear her bed hitting the wall hard almost every night at the same time (2 am), what the hell! How do you talk to her without the embarrassment?” – Steven.K I had this same problem Steve when I moved into my new house. It didn’t help much that the chick was a straight up block rocker, nothing cute about her – and she was on bitch mode on the regular. So giving the boyfriend a pound and hollering at him wasn’t even possible. I’ll get back to my story but my advice is to holler at the dude, our male bond makes a question like that more of a prop than a diss. Do you understand? I’d pull him to the side like “hey what’s up man, look its real funny to me but you and your girl wake me up like… [Read more]