Feb 17
Beautiful woman takes off mask

When people come together anonymously and call themselves a community it can become very confusing as to who is genuine. We see it on social media more than anything else but forums has always been the king of this activity. The hive mind is built by the most vocal members and before long the lesser drones begin to echo their mantra as if it was fact. This happens on any forum that you visit across the internet, even within a blog community–through the comment section. You get a handful of opinionated regulars that speak on a subject to the point where they become assumed authorities on it. People get used to their answers and before long they develop a following. Why is it so easy for us to do this? Us of course being the vocal, frequent-visiting, knowers of everything. I’ve seen people on forums spin… [Read more]

Jan 21

There have been plenty of times in the last few years when I’ve seen the family members of friends getting over on them in one way or another. Some family members use their loved ones to get loans (that they don’t intend on ever repaying), to get free room and board, and to get limitless help–when life knocks them down. While it’s noble to offer help without want of payment to a family member, we all know that there are some people who will cross the line and take it to another level beyond charity. Let’s talk about bad friends and family members, and why we cannot treat everyone the same based on relationship ties. To the users and abusers, life isn’t about one hand washes the other, it’s about squeezing. If you have it to give, they have the hands to take, and they… [Read more]

Jan 14

Imagine that you come home from a long, stressful day of work, and you walk inside of your house to find that you’re in The Twilight Zone. Your vision blurs, you lose your balance, and you end up in a long hallway lined with doors. The hallway seems to go on forever, and when you try one of the doors it opens up to a large 60″ television, an assortment of game systems–with games–and the cushiest seat known to man. Sounds awesome, right? The next door has a new PC, fast internet, and your Facebook profile is beckoning you to hop on and engage with friends and family. You close the door fast (that Facebook crack rock is mean!), now understanding that the doors all lead to comfortable, fun things, but you want to know what’s at the end of the hall. As you start down the hall peeking into… [Read more]

Jan 12

Alright boys, listen up… I’m about to give you two ways to keep your lady satisfied without very much effort: One: Every phone call/text deserves a response. It doesn’t matter if you’re a workaholic, have multiple jobs, or are knee deep in the entertainment industry, we need a response. If you have time to eat and drive to where you are going, you should have time to respond to her. A ten second message to let her know that it will be a while before you can engage her in an actual real conversation will get you a lot further than just blowing her off and apologizing about it a couple days later.  Even if it’s a quick call on your way to a meeting, putting in those few seconds will buy you hours of time to yourself. Example: All it takes is a quick “oh, hey, just wanted to let you know that I… [Read more]

Jan 06

I’ll never forget it, the time when I drove for miles out of town to see a girlfriend—that invited me out there—and ended up spending three days watching television, walking around town by myself, and feeling salty in general. Why? She had a dude in town that she was messing with. I found this out by talking to the dude—bros gotta talk—when I saw him and figured that something was off about the situation. I ended up driving home after cussing this girl out, and although we’re still cool, I will never forget it. I can laugh about it now, but at the time she was the devil to me, and I always wondered why she bothered to invite me out there when it was obvious that our thing was over. Recently I added a similar situation to my newest book “Re-Wired“, and it was… [Read more]

Dec 12
Father playing with a baby at the beach

  “I have always been the one to carry the weight of this family/relationship. I work, and solely provide the support to sustain our household. He just finished school and aspires to be a career athlete and absolutely refuses to function in a typical work setting or “settle” for a 9-5 job.” – letter to me from a Lady Dragon If it’s one thing you realize when you grow up–I mean truly grow up–is that you were one bullheaded, young fool at one time. You thought you had it all figured out, and that your opinion on things would never waver.  Good girls came and went, but you were looking to smash (you’ll just find another one…when it’s time). Smash em, and smash em, and smash em all. SMASH, SMASH, SMASH, SMASH, SMASH, howl at the moon, and smash some more! That’s how we do… [Read more]

Dec 03

Many of you have talents, both evident and hidden within you, but you fear taking action to present them to the world. You look at the people who act, and you say “I wish I could do that”, or “One day I will do that”, but time has never been about uplifting the doubtful. People don’t help, especially if they know that they can sway you towards the negative, and many of us aren’t born with enough of that fire to push past everything and strive to ascend. This does not mean that you should accept that being stagnant is your fate. I will not sit here and pretend to know the answer for motivation, and enabling action, but I can tell you that failure is not as devastating as you think it is. Failure is a part of the game, and while success is what… [Read more]

Oct 29

I am a hardcore reader. This has been true since I was a young boy sneaking through my mother’s novels, up until now where I fly through about two books a week. Reading has never been a bother; it has been a privilege. When I first started to think about writing a book, I was going to make it an extension of the Hall, and expound upon a topic that I felt would be helpful to our young men. My aim was to write a book about confidence. I wanted to show boys how to attain it, through proven methods, and personal ones that have helped me through the years. When I got to about 30,000 words I began to do research on reader demographics, and what I found knocked the wind out of my sails. I put a stop to the book, which I… [Read more]