Deal Breakers – How to Fix Them
Deal Breaker: noun. Any issue or factor that is significant enough to terminate a negotiation. It could be that she loves pop music and you do not. She loves gourmet meals on a Friday night, but you are content with your Ramen noodles and chicken wings. You always put things back where you got them from and she is from the school of “I’ll do it later”. Whatever it is, if you treat it like a serious issue, it can always become a deal breaker. You have to remember that not all people have the same thought process when it comes... [Read more]
5 Reasons Why He Won’t Commit to Marriage
As I peruse many blogs daily on the internet there seems to be a very popular theme with marriage and why men won’t commit. The argument is largely one-sided as it is mostly women chiming in on it and hardly men. If you were to go on these blogs and take the testimonies and the feedback from their female commenters, you would think that most men are immature, clueless, or just plain stupid. The reason for this is there doesn’t seem to be much self-reflection from these women when it comes to why their 5+ year relationship... [Read more]
Worthless Love – Dating a Married Man
The cycle of the love affair with a married man almost always ends in broken hearts, hurt, and wasted time. Sure you have those once in a million times where the man actually leaves his wife for another, but for the most part, it is a script for adultery disaster. The love affair with the married man starts with a man who married for the wrong reasons and thus never truly felt fulfilled in his commitment to the wife. They probably have kids together and that is the only bond they share. The ideal woman for this guy is the girl who... [Read more]
Choosing a Mistress – The Tiger’s Guide
So if you’re like me and you have had enough of Johnny Media and this Tiger Woods circus, you have probably started making jokes or contributing jokes at the cablinasian’s expense. Well one of the discussions among “the boys” about Tiger’s fall from alleged grace is not so much why’d he cheat but where did he go wrong in getting caught. To most men, and some women it seems that Tiger’s hustle was wrong, he teed up for a Player’s game but bogeyed every hole (no pun intended) by literally... [Read more]
For the Love or Money?
Years ago I was asked the age old question “what type of man do you want to marry?”, and I, at the time being on level one – the fantasy girl – in my single woman plight, would rattle off about 10 “must haves” on a list that only Superman can live up to. The list was very specific about his personality, but the man having a hefty paycheck was never mentioned. My friends were always critical of this issue and I often wondered what was better, the age old saying “it’s better to have loved and lost” or the fact that... [Read more]
Relationships don’t have to be fattening
Lets face it folks, when you find someone to love, you tend to get a lot of good out of it but there are some bad things that can come into the mix. One of the bad things about the relationships is you tend to fall within an unhealthy comfort zone. The extra time which was spent in the gym or Club (building the sexy body needed to attract the next person) is replaced with eating out in restaurants, ordering in and watching television on the couch. Pretty soon into the relationship you cease to look like an athlete and begin to look like... [Read more]
The Lancelot Effect – Friends, Trust and Infidelity
You’ve probably heard the saying don’t blame the player blame the dame, but what kind of boys do you have, if you can’t trust them to leave your girl. I remember the first time I ran into this problem was when I dated a really attractive girl in college. Some of my supposed friends thought it was cool to try and get with her behind my sleeping back, unknowing that she was reporting back to me about every incident. There seems to be two very different opinions on this thing, each placing the brunt of the responsibility on either... [Read more]
Marriage is The New Black
I recently read an article that basically stated that marriage is a dying, archaic institution, especially for Black folks. Marriage is to partnerships what Beta-Max was to the revolutionizing of in home movie viewing. If 30 is the new 20, as professed by Jay Z, and we all agree that 20 is hot, then marriage is like 104 years old. Suffice to say, it is not hot. It is allergic to being hot. Now, as a married woman of some years (even that ever crucial 5th one), I can’t, for the life of me, understand what the problem is. ... [Read more]
Ear Buddies
Have you ever been walking along listening to you ipod and a song comes on that either moves you to want to break out in full Flashdance mode, or break down crying like the end of “Imitation of Life?” And all you can think is that you want someone else to hear it and feel what you feel…but you cant. Later, you try to describe the song and how it made you feel to someone, but they look at you like you’re crazy, but offer you affirmative responses, like they get it, when you both know they don’t. You... [Read more]
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