Oct 29

Catcalling, or “hollering at females” is the new target of attack as the continued march against everything male picks up steam on the internet. While I have personally asked the catcallers in our fellowship to stop—since it’s more demeaning to them than helpful—it is still being touted as an “all male” problem, instead of a “certain type of guy” problem. What I’m seeing is that it’s demeaning, it makes women uncomfortable, and it’s annoying UNLESS that guy is someone appealing. Let a 6’5” Boris Kodjoe looking dude with a $1,000 suit on catcall a woman and I bet she wouldn’t be rushing off to complain about it on her blog. It’s like when a celebrity with a big penis gets put on blast for a sex tape or selfie sent to a mistress. You would think that his female fans would be disappointed at his… [Read more]

Oct 22

As men we aren’t given the luxury of crying, bragging about cyber-stalking our exes, and blaming the patriarchy (well some of you still do this); this does not mean that you have no options. Men find it just as hard to get over an ex as women do but society makes it very hard to express. In the 1996 movie Swingers, Mike played by Jon Favreau portrays a guy that cannot get over his ex, no matter how many strange women, theories and strippers that his friends throw his way. Many of us are wired differently, so while it may be easy for a guy like me to say “get over her and move on”, the truth of the matter is that like Mike, many of you simply can’t. The following list is of some real things that you can do as a man to… [Read more]

Oct 14

Dear Dragon, I am at a complete loss for words when it comes to my relationship. My boyfriend is a “thug” and I am a college student that is smart, kind, caring, loving, and nurturing. We have been together for well over a year and he has a child that I love and adore like my own. My problem is that he is obsessed with making dirty money that he thinks he can turn into clean money. I feel as though there are too many risks involved, especially since he has a kid in the picture. Though he lives at home with his mother and is not open to my suggestions of getting government assistance, i really want to help him change his life. He had a rough childhood that has even bordered on suicide but he is a great guy who genuinely cares for me…. [Read more]

Oct 07

Let me preface this by saying that myself and this list represents the standard, hyper-masculine male that is firm in who he is and what his role is when it comes to love and relationships. The doorway to gender-obsolete, feminist la-la land is over there, read at your own discretion. For women that wish to know what guys appreciate in terms of the little things you do, the following is my illustrious list of what men like… 1. Feeling Useful – It may seem like you’re being a hassle asking him to kill a bug or open a jar of spaghetti sauce but trust me he likes that you need him for that. 2. Women That Like Porn – If you ask a ton of questions during the scenes “do you like stuff like that?”, “Do you think those tits are hers?” then it’s annoying… [Read more]

Oct 02

Do the people in your life stress you out when they bring up the word “vacation”? If yes, then welcome to the club my friend, here’s a jacket and a cigar, have a seat. For those of you whose idea of a vacation is to squeeze in as many activities as possible within an agenda, let me explain to you why many of us “workaholics” opt out of your plans if possible. Some (not all) of us are so pressured by our jobs that time away becomes time punished due to the backlash that occurs on our return. For the outsider who isn’t in a position like this privilege makes them say “you need to get away! You work too much.” This makes a lot of sense when you’re on the outside look in but it will not compute in the mind of the painfully… [Read more]

Sep 30

If you are a man in a relationship with a beautiful woman, or a man with the ability to date a beautiful woman then you may find yourself asking this question. In all of the movies and stories we see that pretty people hook up with pretty people but in real life it never seems to work out that way does it? We may as well ask if a celebrity should only date other celebrities. It becomes a question of confidence and if a man is asking this question then there is a chance that his confidence will not allow him to be comfortable with the beautiful woman in question. When men see a beautiful woman it can sometimes seem extremely unlikely that she would be interested. This is mainly due to the laws of life and the food that we have been fed since… [Read more]

Sep 24

When I tell men that a woman sums us up within five minutes as to whether or not there will be sex and/or a relationship in the future, many argue back with the foolish notion that “game” is above natural selection. If you are one of the nonbelievers who believe that, please read this: “We end up meeting up on Monday (Labor Day) for coffee at a cute little cafe. Immediately, I know he’s not a match. It was just a feeling like, “I don’t EVER want to have sex with this person.” We grab coffee, go for a walk and he tells me all about the great work he is doing in the nonprofit world (which I commend), but he is still in his mid-thirties and flailing to find success in his life and profession.”  – (Emily – mylifeonmatchandmore) The above quote is from… [Read more]

Sep 17

“I Bet All The Nerds Loved Princess Leia” – K’ For a Sci-Fi fan, there is nothing more pleasurable than revealing one of your favorite stories or movies to a person who has never read, seen or experienced it. Even better is if that person is a child. Just think about it. Blowing a youngling’s mind with Star Wars, Aliens, or Terminator is just as rewarding as getting a chance at watching it all over again. This weekend I got that chance as I sat with my 16yr old Padawan and broke out the original Star Wars Trilogy for her to experience for the first time. While I expected her to fall in love with the series just like everyone else has. What I didn’t account for was her bringing my attention to a number of things that clashed with modern culture (stay-tuned). Though K’(that… [Read more]