For those of you who are not in the know, a LARP is a Live Action Role Player aka a nerd (many are female) who plays out an adventure using props, swords and armor. Yes people do this… This past weekend on my ritual sprint session, a couple friends of mine experienced LARPing for the first time and their reactions were shall I say entertaining? The huge field around which the 5k track ran is normally a place for people who wish to play soccer, walk dogs or attempt the picnic thing. On the day that we went however it was beyond hot and the park was empty except for 14 people with plastic swords, staves and shields running around in what I assumed was a form of melee. Question for the LARPs So being a huge fan of Sword and Sorcery (even the 100% white Middle Earth) and a former desktop Advanced Dungeons and… [Read more]

So you’re listening to some old school Ice Cube’s Death Certificate and you hear a verse that brings back memories that you just have to share so you post it to Facebook. A few friends hop on with the standard “oh I remember that” and others add in another verse or two to show that they get it. This is a standard on Facebook along with random YouTUBE cut n pastes and the white noise of baby pictures, updates on what was for dinner and that one guy who deems it important to tell you that he is on the way to work. Facebook is pretty much a useless connection device used more so for ego stroking and “announcing” than for actual communication. Then there are the armchair politicians and dogmatic religious types who post their “Obama sucks” and “lordy lordy I needs ma bible” posts about 20 times a day. For me not being… [Read more]

They go by buzzwords such as “grown folks night”, “an intelligent affair”, “bachelors degree or above” and other semi-elitist yet clever names. The flyers show Stock Photography of business people mixing it up at a bar, the women in dresses, the men business casual. What am I going on about? Well it’s the soirees made to bring College educated black professionals together for mixing, mingling, dating and I’m guessing “networking”. I am not sure why I have such distaste for these things, being that I am of their target audience, but when I see statements like “grown and sexy” I immediately lose interest. It’s the tone, and having owned a business and dealt with some of these so-called “hustlers” and “go-getters” who turned out to be broke, College educated, scam artists, I just don’t hold the degree element to any kind of standard outside of: okay so you went to college. Many college grads receive… [Read more]

One of the most certain ways to get an unfriendly reaction from me in any relationship is to pull a pop up spontaneously. This rule goes for family, friends and girlfriends; unless we live together, there is no reason for you to find it reasonable to show up unannounced to my door. I’ve had friends do this who found that I will not even answer the door on principle; it is a general rule that Pop Ups are not okay. Common courtesy serves that you call an individual prior to showing up at his doorstep since doing so you assume that he will be able to accommodate you. People have their own lives outside of yours so the assumption that you are welcome anytime is asinine at best. Now I know many people who consider this romantic, or spontaneously sexy but save that for your roommate or live-in boyfriend. People who live by themselves like… [Read more]

So it’s 2010 and labeling is all the rage, with bloggers like myself spilling our collective opinions into the matrix of knowledge that is the internet, once in awhile like minds will create a surge or “meme” that becomes the buzzword or “in thing” for a time until a new one comes together to take its place. The latest buzz-word stems from a topic that I have touched on multiple times – which is the death of the Alpha male. In our modern times we men are reminded almost daily that it is career-driven women that are the new entrepreneurs, career-driven women who are staying single due to unworthy broke men and career-driven women writing articles about how men aren’t of the stock that their daddies were. When faced with this sort of pressure you can either ignore the ridicule and pursue life or let it beat you down into the ground without much of… [Read more]

If you are a single man who doesn’t have a good network of other single friends, I feel your pain and I know the hell that you are going through. Even if you are happily single, the stigmas, prejudices and assumptions made by your once single, now married friends is probably annoying as hell to deal with. I will catch some heat on this one but it must be said, as a single man I know for a fact that most wives will dislike me as a friend to their husbands. It is not so much what I do, but what their husband’s do in order to seem cool to me. Being that they know their husbands better than anyone else, they know that the things I do without much thought is taboo for a married man but doesn’t mean that the married man won’t try it in order to be “cool”. The other thing… [Read more]

There is a common understanding amongst men that most guys have a flavor (type of woman) that they are predisposed to. While the lusting for extremely young, old or muscular women is seen as taboo and disturbing to a number of guys, having an exclusivity to a race really isn’t as abnormal as the media makes it out to be. I know white guys who have blonde fetishes, redhead fetishes, Asian fetishes and I use fetish to mean women they go nuts for just because they are within that pool. I know black men who have Latina fetishes, Russian accent fetishes and light-skinned, caramel bi-racial fetishes. I even know Asian men who have fetishes for blond girl-next-door types. These are all lusts that are seen as a big horrible, racial issue when it comes to relationship chats about race. Embittered women will bemoan the constant of seeing white men with Asian women, or black men… [Read more]

Ever have one of those days? I have them 5 days a week it seems, I get wound up, my chest feels heavy, I start having shallow breathing and I just want to set out on the road and just keep walking. Lately it has been crossing my mind a lot, just let them have the house and whatever else I leave there and just grab some articles of clothing and start walking like David Banner.  The reason for this is because, by nature, I am a loner, I am one of those freaks who finds as much joy solo as a social butterfly does being the center of attention. When I get like this, I find that the best medicine is to do a lighter version of the “walk away from everything”. I find seclusion and I meditate, I train hard and work out to blacken my frustrations into nothingness. This has to be… [Read more]