Nov 25

One of the most common stereotypes that women get plagued with is the notion that complaining is happiness. Another one is that a woman is never truly happy with a man, even if he is the drama-free type that gives her the world. These stereotypes come from a root of confusion, negativity, and oversimplification when it comes to communication, or should I say lack thereof between the sexes. The very popular backlash against approaching women in public has become deafening on the web. At the same time we have another loud cry for men to take it old school and approach women to court them face-to-face. If you aren’t already shaking your head at the paradox, I would urge you to read the first two sentences of the paragraph again. Men are being asked to stay away from women in public, but at the same… [Read more]

Nov 04

There are generally two types of women that guys will try to ignore: The beautiful and overly friendly girl and the seemingly “out of my league” hawt. With the first girl the thinking can be one of “she is getting too much attention from strange guys, so I don’t want to be lumped in with them”, or “she will notice that I am the only guy not sweating her, wonder what my deal is, and go out of her way to get me talking”. Normally when it comes to beautiful women, the reason why men ignore them is probably the latter. This line of thinking can be easily snuffed out by a master she-wolf and is sometimes played to her advantage when she pours all of her attention unto Mr. “I’m pretending not to see you” and melts his firewall. Smart women that are somewhat… [Read more]

Oct 22

As men we aren’t given the luxury of crying, bragging about cyber-stalking our exes, and blaming the patriarchy (well some of you still do this); this does not mean that you have no options. Men find it just as hard to get over an ex as women do but society makes it very hard to express. In the 1996 movie Swingers, Mike played by Jon Favreau portrays a guy that cannot get over his ex, no matter how many strange women, theories and strippers that his friends throw his way. Many of us are wired differently, so while it may be easy for a guy like me to say “get over her and move on”, the truth of the matter is that like Mike, many of you simply can’t. The following list is of some real things that you can do as a man to… [Read more]

Oct 11

YES! Do you find that you like a particular set of men and women for their race before anything else that we would consider important? Think about it, we all have friends or family members that openly admit to only dating (insert race) girls, or (insert race) guys. These beloved members of our fellowship do not see anything wrong with their desire but for anyone hearing them and observing the pattern it is looked upon as a major problem. Members of minority groups who participate in this are given derogatory names, the man or woman that may have dated back to back members of another race are accused for having a “fetish”, wanting to be that other race and a number of other basic accusations. People get defensive, they say in one breath that they are all for “loving who you love” but then say… [Read more]

Oct 09

So many different studies have come out showing that “powerful” women are not the desired mates of their male peers. While there are a handful of power couples who somehow make it work a la Francis and Claire Underwood of Netflix’s House of Cards, the pattern seems to stay with “competition” causing a rift in the relationship. As we all know, compromise is one thing that keeps relationships solid, but support is the other big factor isn’t it? I think of “power couples” and I think of ego, a lifetime of “going it alone” and two people tempered in the flames of “the grind” where disappointment in humanity, money over everything, and keeping oneself shielded from exploitation is the norm. For two individuals like this to work, one would have to back down and let the other lead. I don’t care how many ideal scenarios… [Read more]

Oct 07

Let me preface this by saying that myself and this list represents the standard, hyper-masculine male that is firm in who he is and what his role is when it comes to love and relationships. The doorway to gender-obsolete, feminist la-la land is over there, read at your own discretion. For women that wish to know what guys appreciate in terms of the little things you do, the following is my illustrious list of what men like… 1. Feeling Useful – It may seem like you’re being a hassle asking him to kill a bug or open a jar of spaghetti sauce but trust me he likes that you need him for that. 2. Women That Like Porn – If you ask a ton of questions during the scenes “do you like stuff like that?”, “Do you think those tits are hers?” then it’s annoying… [Read more]

Oct 01

I don’t think that it is a bad thing for a man or woman to fade away from someone that they have been on one or two dates with. The beginning phase of dating is still a “getting to know you” period and while an overly invested person will dislike the split, you are still strangers with no attachment to one another. Almost daily I come across articles where men are being called cowards, mean, evil, and many other names for disappearing after date number 2 or 3. Usually these names are being hurled by women that have dated men, assumed that things were great (assumption is a common theme) and then get upset when that perfect guy stopped communicating. The last time that I was on The Love Jones Experience we discussed this very topic and myself and author Pamela Antoinette Lordette both agreed… [Read more]

Sep 30

If you are a man in a relationship with a beautiful woman, or a man with the ability to date a beautiful woman then you may find yourself asking this question. In all of the movies and stories we see that pretty people hook up with pretty people but in real life it never seems to work out that way does it? We may as well ask if a celebrity should only date other celebrities. It becomes a question of confidence and if a man is asking this question then there is a chance that his confidence will not allow him to be comfortable with the beautiful woman in question. When men see a beautiful woman it can sometimes seem extremely unlikely that she would be interested. This is mainly due to the laws of life and the food that we have been fed since… [Read more]