Nov 05

Time and time again I run into men and women that have big dreams but lack the ability to set them in motion. To them, people who move on their ideas have a special gift; more drive, and more education. I don’t think that this is true. Many times an idea being made into a reality has to come from you breaking ground and attempting to build–even if it’s completely wrong. What I have found is that as you build upon it, the people that know how to do it correctly will help you out in correcting your approach and when you have it built incorrectly, you will have no qualms with tearing it down and trying again. The biggest part in all of this is that you put forth the effort. “A brilliant idea with no execution is worthless” Have you ever met someone… [Read more]

Oct 31

“I sexed more with conversation than I ever did with my penis or my tongue.” – Iceberg Slim If you’ve read any of Robert Beck’s books you will understand why his genius and mastery of words reflect a complex creature that could not be summed up simply as a pimp. His words had a way of putting you in the moment, lulling you into his reality of wire hanger whippings, luxurious hotel rooms, and the drugs of the time that kept him so aloof that he earned the street moniker Iceberg. Pimping is a cruel, evil institution that has been strangely glamorized in Hollywood and music alike, but to say that the mythical pimp (not the real kind) does not hold a certain appeal to damaged young men is to be dishonest or dare I say ignorant to the culture. What is it about a pimp that… [Read more]

Oct 29

Catcalling, or “hollering at females” is the new target of attack as the continued march against everything male picks up steam on the internet. While I have personally asked the catcallers in our fellowship to stop—since it’s more demeaning to them than helpful—it is still being touted as an “all male” problem, instead of a “certain type of guy” problem. What I’m seeing is that it’s demeaning, it makes women uncomfortable, and it’s annoying UNLESS that guy is someone appealing. Let a 6’5” Boris Kodjoe looking dude with a $1,000 suit on catcall a woman and I bet she wouldn’t be rushing off to complain about it on her blog. It’s like when a celebrity with a big penis gets put on blast for a sex tape or selfie sent to a mistress. You would think that his female fans would be disappointed at his… [Read more]

Oct 22

As men we aren’t given the luxury of crying, bragging about cyber-stalking our exes, and blaming the patriarchy (well some of you still do this); this does not mean that you have no options. Men find it just as hard to get over an ex as women do but society makes it very hard to express. In the 1996 movie Swingers, Mike played by Jon Favreau portrays a guy that cannot get over his ex, no matter how many strange women, theories and strippers that his friends throw his way. Many of us are wired differently, so while it may be easy for a guy like me to say “get over her and move on”, the truth of the matter is that like Mike, many of you simply can’t. The following list is of some real things that you can do as a man to… [Read more]

Oct 14

Dear Dragon, I am at a complete loss for words when it comes to my relationship. My boyfriend is a “thug” and I am a college student that is smart, kind, caring, loving, and nurturing. We have been together for well over a year and he has a child that I love and adore like my own. My problem is that he is obsessed with making dirty money that he thinks he can turn into clean money. I feel as though there are too many risks involved, especially since he has a kid in the picture. Though he lives at home with his mother and is not open to my suggestions of getting government assistance, i really want to help him change his life. He had a rough childhood that has even bordered on suicide but he is a great guy who genuinely cares for me…. [Read more]

Oct 07

Let me preface this by saying that myself and this list represents the standard, hyper-masculine male that is firm in who he is and what his role is when it comes to love and relationships. The doorway to gender-obsolete, feminist la-la land is over there, read at your own discretion. For women that wish to know what guys appreciate in terms of the little things you do, the following is my illustrious list of what men like… 1. Feeling Useful – It may seem like you’re being a hassle asking him to kill a bug or open a jar of spaghetti sauce but trust me he likes that you need him for that. 2. Women That Like Porn – If you ask a ton of questions during the scenes “do you like stuff like that?”, “Do you think those tits are hers?” then it’s annoying… [Read more]

Oct 02

Do the people in your life stress you out when they bring up the word “vacation”? If yes, then welcome to the club my friend, here’s a jacket and a cigar, have a seat. For those of you whose idea of a vacation is to squeeze in as many activities as possible within an agenda, let me explain to you why many of us “workaholics” opt out of your plans if possible. Some (not all) of us are so pressured by our jobs that time away becomes time punished due to the backlash that occurs on our return. For the outsider who isn’t in a position like this privilege makes them say “you need to get away! You work too much.” This makes a lot of sense when you’re on the outside look in but it will not compute in the mind of the painfully… [Read more]

Sep 30

If you are a man in a relationship with a beautiful woman, or a man with the ability to date a beautiful woman then you may find yourself asking this question. In all of the movies and stories we see that pretty people hook up with pretty people but in real life it never seems to work out that way does it? We may as well ask if a celebrity should only date other celebrities. It becomes a question of confidence and if a man is asking this question then there is a chance that his confidence will not allow him to be comfortable with the beautiful woman in question. When men see a beautiful woman it can sometimes seem extremely unlikely that she would be interested. This is mainly due to the laws of life and the food that we have been fed since… [Read more]