Nov 01
woman with mercedes

There’s a sort of magic that occurs whenever a man starts driving a German luxury car… he begins to feel “elite”; and why not? People comment on it, kids look up to him, and women who didn’t smile before are playing friendly. It is for these tiny perks (along with the car doing all sorts of luxury magic) that people often make the car their goal for showing the world that they are successful. Are you guilty of this? Reading the articles by self-proclaimed successful women and their issues with dating, I recalled the day when I myself judged a book by its cover… or I should say judged a woman by her car. It was not intentional, but based on who I am it was very hard to realize my bias until afterwards. I had met this woman through a dating website and we decided to… [Read more]

Oct 17
Ice and Coco T

Awhile back I did an article on men getting penile implants for the sake of feeling “manly” around other men rather than for sexual prowess as they would like us to believe. As with many other insecurities that are 100% on a personal level there is always a tendency to place blame on the opposite sex whenever we are the ones who truly dislike ourselves. On a personal level I have dated 2 very different women, one was top heavy (big breasts) with gams that were envied by most onlooking women–but her butt was small, and another had a donk (plump booty) but her breasts were at most a B-cup. Would you believe that both of these women would complain on a constant basis for lack of having a big ass or breasts? In my man’s mind I wondered at their complaints because to me… [Read more]

Oct 12
I absolutely HATE when people ask me "Why don’t you want any kids?"

I recently spoke with a good friend that I have been out of contact with for some time. In the first few conversations I was asked the question that irks me beyond words. “Why don’t you want any kids?” I absolutely HATE when people ask me this question because it implies that I should have kids. And Why? Why is it that only women get asked these dumb ass questions? I don’t hear of people asking men about children. Is that what women my age are supposed do? Is it because traditionally women should be the ones crazy about children? Because all humans (specifically women) need to reproduce? Well screw all that!!! I live for me and beyond other people’s expectations. Why couldn’t she have asked me about school or work? Or how about my life goals or hell ask me about my health. But… [Read more]

Oct 04
couple spooning

So how much would you pay to have someone to snuggle with for an hour, probably nothing right? Especially you men out there who – like me find the act of spooning, cuddling and other touchy, touchy, gameplay a bit of a bother (unless there is a chance of sex happening). Many women reading are probably wondering why, well let me explain; for us guys spooning normally means one arm will be going numb from the lack of circulation (being trapped under you) or it means we will be stuck watching a Rom-Com while we “cuddle” ugh! Well apparently a lot of people in this world need human contact; so much so that they are willing to pay a petite little lady by the name of Jaqueline Samuel $60 an hour to “cuddle” with them. Jaqueline’s company is called The Snuggery and it provides an… [Read more]

Oct 02
sporty chick

This was the feedback I received from a number of black women when I wrote a guest post about the positives in dating a tomboy. The women who responded seemed to come from 3 separate camps – those who genuinely liked the article, former tomboys who appreciated the article, and religious bigots who wanted to spin it into a “gays are running our Christian earth” type of thing. Here’s a quote from one of the responses that took my sexuality to task: Jo: “sooo, are you saying you’re bi or something? I’m sorry, but if you like a girl who acts like a man, hates other girls (or pretends that other girls except herself are “catty” is a HUGE sign of ugly insecurity and hypocrisy), likes beer and football and farting, well, guess what? You dont like a girl, you like a guy.” Thank goodness… [Read more]

Sep 19
young wyclef and lauryn

Do you know who controls whether or not a man and a woman has an affair? Easy answer – both parties do, at least when the situation doesn’t involve slavery or sexual abuse. So it confuses me to no end when I hear women blame Wyclef Jean for the disaster in life that is Lauryn Hill. This pattern of finger pointing is something that people have been doing for quite some time now and it is not only unfair to the person blamed but shows a dangerous bit of tribalism displayed by the accuser. The pattern I outlined in the intro is part of the reasoning for the Wyclef blame and we can mix in Twilight’s Kristen Stewart because she now suffers from the same public scrutiny that Wyclef has for all these years since the Fugees as a group had split. People pick the… [Read more]

Sep 13
woman in bed

Everyone has an opinion about tattoos, from concerned parents, to people whose only experience with them is seeing Wiz Khalifa on a music video. We can all agree that tattoos have blown up into the mainstream at a rate that is faster than the speed of light and a culture once reserved for “true rebels” has become another fad like dreads, piercings, and bleaching one’s hair. But so what? Personally I admire tattoos, being an artist I cannot help but glare in amazement at a Yakuza-caliber sleeve on someone’s arm, or a well done likeness of someone’s parent, favorite celebrity, or cartoon character. When I see subpar work, or something I feel is just plain stupid (ice cream cone on the face), I keep it to myself and keep it moving. I wish everyone else would do the same (let people be) yet almost weekly… [Read more]

Aug 27
sad woman with abuser

Many people assume that prostitutes are unintelligent victims of overly smart street hustlers with a hard backhand, a 9mm handgun and a lack of empathy but the truth of the matter is that there is a method to the madness that is The Game and the art of making and breaking a prostitute. The main source of power that a pimp has over his/her product is called psychological imprisonment and I would warn that many of you judging the prostitute may be a broke day and an act of loyalty away from being one yourself. The following 7 rules are a variation of The Laws of The Game that have been used by pimps since time immortal and they are accompanied by my insights as to how your marriage or relationship could very well be along the same lines as a pimp/prostitute relationship. Sure your… [Read more]