May 12

There is a common understanding amongst men that most guys have a flavor (type of woman) that they are predisposed to. While the lusting for extremely young, old or muscular women is seen as taboo and disturbing to a number of guys, having an exclusivity to a race really isn’t as abnormal as the media makes it out to be. I know white guys who have blonde fetishes, redhead fetishes, Asian fetishes and I use fetish to mean women they go nuts for just because they are within that pool. I know black men who have Latina fetishes, Russian accent fetishes and light-skinned, caramel bi-racial fetishes. I even know Asian men who have fetishes for blond girl-next-door types. These are all lusts that are seen as a big horrible, racial issue when it comes to relationship chats about race. Embittered women will bemoan the constant… [Read more]

May 05

Ever have one of those days? I have them 5 days a week it seems, I get wound up, my chest feels heavy, I start having shallow breathing and I just want to set out on the road and just keep walking. Lately it has been crossing my mind a lot, just let them have the house and whatever else I leave there and just grab some articles of clothing and start walking like David Banner.  The reason for this is because, by nature, I am a loner, I am one of those freaks who finds as much joy solo as a social butterfly does being the center of attention. When I get like this, I find that the best medicine is to do a lighter version of the “walk away from everything”. I find seclusion and I meditate, I train hard and work out… [Read more]

Apr 29

Now all of us old hats can argue that Hip Hop died sometime between 1995 and 1996, while you younglings will say that the music is still going strong etc. Regardless of that old argument, we fans can agree that there are a collective of videos and songs that just make you cringe whenever you hear them. Others are just plain bad and it might have caused that person to be permanently placed on your “do not listen” list due to the wackness. Anyway, being that myself and Nia are Hip Hop heads through and through, we got together and came up with a few videos that we consider to be a black mark on Hip Hop history. Please do not get upset if these turds strike up bad memories for you, we do this in good fun… enjoy: 1. J-Lo and The Lox –… [Read more]

Apr 19

Ever so often a phrase or cliché is brought into circulation that people love to chirp as if they live by it as their raison d’etre. The phrases either originate from a public speaker, a guru of some sort or a song (Jay-Z is good for creating nice one-liners). Phrases such as “30 is the new 20”, or “Work smart not hard” number the many that pop up to result in me rolling my eyes, but none bugs the hell out of me more than “fake it till you make it”. This phrase, while true of hardcore, ambitious people who act and dress the part of the wealthy, is not a reality for most who utter it. People like this live large the days after payday, they stay up on the latest and greatest and they scoff at those who don’t keep pace with their… [Read more]

Mar 17

Nerd is such a broad term isn’t it? And like most broad terms and generalizations for a subset of people it can be very easy to paint the good members of the group with the same angry brush that is meant for the bad members. Lately I have been making it a routine to visit the local bookstore since it gets me out of the office and allows me to concentrate on my writing. This past Saturday I was most unlucky to be in the vicinity of a loud group of obnoxious “nerds” who recited lines from Ice Age – snorting uncontrollably and making everyone pay for their jokes. I am sure that within their circle this was great fun, but for everyone else it was unbearable. Luckily I was saved by a pair of earbuds and a volume setting that worked. Another time I… [Read more]

Feb 19

I fear for the future, I really do and for frequent readers of my blog, this will seem like a dead horse that has been kicked, molested and kicked again but I have legitimate concern and so I write. It seems that the strong surge in feminism has caused men to tuck their tails and run for the hills in this new age. Common sense would decree that a woman can be treated fairly, be allowed the same freedoms as men and fight for respect and understanding without it imposing on a man being a man. Yet somehow it has become evident that as women succeed in these endeavors, outperforming, outmaneuvering and outdoing former women in terms of salary, success and equality, the men have resolved to dispose of characteristics, roles and behavior that at one time classified them as men. To put it bluntly,… [Read more]

Jan 26

Is beauty a curse and do men and women react with bias to beautiful women? In my experience as a man, I have seen this to be true but women aren’t allowed to complain about it. Some men will tell you to stay away from a beautiful woman because of the drama that comes with being her lover. In our minds a woman cannot be a total package. She cannot be nice, well-mannered and supportive as a beauty. She cannot be drop-dead gorgeous and not be a psycho or a total bitch.

Jan 22

Do you find yourself discriminating against another driver based on the vehicle that he/she is driving? well I realized that I do and this is due to the habits of more than a few individuals who drive a particular make and model of car. Now I know that dicks come in all shapes and sizes, and that a dick in a Beamer is just as much a dick as he was when he was driving a Corolla but when you come across five Beamers and they all drive like assholes, you are going to anticipate the next one and act according.  Now I am a road bully, I drive aggressively and I lack patience for people who drive slowly, those who seem to be lost and the idiots who pull out from driveways blindly. Oft times being a Sci-Fi head, I wish I had some… [Read more]