Now that I have experienced what it is to have a “failed marriage”, I often wonder why I am still hopeful about getting married again, and making it work. With the high rates of divorce and broken relationships, heightened by the recent debacle of Kim Kardashian, it is so easy to become cynical about “I dos”. Everybody has a personal rule as to what assures success or sure failure in marriage. I have heard advice ranging from “live with the person for at lest year, as in a trial run”, to the other side that says “If you shack up, your marriage is guaranteed to fail”.  There are also those who counsel – “Make sure you get to “know” the person. Date for at least one to three years”; yet I have a friend who got married two weeks meeting her husband, and in June of 2012 will celebrate their 40th anniversary. In twisted reference,… [Read more]

While single men and married men can hang-out and do many things together, there are a few zones that shouldn’t be crossed as it will lead to nothing but heartache and misunderstanding. Like it or not there are 2 differing factions when it comes to your social life. There’s the Player’s Club for Singles and the Couple’s Getaway Club for Married folks. Awkward feelings tend to arise when a member of one of these Clubs tries to enter into the other without the proper credentials. Being that I have been the awkward single guy in attendance at many a Couple’s Getaway, I’ve compiled a list of events that you should probably avoid attending as a single man. Couple’s Getaway Club Exclusives: Weddings – when you’re the last man single: So you have a clique of friends and you’re the last one left to be married. Attending that guy’s wedding will be annoying as hell when… [Read more]

Why spend a mint on a huge wedding only to lead a life of hard grinding, a debt ceiling that is as tall as a cathedral and an unhappy wife/husband bitching about money? Now as your friend and/or family member we have to hear you complain about your financial situation and how hard it is to keep up… yet you have a double income coming in. Why didn’t you think of this before showing up everyone with your 6-figure wedding bash? How is it impressing people if they already know that you’re about to spend 10+ years in the trenches struggling and putting strain on your marriage by working a way out of the hole that you’ve put yourself in? Recently I went to the wedding of a good friend of mine and it was small, intimate and very cost-effective. The couple love and understand one another to the point that they worked hard to… [Read more]

As if by magic, as soon as you turn 20 the question rears its ugly head. “When are you going to get married?” To be fair, I have been dating the same man for almost 3 years now and we have discussed the concept of marriage. Lucky me, we both seem to be on the same page. Marriage is something we are both interested in, but not something we want to rush into. I’m actually quite skeptical of marriage. The sacrament does not mean that you and your partner will never part. It does not mean you are each other’s slaves and it does not mean the relationship is easy. Love exists even if there is no marriage. The ability to have a family exists even if there is no marriage. People can live their whole lives together, happily in love, with many children, and never walk down the aisle. The only thing marriage gives… [Read more]

Newsflash, another celebrity is getting divorced! After 72 days of marriage, Kim Kardashian’s romance with Kris Humphries took a tragic turn as the E! reality star filed for divorce. Has the speedy termination of her wedding caused American youth to think twice about marriage? Probably. The truth is, Hollywood has been a long running bad advertisement for marriage in general. Seventy-two days is awesome! That’s about two whole months! I can list at least 5 Hollywood couples that didn’t last half that long. As a matter of fact, I think I will. Zsa Zsa Garbir and Felipe De Alba’s marriage was annulled after one day of marriage in 1982. Ms. Garbir was a big deal in early Hollywood. She even stared in the 1952 Moulin Rouge. This was her 8th marriage, and it wasn’t her last. Pop Star Britney Spears and Kevin Federline made headlines in 2004 when they married and had the ceremony annulled… [Read more]

My dear women (and men) of the world, if you are silently complaining about the 3-minute man in your life, you do us all a disservice by keeping it to yourself. If you think that a man automatically knows that he sucks at sex then you are wrong. If you think that a man knows the importance of satisfying your urges as much as his own then you are wrong. Finally, if you think that a man will not try to “fix” his sexual issue after he learns it then you are wrong. Machismo decrees that a man be a sexual dynamo for his woman but when you keep it a dirty little secret you both will lose. Suck at Sex? Then She Will Cheat! I don’t care if you’re the most humble woman in the world, if your guy hasn’t gotten you off in years and I come along and accomplish it in 30… [Read more]

Look as a man you are going to be tempted with beautiful “strange” at least once in your lifetime and it won’t matter if your wife is as beautiful and lusty as a Jada Pinkett-Smith or an Angelina Jolie-Pitt, you are going to think really hard on it. Come on man, you mean to tell me that you are so much greater than every other man that you could never in a million years be tempted to rendezvous with a seductress? Of course you will and for the weaker men who fold to the allure of strange ass you have a choice in HOW to deal with your guilt, your shame, and your WIFE! Why be an asshole about it? Become a cheater but for the sake of your nuptials and family become a “respectable cheater”, by keeping omerta and keeping your people unaware. The following are 5 simple steps in this process to help… [Read more]

Dear jump-offs, cheaters, escorts and stripper girlfriends. There will come a time when that married man with whom you’re having sex with will decide that you’re done and go back to his wife. At this time your instincts will tell you to run to the highest mountain and air his dirty laundry to the world. Don’t do it. Let me ask you a question rat girl, and think deeply on this one. How many mistresses have gained any kind of positive support, recognition or money (with the exception of baring him a keep-a-player baby) for squealing about an affair? I’ll sit over here and wait… Yaaaa ask Monica Lewinsky how being a dirty rat has worked out for her. Last time I checked she was a depressed shell of herself reeling off of the media cyclone and public scrutiny that came with her admission. How about all the blonde headed booty calls that Tiger Woods… [Read more]