May 02

Many young boys of my generation were not blessed with a father to come to our games, cheer us on and push us like Papa Ferigno in Pumping Iron. The aspect of excelling at sport was a tempered fire that came from competition with one another, aspirations to be the next Michael Jordan or Deion Sanders, and the one coach that we all love, remember and appreciate. In the media as of late we have been seeing coaches at their worst being broadcast so loudly that it seems that a man being alone with a team of boys will transform into a pedophile, a screaming lunatic, or some aggressive homophobe that physically abuses them. Good coaches are kept quiet, way too boring for television so parents react, as with anything, and keep their children off of the field. A coach can bring the best out… [Read more]

Apr 15

As a stepchild I found that some of the worst abuse and experiences I had was from the people who were meant to take care of me. No, not from mom and step-dad, but from the people that were supposed to play baby-sitter, caretaker, or even just watch us for a few. The abuse of which I speak were at many times verbal, other times situational but rarely if ever physical. It’s the sort of abuse that children don’t speak to their parents about because they don’t realize that it is abuse. What wasn’t ever discussed by children like myself at the time was the mistreatment of uncles, aunts, preachers, friends of your adopted parent, family members… all who do things to ostracize you because of the fact that you are not truly family. I am not talking about the level of terror visited upon… [Read more]

Feb 20

I have but one question… why are you there? Recently in my life I have been lucky with being in the presence of many young people who are the product of single-parent homes. Having come from that myself I recall the day I swore that I would not be one of these men who neglect the child(ren) of the woman who happens to be my mate. You would think that men would accept that a woman with child is a package for love but this is not the case at all. Many men will get deep into relationships with women only to neglect the child, hate the child, abuse, molest, and any number of things that will blow your mind. Why even get in the relationship if loving a child that isn’t of your blood is beyond you as a human being? A few years… [Read more]

Sep 07
couple in bed

Not every man is looking to run away from children, hell many men daydream about having 2 or 3 bambinos running around, living the legacy and asking for money (just kidding). Now there are some men who have real issues with getting their ladies pregnant that are clinical (you know who you are) – this article is not for you as this is more fun than informative. Now if you aim to find that ultimate woman to bear your fruit and are in need of a few steps to make sure it happens – consider the following list: 1. Make Sure you’re Firing Live Rounds Many men neglect this step out of fear that the doctor will give us the bad news that we aren’t meant to ever have children. But if you’re serious about knocking up that celebrity chick or rich girl that you’re… [Read more]

Jun 18
greg dragon and snips

Yesterday was Father’s Day and while I was quite prepared to go through the standard movement of calling my mother to wish her “happy Father’s Day” (one of our traditions with her being a single mom) and flipping past people posting their standard clichéd sentiments on Facebook, something extraordinary happened! My girlfriend’s daughter, who I have all but adopted as my young padawan learner, made me dinner and wished me a happy Father’s Day! No worries I didn’t cry. I cannot explain how shocked I am when I meet people who treat us outsiders as more than that when our actions have shown that we are a bit more. What I am used to is a person who cannot see past blood and throws around terms like “half-brother”, “half-sister”, “step-dad” and the like. Sure society trains us that blood is thicker than water (or non-relatives… [Read more]

Jun 13
mom shouting at daughter

Parents out there know how hard it is to teach your kids to do as you say, but not as you do. Our experience allows us the opportunity to know better and apply our knowledge to each situation appropriately. For instance, we may teach them not to judge others, not to care what anyone else thinks of them, or even something so simple as not to lie. But then you have to deal with them asking you why you don’t like their friends, why they absolutely have to iron their shirt before they leave, or why you told the waitress that your 14 year old kid is 12 so you can get that free meal. Explain thoroughly Kids hear your “rule” but they do not understand it fully unless you explain. If you tell your kids that they should never judge people, they will think… [Read more]

May 25
annoying parents

“Dear friends and family, even though I love you to death and would do just about anything for you, I need you to understand that my single status does not mean that it’s okay to infringe on my space for long periods of time. Please respect me as much as you would if I were married with a wife at home and refrain from treating me like an overgrown teenager to take advantage of. Sincerely, single guy” It is one of the biggest unspoken irritations with being single that nobody ever talks about… because it feels rude. Do you know what I’m getting at? Well it’s the very real issue of family members who are down and out moving in on the single relative “for a few weeks” and overstaying their welcome sometimes into the years. Families never respect the lives of those who are… [Read more]

May 08
Single father dilemma

There comes a time and age when a single man settles on the fact that the woman he ends up with will have a ready-made family for him. It’s the price we pay for showing up late to the ball; by the time single guy has defeated the work-force, made his bones, and decides on the whole nuclear family bit at 30+, his queen-to-be will have already danced the dance with another man. The bachelor accepts this, tries to look past it for love, and hopefully does a pretty damn good job of snapping into the role once they are married. Now of course there are many single men who hold out of their Golden Pegasus with no kids, but these guys aren’t exactly successful when it comes to sealing the deal. Baggage has a lot more faces than merely having children with another man,… [Read more]