Editor’s Note: I use very strong language in this post so care bears beware. There seems to be this attitude from people on the outside that the woman you cheat on your wife with had better look a lot better than your wife does. We take for granted the situation with which you meet and eventually begin sleeping with these women and instead imagine the world that Hollywood gives us in terms of “the jump-off”. Consider Tony Soprano, a husky mob boss on HBO’s The Sopranos who leaves the thick goodness that is his wife Carmella (played by Edie Falco) to go play in some of the most beautiful Italian and Russian women’s bedrooms. Tony pursues these women because he doesn’t respect his wife and family, he is a predatory person in all aspects of his life so marriage vows are a joke – he sees them, he woos them and then he jumps them… [Read more]

If you and your lover are always together, sharing friends, sharing hobbies, living, eating, breathing together every second of the day, you may start to find that your “still single” friends are not as friendly as they were back when you were in the salt mines together. What you may not realize is that you have informally lost your name in lieu of some combination thing that you are being referred as behind your back. You are no longer Bill and Jennifer, you’re Bennifer, no longer Sean and Elizabeth, you’re Shelizabeth. you have put this crown unto your head by making the mistake of being with your lady/man ALL THE TIME. Let Me Explain… I have 2 sets of happily married friends, one guy will come out with us solo and then return home when the night is over. We see his wife on events labeled “family”, at cookouts, on poker nights and during sporting… [Read more]

Do you ever notice that some folks get a free pass to be single whereas others are scrutinized? Probably not since nobody pays attention to the fact that a single person is pushed towards marriage while a divorcee is given a pass to never have to marry again. It’s almost as if getting married is the point but staying married is not as important. This strikes me as odd because if its all about people pairing up, why isn’t the divorcee pushed towards a second marriage as much as the person who hasn’t married in the first place? As an unmarried man I have heard some of the craziest and dumbest reasons why I should get married and have babies. One female friend of mine actually got upset with me because according to her I am the type of person that should be having babies but choose not to – I am what’s wrong with… [Read more]

Let me preface this by saying that in “winning”, I mean coming to common ground or leaving without malice, hurt or shame. Arguing with a woman for a man is very different from fighting or arguing with another man. Men tend to argue with logic whereas with women emotion plays up in a way that men will never understand. So for the man there is usually a feeling that fighting with a woman is futile and you either let her win to shut her up or avoid confrontation altogether. What we lose sight of as men is that it is the way we argue that makes it a losing battle for us every time. In the HBO show The Sopranos, I really liked the Christopher Moltisanti character because of the way that he and his fiance Adriana La Cerva argued. Chris went at her differently than he did with his fellow gangsters. He used the… [Read more]

One thing that people tend to neglect to do is to look in the mirror initially before making themselves the de facto financial expert in the relationship. In a lot of situations people who seemingly are doing well are just wearing a fancy mask to cover an ugly liability sheet. The person who doesn’t care about or ignores finances goes into relationships with these individuals that look good on the outside financially and then allows that person to take care of their finances also. Then a few years down the line when they’re both knee-deep in debt with no hope in sight he/she wonders at what went wrong with this seemingly smart individual. There are many snakes out there who hide their finances very well and show the outside world a picture of success and growth but in reality are no better off than someone working at a fast food restaurant. They may have some… [Read more]

Is it worth the time to teach someone that you have slept with (and like) the fine art of making love? Will it yield you and her the rewards of carnal pleasure if she could simply learn to do this or to do that? Is it worth it, or are you of the mind that anyone who isn’t a wife or long-term girlfriend is a potential flight-risk that will take your secrets and use it to blow the next guy’s mind? Or do you believe that sexual curiosity and performance is something that is naturally developed and cannot be taught? In short, you believe that a woman either has it or she doesn’t. Recently the big Celebrity dish has been that of the fractured relationship life of the original Lady Dragon Halle Berry. The Paparazzi scramble to snap pictures of she and her daughter and the writers insert anecdotes of beauty, bitter, broken and sometimes… [Read more]

There is something extra special and exotic about office booty for a man. See in the office it barely matters what you look like or how cool you are. It’s pretty much about time spent and attention given. Let’s face it women love attention and if they aren’t receiving it at home, the office is the perfect substitute. We spend most of our time there, with others sometimes sharing things other than what we do at home with our significant others. Many times an attractive woman will start working at your job and every jack ass within radius will be at her desk vying for her attention every second of the day. This is why it is easiest to get with the beta woman or the one who is not the focus of attention. Usually it starts with light conversation that leads to partnering up for projects, becoming lunch buddies and eventually she will be… [Read more]

Can we call a moratorium on the mom/girlfriend comparisons? Sure while many guys do look for women that hold traits that their mothers have, they aren’t the all. Many of us have developed a liking for women that are like our first girlfriend, like a character from a movie or just someone we consider cool. Thinking that you can gauge how a guy will love you by his interaction with his mother is a flawed concept. Think about it, there are pimps who keep their life’s work away from their families and look out for their moms just like there are womanizers who give the side-eye to men who come into their mother’s life. I have seen quite a few women try to meet my mother in order to put this silly theory to task but really it means nothing. Some guys I know worship their wives and treat their mothers like shit. All-in-all it… [Read more]