May 27

This past weekend, me and a couple of my friends were out and about having drinks outside of a nightclub. The club in question is one that has a reputation for being a cougar hunting ground so many players go out there to “get chose” so to speak by ladies north of forty looking to have a good time. After a few hours pass a few single friends of mine were spotted making an entrance, we (the boys at the table) introduce them to our girlfriends and wives and they made nice before proceeding in to the hunting grounds to do their thing. After an hour or so, one of the guys exits from the dance floor with a woman in tow—their hands liberally exploring each others bodies—and they walk around a corner and disappear. As we watched this go down, my buddy’s lady—looking baffled—asked… [Read more]

May 23

There has been much discussion lately about women that date broken men only to be disappointed continuously in the end. Women that get with men struggling and weather the storm for a time in hopes of helping their partner find a place of normalcy. And why not? Many good men take on multiple jobs and more in order to support a woman going through school or going through hardships. Relationships are built on support before anything else right? But what I want to talk about today is a specific dynamic, the one where a woman finds a man in a bad situation and chooses to become the light in his life. Let’s not confuse these “saints” with women that purposefully find “projects” to enhance and show-off to their fellow white-collar girlfriends as the women in this situation genuinely want to help their men. In many… [Read more]

May 20

They say that all we need is love but in reality all we need is someone that fits into our world that worships the same god we do, stays thin, is of a “good” height, and can broil a mean fish dinner (Afro Samurai reference ftw). Our standards can seem—for lack of a better term—ridiculous when we write them down on paper can’t they? Everyone has their flavor but many of our preferences are echoed by so many that it seems like a normal thing to demand them of people who can’t fix it. Like height! Seriously? In any event, the following list is of ten deal breakers that I have heard over the years when it comes to dating. 1. Hygiene isn’t just a greeting Get it? Like “Hi Gene”? No? Okay whatever. Ever get into a relationship with someone that you really like only to… [Read more]

Apr 08

Is it true that more often than none it’s the woman that initiates and/or pushes for unsafe sex? When people talk about men and women not “strapping up” they romanticize it into this theory that involves a discussion, a clear choice, and two idiots tempting fate. But life doesn’t work this way does it? There is no choice wheel that pops up with a sad face next to the bad decision and smiley face next to the good one. No, choices are given mere moments. When sex happens—and I am looking at you young, single guys on the hunt—it happens sporadically and you only get one chance at a bad decision before you are stuck with an annoying STI for life. Have you seen Dallas Buyer’s Club? If you haven’t I would highly recommend it. DBC is one of the best unsafe sex deterrents in… [Read more]

Apr 07

For the longest time we have seen Hollywood showcase “the strong silent type” as the epitome of manliness. Turns out that they were not too far off the mark. Recent studies have shown that quiet men are regarded as more manly and attractive to the opposite sex and both men and women prefer mates whose voices sound familiar in some way (source). I want to stay a bit on the deep voice thing though since it pretty much debunks the whole ideology that women are no longer liking macho men. “Researchers at McMaster University have found that women were more attracted to men with masculine voices, at least for short-term relationships.” – source The downside to this of course is that the same women who are attracted to the James Earl Jones and Keith David types assume that eventually they would cheat. Women in these… [Read more]

Mar 24

One thing we can all agree on is that we look to a leader to guide the way. Many associate leadership with bossing someone around which is understandable given the types of “managers” that populate the work force nowadays. But don’t get it twisted, a leader is a bit more than that. This misunderstanding of leadership becomes even more prevalent when a man hears a woman say that she desires a husband to “be a leader” in one breath while claiming independence in another. It may sound confusing but it’s not when you understand the concept of leadership. A Leader Versus A Boss Just from reading the titles “boss” and “leader” I am willing to bet that your mind rings negatively to one and positively to the other. Am I right? A leader seems elected, as in someone you want to follow whereas a boss… [Read more]

Mar 04
friend zone, kiss, interracial couple

Getting in the friend zone is something that men have lamented since the dawn of time. It is a situation that comes about from a lot of misunderstanding, fear, and a bit of entitlement. Generally men will put the blame on women for the friend zone, we tend to view it as manipulation on the part of the woman. She does just enough to keep you around but when you press the issue of a relationship, she shoots you down or limps away quickly. Comedian Eddie Murphy called it being a “Dick in the Glass Jar” because in essence you are being trained to become an extra “dick” in case the one she wants does not work out. Who here has been friend zoned? This is the part where I raise my hand. Chances are, many of you reading are in this situation right now. Well let’s… [Read more]

Feb 11

There will always be attraction in an office where men and women work in close vicinity. I would venture to say that when fallout happens at home for an attractive married person, the chance of the person they cheat with being an office-mate is pretty high. Office romances are a byproduct of working closely with someone for a period of time, the freedom of imagination, and that strange magic that makes someone grow more and more attractive to us as we get to know them better. For people who click with an office mate and would like to pursue a romantic relationship, there must be a level of maturity on both sides that is beyond what is expected of a stranger out on the streets. Dating a co-worker puts your job at risk from the outset and you must know the temperament and volatility of… [Read more]