Men all agree that going after a woman for romance only to wind up in her friend zone absolutely sucks. Many times it is due to our lack of game, terrible timing, or fear of asking (for you guys who think that a woman will just get the hint by you hanging out with her). There is a subset of guys however who think that they are in the friend zone but in reality are in a “holding cell”. This creates a complex dilemma for the woman because she does not want that guy to be in her friend zone but is too shy to upgrade him, fears he will reject her, or fears the chance of losing him altogether. Who are these guys? Many times these are the childhood friends who became handsome winners as they got older. Some of these men may have been put in the friend zone during courtship because the woman was going through the harshest… [Read more]

None of us have the intuition that a woman does – in order to figure out why we’re in the dog house. She may have come home one day and decided that your slovenly ways are not worthy of all the work she has put into her life and career. When she fussed at you, you thought it was cute and while you tried to be better about it, you just didn’t see it as serious. Now when you fall asleep (before her), negating to take her out weekly because you’ve become comfortable and too tired to make love to her because of long hours… she stares at you wondering on how it is she wound up with you. By the time she’s done this enough, talked with friends and family about it and listened in on her younger girlfriends brag about how their man blows their backs out nightly and sends them roses on surprise occasions,… [Read more]

Fun fact for the ladies: Men NEVER get over it. Women hate on other women due to the chance that this other woman can easily “take their man” due to the upgrade potential right? This is what was relayed to me from a female colleague that I debated with as she explained why Angelina Jolie was public enemy number one for women after acquiring Brad Pitt as her beau. The way she explained it was that a man standing with his girl who is a 7 (8 if she really tries) on the looks scale can easily lose her man to a 10 who puts in the extra sex appeal and game to upgrade to a 15 – which (according to her) renders us men into to slobbing, drooling, helpless cheaters. Brothers of the man race, this is how our women see it, and it is the reason why it is never okay for you… [Read more]

When a man and a woman meet, with the exception of men of power and wealth, the woman holds the cards. This means that as a man you are already losing even before you begin the relationship game. The woman is the one choosing to say yes or no to our advancements, and it is normally she who would pack up and leave if things take a turn for the worst. This puts a lot of men at ease with being the worker while their ladies control the books – from a business standpoint that is. Men in society are used to being the ones interviewing for the relationship job and women are the hiring managers. We don’t get the over gentlemen, unless you look like Idris Elba and make as much money as Stringer Bell, women that you want will still be the booker. The only guys who avoid this rule of life are… [Read more]

Are you a great listener to friends and coworkers as they unburden their problems on you? Do you find yourself the one who always know the right thing to say, full of nuggets of wisdom and advice? Be careful, this will fast become your part-time job. Often times it boils down to a single individual complaining about a boss, a partner, or some other personal matter, and it is not uncommon to find your posture changed from listening passively, to participating actively by literally being the shoulder to cry on, and the arms to provide comfort. But it never stops there, and eventually, sex – the great pacifier and purported healer is added to the mix. Unfortunately, this is the modus operandi of most cheaters. Biggest in the game is the married person who puts it up front that “yes I am married, but….” Once you step over this line willingly, there are no holds… [Read more]

Now that I have experienced what it is to have a “failed marriage”, I often wonder why I am still hopeful about getting married again, and making it work. With the high rates of divorce and broken relationships, heightened by the recent debacle of Kim Kardashian, it is so easy to become cynical about “I dos”. Everybody has a personal rule as to what assures success or sure failure in marriage. I have heard advice ranging from “live with the person for at lest year, as in a trial run”, to the other side that says “If you shack up, your marriage is guaranteed to fail”.  There are also those who counsel – “Make sure you get to “know” the person. Date for at least one to three years”; yet I have a friend who got married two weeks meeting her husband, and in June of 2012 will celebrate their 40th anniversary. In twisted reference,… [Read more]

While single men and married men can hang-out and do many things together, there are a few zones that shouldn’t be crossed as it will lead to nothing but heartache and misunderstanding. Like it or not there are 2 differing factions when it comes to your social life. There’s the Player’s Club for Singles and the Couple’s Getaway Club for Married folks. Awkward feelings tend to arise when a member of one of these Clubs tries to enter into the other without the proper credentials. Being that I have been the awkward single guy in attendance at many a Couple’s Getaway, I’ve compiled a list of events that you should probably avoid attending as a single man. Couple’s Getaway Club Exclusives: Weddings – when you’re the last man single: So you have a clique of friends and you’re the last one left to be married. Attending that guy’s wedding will be annoying as hell when… [Read more]

Why spend a mint on a huge wedding only to lead a life of hard grinding, a debt ceiling that is as tall as a cathedral and an unhappy wife/husband bitching about money? Now as your friend and/or family member we have to hear you complain about your financial situation and how hard it is to keep up… yet you have a double income coming in. Why didn’t you think of this before showing up everyone with your 6-figure wedding bash? How is it impressing people if they already know that you’re about to spend 10+ years in the trenches struggling and putting strain on your marriage by working a way out of the hole that you’ve put yourself in? Recently I went to the wedding of a good friend of mine and it was small, intimate and very cost-effective. The couple love and understand one another to the point that they worked hard to… [Read more]