We all know that chick who has a kid or kids and who has not owned up to the sacrifice that comes with putting someone else’s life before hers.  She is the one who is still living her life the same as it was prior to being pregnant. This girl gives off a “babysitter” feel and not a “child rearing” feel. Consequences of the child’s future do not enter her mind, usually because she was either never taught to care for a child (only to “watch” the child) and never had a positive role model on how to do so.  I want to give advice to this woman. Not because I look down on her, but because I think she needs to wake up in order to reap the many rewards of motherhood.  Don’t get me wrong, there are plenty bumps and bruises that come along with any level of good mothering. However, these are… [Read more]

So last night I was watching Chris Hansen interviewing a bunch of pedophile a—oles after he busted them coming into the house of what they thought was a 14 year old boy/girl. These boys were toting roses, candy and whatever else pedophiles bring to a kid’s house. The show was so eerie, having heard of it but never seeing it before until last night. This watching came after my nightly News viewing where the pope is still tight-lipped about the continued pedophilia within the Catholic church. Not to paint the entire church with a broad brush, but damn, this is beyond being a meme, it’s become the very meaning of the Catholic Church to us outsiders. If the Pope isn’t going to show us that he is administering the pwn to those who denounce sex only to be touching kids, then guys like me will assume that he somewhat condones it. Hey, if you’re a… [Read more]

“The things we forgot about being different in the Public School system.” My friend’s young daughter has had issues with school, she is smart as a whip and extremely polite so as you can expect academics aren’t the issue. Although she is 22 years younger than myself I can understand what she’s going through. Blame this on me being an enormous 6 foot child mentally or the fact that my childhood memories are still pretty keen. Either way, the aspect of “fitting in” is starting to really grate on her young nerves as she battles the name-calling, the unsupportive people who look like her (more on this later) and the adults who lack the imagination to see things from her side. It’s a struggle that I remember well, and I hope for her sake that she is as strong a child as I was. If you (the reader) are not black, some of what I… [Read more]

You know, it is very common for men of my generation to view their fathers as strangers. I mean being a bastard is a common thing for us 70′s babies, isn’t that crazy? Growing up with an attractive single mother has landed me in many fights with disrespectful peers, and has shown me the difference between a man and a bitch-made dude. Momma had a few of the latter and my brother and I watched and learned throughout the years how to look into a man’s soul and see his worth. I don’t take sides in the custodial battle of Venus vs Mars but coming from where I did, I can’t sympathize with you if your lady is hitting you up for half your check every month due to you not wanting to deal with a kid. And I know there’s the other side where the chick just doesn’t let you see your kid but… [Read more]

There are many vices that people use to make the lull of their everyday lifestyle have a sort of purpose. Some people choose religion and make sure that at the root of their efforts they do what is best for their chosen church. Others lean on family, that is their drive, and it is what makes the lull all the more liveable. But as a whole, I think the biggest vice to living the lives we do, is the cliché. People ue clichés unconsciously as if it is an ironclad law for life and the way we live it. Parents say “eat your food, there are starving kids in Africa”, as if to guilt a child into not wasting food – which wrongly asserts that the consumption of it all would do the starving kids one better than if it was left uneaten. Then as you get into your teenage years you get the “I… [Read more]

You know i’m hardly an advocate for cliche sayings but there is something to be said about “be a father to your child”. How sad is it that in this great country we are still struggling with this. Abandoned children – the sad collateral damage in the war of the sexes. It may be okay to hate a bitch but why avoid your seed in the midst of hating on her? That being said, it makes me smile when I see the ads from fatherhood.gov. The ads always have a normal guy doing something completely out of the norm… for instance one had a guy dancing in front of the television to a really girly song. This one depicts a father doing a cheer… but pan out and you will see he is actually playing with his daughter. Giving her a little attention that may seem corny to everyone else but will do wonders for… [Read more]