Aug 22
disappointed black woman

It’s a fact that I am out of the dating pool, but there are times when I look at the current swimmers and notice certain patterns that make it hard for one group of people versus another. One such group are the agnostic and atheist black men. If you’ve been paying attention, you know that African American culture is very much of the church in more ways than one – especially women (nods at Tyler Perry). This isn’t to say that ALL black women are bible beaters because as a group black women are a million times more diverse than the media presents. But in the dating pool it can seem very one dimensional for a young man…  If you are anything but a Christian and you are into American black women, I am going to go out on a limb and say that it… [Read more]

Aug 14
black woman thinking

Reading the articles and general attitudes of the single women in the Washington DC area it seems that the search for a good, successful, single man is done out of want for a status symbol as opposed to a loving mate. Ladies correct me if I am completely off base with this but what would you assume if a man was to write the following inquiry from a place where women are scarce: “I have everything a woman could ask for around here; I have a new Benz, a plush apartment, all my teeth, a Doctorate, AND I’m about to make partner! Why are all the good girls around here acting as if they’re gold that I can’t afford?” I’m going to go out on a limb and say that question would put you on the defensive even without me having to name the area,… [Read more]

Aug 07
man jealous

In this world we have some pushy, entitled people who like to think that the world revolves around them when it comes to love. If you want to know if you are one of these people then check if you would answer yes to any of the following: Claim ownership to your lover after having sex even though he/she has not agreed to become your exclusive boyfriend/girlfriend. Get jealous and angry if a woman you are dating is seen out with a guy having drinks. Refuse to claim a woman as your girl but disallow any other guy to talk to her. Sorry ladies and gents but there is no extra step between dating and relationship; to let someone convince you otherwise is to do yourself a disservice as it only means that they are stringing you along in order to have a pass to… [Read more]

Aug 06
black woman gym

Dermatologists have said that it is not a good idea for a woman to wear makeup to the gym due to the clogging of pores and other forms of nastiness that occurs. But as we know, the penchant for looking good and the chance at snagging a dude can far outweigh health when it comes to our choices. So you’re seeking a Channing Tatum clone and decide that joining a gym is the place to find him. You’ve been watching the London Olympics and notice that the women are wearing makeup to complement their six-pack abs and 3% body fat – so you do the same expecting results. Sorry ladies, but most of you are not Olympians competing on the highest platform in the world for gold. You cannot use the make-up worn by Veronica Campbell-Brown, Carmelita Jeter or Venus Williams as your excuse for… [Read more]

Jul 27
hot blonde on date

Men how many times have you read articles written by confused women asking why it is that they are single when they have sooo much to offer? How many talk shows, Reality TV interviews, books, etc. have shown us this drop dead gorgeous woman complaining about her inability to find a guy? Tons of them right? What does a man say when he reads, hears or watches this stuff? A man thinks to himself “that’s all fine and dandy, but I bet she has a real annoying personality, or even worse – a ridiculous sense of entitlement.” I know that’s what crosses my mind, having known enough strong women in my time who remained chronically single, unaware that their poisonous demeanor was the culprit. I have learned that we all have a poor sense of self when reflecting back on why a date went south…. [Read more]

Jul 17
socially awkward woman

It’s a bit sad that we cater so much to the outgoing social women that we tend to generalize and paint every woman with the same brush. While many women may have girlfriends, take pleasure in using girl power to make things harder in the dating game and comment on relationship blogs, they are not the whole. Socially awkward women are everywhere, some are beautiful physically, some are beautiful mentally, and others are just normal. We never speak to them because they shrink back into the background as props and watercolor to our animated series of life. The bold, sometimes loud girl commands attention in a room; she likes us but wants us to chase her while her socially awkward friend would love to talk to us but doesn’t know how to make it happen. As men we know it’s as simple as some eye… [Read more]

Jun 28
crazy second date

It’s interesting how things get misinterpreted in the dating game due to lack of communication between the sexes. One of the biggest examples of this is when a guy stops calling after what seems to the woman to have been the perfect 2nd date. She’s confused, he moves on and she tells all her friends about it. So what really happens after that 2nd date to make a guy vanish from what a woman could read as an obvious love connection? Ask a woman and she will say one of many things that are nowhere near accurate. Having dropped a few numbers myself in the past, and speaking with men out there dating today – I will present you with the real reasons why you never got a call back from that guy: Darren S. Single, IT Professional who dates to find his future wife…. [Read more]

May 15
happy guy talking to girl

Don’t you hate nosy people? I know I do. Many of us men come up being extremely private to the point where we turn off family members and friends just by the amount of silence we keep about our love lives. Oft times this code of silence comes from being burnt one too many times by big-mouthed people who make us feel uncomfortable for our preferences and choices throughout our dating lives. Having dated a number of different women from across the spectrum of race, style and class – I know all too well the comments and hurtful jokes that gets thrown at single men for their choices. When I was in college I dated a number of light-skinned black girls, not because that was my thing, but because they were the ones who were talking back to me. You know the game denizens, hell… [Read more]