Aug 25
Three men at a bachelor party

Having attended and partially hosted a number of bachelor parties, I have learned that it is very easy to get the groom burned instead of entertained and sent off into the magical world of marriage. Most of the problems that arise from this tradition is due to men behaving badly, and though most of it is avoidable, you will always have an idiot losing his mind and burning everyone in the process. Selfishness and a spotty memory comes with the alcohol that flows at a bachelor party, so it becomes really easy to forget why you’re there. The bachelor parties that end up being the most successful tend to be the ones where the groom’s true friends are there. Friends who want to make sure that whatever they do, the man is entertained and sent off properly. Disaster strikes when you have a married guy… [Read more]

Jan 15

You’ve probably heard the saying don’t blame the player blame the game (we could probably say don’t blame the player blame the dame), but what kind of friends do you have, if you can’t trust them around your girl? There are two very different opinions on trust, one pretends that men have no self control, and the other makes women into blameless victims. Some guys believe that it’s the ultimate test of their girl’s loyalty if she can suffer the whims of the crowd and then there are guys who believe that their boys should know better, even if their girl is giving them positive feedback when they push up on her. This all goes to show that some men do not abide by the rules. The man laws clearly state that you should place your friend’s woman in the same category as moms and… [Read more]

Nov 26

In another one of those “studies that tend to piss women off” it was recently found that the secret to marital bliss—for men—is in having an attractive wife! In a study, published in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 450 newlywed couples were given the lab animal treatment for four years and psychologist Andrea Meltzer along with her team came to the conclusion that a woman’s beauty plays a major role in her husband’s marital satisfaction. On the flip-side a man’s attractiveness served little impact on his wife’s happiness throughout so it will suffice to say that we are as shallow as we are said to be… or worse. No, not really… keep reading. It leads me to think of a scenario where a man is having a hard time connecting with his beautiful wife but every time he wakes up and sees her… [Read more]

Sep 25

If you had to choose between marriage to a great partner and success with freedom to go and do whatever you feel, which would you choose? This is all hypothetical so I want you to drop the defensive mindset that makes you want to argue that the two can coincide. Which of these realities would be the most important to your life? I felt the need to ask this after I took note of the amount of divorces I see happening because one partner is an ambitious berserker, while the other wants to have the traditional middle class lifestyle. Nobody wants to be the one waiting, but at the same time, if you are a person who pushes for a greater quality of life, you may not realize that you have someone waiting. It’s a difficult situation for both parties and it comes down to… [Read more]

May 09

Is marriage the gold standard that all couples are meant to reach in their relationship? If we do not have a diamond ring and wedding bands circling the third finger of our left hand, a home with a picket fence and children are we missing the mark somehow? Speaking strictly from my own experiences of dating, love and marriage – I don’t think so. Some research has shown that cohabitation is a sort of illusion of a trial marriage type of thing. And that is only correct if we are assuming that marriage is the end goal. And also assuming that marriage equals commitment; and sadly to say that when we have a human factor involved – there is no guaranteed commitment. To be clear, I am not anti-marriage but I am also not pro-marriage; I am in a committed relationship with my partner and… [Read more]

Apr 03

Our generation of men has possibly become the torch bearers for the bachelor way of life. Our emotions regarding relationships are not excessively unfavorable or even optimistic since we view marriage as one of a couple living options in the future. For many years in this country, women were treated like 2nd class citizens; they weren’t allowed to leave their parent’s houses until they were married and to get married they had to be courted. Women had to rely on a husband to take care of the finances while she took care of the children and home. Well now times have changed and many women are making just as much or more than men. Women no longer need a man to survive People can take care of themselves now and don’t need to partner up with someone to get through the tough times. This has led to… [Read more]

Jan 29

Shame on me for reading an article on marriage from the king of conservative websites, but my curiosity led me over to Fox News to read Steven Crowder’s A man’s top 5 reasons to grow up and get married. Expecting a solid piece giving new energy to the notion of marriage, I instead got an offensive piece of Beta man garbage rife with insults at any man who didn’t fit into the married club. The narrative was one of fairy-tale fantasy that directly contradicted the realistic view that intelligent married couples have been trying to present in the last few years. The pragmatic married couple who single folks respect will tell you that marriage takes work, it takes sacrifice, and the rewards may not always be worth the effort. The people who argue for marriage will tell you that for all the hard times you… [Read more]

Jan 17

When my best friend Phil asked his lady Bridget to marry him and she said yes, he was absolutely beaming with excitement. Come four months later though, his ear-to-ear grin had been replaced by a stiff, resolute scowl. What had happened? His sassy, quirky fiancé had been transformed into the dreaded, stereotypical bridezilla. Worse, he was bearing much of the brunt of her unrestrained crazy; if he tried to help with the planning process, he was “in the way” but if he did nothing then she deemed him “unappreciative and indifferent towards their marriage.” When the day of their wedding actually arrived, he was just as happy that there would be an end to the emotional, frantic insanity as he was to actually be marrying the woman. So, when I asked my fiancé, Amanda, to marry me two years later, I was determined to learn… [Read more]