Sep 11

From the time my teenage daughter was a toddler, people have often commented on how “good” and “polite” she is when we are in public. When she comes home from a sleepover, the parents tell me she is welcome back at any time. Other parents often ask me how I raised such a great kid. I chalk it up to the fact that I made sure that my daughter and I remain close throughout the years, and she tells me she loves me daily.  Many will argue that raising a child is one of life’s most difficult tasks for those who are fortunate (or unfortunate) enough to experience it. Most have their opinion as to which stage is the hardest – newborns, terrible twos, tweens, or teenagers. My vote hands down is teenagers. They encompass all of the bad things that come with the other… [Read more]

Aug 09

One thing that we men love to do with our sons is to deck them out in the coolest gear that is somewhat reflective of the values we aim to place on them later. You’ve all seen it before, the little gentleman in his hat and matching vest with baby oxfords on, or the baby in all matching gear holding on to dad for dear life. It’s absolutely cool to have a mini-me that can match or complement you when you’re out and about isn’t it? I’ve always wondered at what age does  a father or mother start to influence the dress code on junior. From general observation it seems to be around the time he starts to walk. But what if the influence could start earlier – like from the time he is able to drool? Well Couture For Kids is a company that… [Read more]

Aug 06

I feel like I’ve been seeing articles and blogs all over the place talking about people that are living their lives childless. As if it’s some kind of condition. As I was making my coffee this morning I heard a journalist leading into a story on this topic and asked the question, “Have Americans really become so selfish that ‘having it all…’ means having no kids?” Really? I was instantly transported back to when I worked with sixth grade girls and we were having a discussion about what it means to be a woman and one of the students turned to me and asked, “Don’t you wanna be a woman, miss?” Confused since I was hovering right around the ripe old age of 30, had a full time job, my own car, apartment and a had received at least two college degrees, I asked her… [Read more]

Jul 22

Support for single fathers is a notion that gets dismissed or shrugged off by many of the most hateful women with platforms on the internet. This can be seen through the articles and commentary that cover the subject outside of magazines like this one or by actual supporters of children that come from broken homes. The last time I spoke on this subject I brought up the double standard in dating when a single father goes looking versus a single mother. My article, which was meant to bring attention to the fact that single dads have a hard time dating turned into a feeding frenzy for the standard, angry internet woman and her ilk. Knowing and seeing two fathers going through hell right now as their child’s mother uses the system and their children to limit time and resources (for more child support) it saddens… [Read more]

Jul 17

When it comes to teaching children about saving money, many parents assume that a good talking-to will be enough to set little Vinny or Mary on the path of financial freedom. Children are visual and imaginative so oft times the things that you are doing in your life can lead to them following or rejecting the notion based on whether or not they see you as a hypocrite. Another mistake that I see happen is when a doting parent will cut a child off cold turkey from the allowances and easy money in order to try and teach them financial education when they are already 16-17 years old. I would advise parents to instill a sense of spending moderation, rainy-day fund saving, and goal setting within a child before he/she is old enough to drive. The following are a number of tips that I know… [Read more]

Jun 20

Have we become a culture of “First World Problems”, or is it mistaken intent when we take each other to task over strong opinions? There seems to be a generational gap in hustle that I am seeing mostly in the younger men of our time. We can write for days on cause and effect but at the end of the day we need to figure out if there is a solution; a real solution to men losing their way. The age of the hustle is waning and more and more young men have resolved to being listless, drawling Omega Men with no ambition or aspirations towards the future. Oftentimes there is a family member or friend of these boys who comes to men like me and ask that we reach out and help the boys to “become motivated” or “get a job”. Let me be… [Read more]

Jun 14

Yesterday, Greg Dragon wrote an article about silencing those of us who rant on social media by sharing their “thanks Mom for playing Dad” stories. As an advocate for child abuse survivors and non-conformists everywhere, I beg to disagree with his varying thoughts on this. He states that those who rant on Father’s day are bitter and want to mess up the holiday for everyone else and that the rants are merely haters who like to male bash. He does his best to dissuade those of us from alternative backgrounds by offering a thunderous round of applause for parents forced to assume both roles. I am left wondering where their national holiday is. I often wonder why child abuse survivors must hide their disdain for the parents who got it wrong and why they should be ridiculed for choosing to celebrate the one that got… [Read more]

Jun 13

In a couple of days your Facebook timelines, Twitter feeds and G+ homes will be littered with all sorts of appreciation grams for the fathers of your friends, family and associates. It will be a day of people expressing appreciation to dad on social media (who probably won’t be able to read it) so that everyone subscribed will see that he/she writing is an appreciative child. – if you sense a slightly annoyed tone in my writing… it is intended – Unfortunately this day that should be a celebration of fatherhood (read: MALE fatherhood) will be a time for opportunistic, bitter bastards (like myself #teamnodad) to post snarky-grams disguised as appreciation for our single mothers who “played both roles”. There will be people that were hurt as children taking the opportunity to garner pity from the masses or even worse lob bombs at those who… [Read more]