Men all agree that going after a woman for romance only to wind up in her friend zone absolutely sucks. Many times it is due to our lack of game, terrible timing, or fear of asking (for you guys who think that a woman will just get the hint by you hanging out with her). There is a subset of guys however who think that they are in the friend zone but in reality are in a “holding cell”. This creates a complex dilemma for the woman because she does not want that guy to be in her friend zone but is too shy to upgrade him, fears he will reject her, or fears the chance of losing him altogether. Who are these guys? Many times these are the childhood friends who became handsome winners as they got older. Some of these men may have been put in the friend zone during courtship because the woman was going through the harshest… [Read more]

There comes a time and age when a single man settles on the fact that the woman he ends up with will have a ready-made family for him. It’s the price we pay for showing up late to the ball; by the time single guy has defeated the work-force, made his bones, and decides on the whole nuclear family bit at 30+, his queen-to-be will have already danced the dance with another man. The bachelor accepts this, tries to look past it for love, and hopefully does a pretty damn good job of snapping into the role once they are married. Now of course there are many single men who hold out of their Golden Pegasus with no kids, but these guys aren’t exactly successful when it comes to sealing the deal. Baggage has a lot more faces than merely having children with another man, and they find out harshly that the childless woman may… [Read more]

Go to any discussion where the audience is mixed (men and women) and you will find a ton of women speaking up and the guys standing with their arms crossed looking on intently. There’s a reason for this – women, who have battle stripes from warring each other, tend to argue better than we do. Many women employ a “gang beatdown” style of arguing which can leave the offender bruised and ruined so smart men stay clear, choosing to let It die down rather than suffering the claws. When I get into battle, whether it be in a blog commentary, group discussion, or a debate, I make sure that I am heard, I am respected and most importantly, I get my point across. I do this by arguing intelligently, using the truth as my sword (this weapon is the Excalibur of weapons), and a stern voice. It makes me seem mean and domineering to those… [Read more]

None of us have the intuition that a woman does – in order to figure out why we’re in the dog house. She may have come home one day and decided that your slovenly ways are not worthy of all the work she has put into her life and career. When she fussed at you, you thought it was cute and while you tried to be better about it, you just didn’t see it as serious. Now when you fall asleep (before her), negating to take her out weekly because you’ve become comfortable and too tired to make love to her because of long hours… she stares at you wondering on how it is she wound up with you. By the time she’s done this enough, talked with friends and family about it and listened in on her younger girlfriends brag about how their man blows their backs out nightly and sends them roses on surprise occasions,… [Read more]

Fun fact for the ladies: Men NEVER get over it. Women hate on other women due to the chance that this other woman can easily “take their man” due to the upgrade potential right? This is what was relayed to me from a female colleague that I debated with as she explained why Angelina Jolie was public enemy number one for women after acquiring Brad Pitt as her beau. The way she explained it was that a man standing with his girl who is a 7 (8 if she really tries) on the looks scale can easily lose her man to a 10 who puts in the extra sex appeal and game to upgrade to a 15 – which (according to her) renders us men into to slobbing, drooling, helpless cheaters. Brothers of the man race, this is how our women see it, and it is the reason why it is never okay for you… [Read more]

So you’re best friends with a guy and you have all the things he should want in a woman, yet he never asks you out – choosing instead to go for your friends, or girls he meets elsewhere. What’s the deal? You are constantly in his friend-zone but you aren’t firm on why this is. The following list of 10 are some of the most common reasons why the guy in your life will never ask you out. 1. You’re not beautiful, and/or he doesn’t find you sexy Sure you’re all that to other males but to the one you choose to be your mate, you’re just “cool”. It’s a hard pill to swallow I know, but there is no woman alive that is truly capable of getting any man she wants. Don’t get it twisted, there’s nothing wrong with you, it’s just not in the cards for you two to be an item –… [Read more]

When a man and a woman meet, with the exception of men of power and wealth, the woman holds the cards. This means that as a man you are already losing even before you begin the relationship game. The woman is the one choosing to say yes or no to our advancements, and it is normally she who would pack up and leave if things take a turn for the worst. This puts a lot of men at ease with being the worker while their ladies control the books – from a business standpoint that is. Men in society are used to being the ones interviewing for the relationship job and women are the hiring managers. We don’t get the over gentlemen, unless you look like Idris Elba and make as much money as Stringer Bell, women that you want will still be the booker. The only guys who avoid this rule of life are… [Read more]

The act of dating your friend’s wife or girlfriend after he dies or leaves is always viewed as suspect from other males. So men, answer me this: What goes through your head as a man when your newly dead friend’s ex-wife sends you an invitation to her wedding and the husband is his brother? Is it the same thing that goes through your head when a man gets a lengthy sentence in prison and you find out that she’s now sleeping with his best friend? What about the “best friend” who finds himself over at the military wife’s house weekly, then a few months later he’s spending nights? All very different situations, different people and different levels of loss and need from the woman’s standpoint but one thing remains constant with these: To the outsider’s eye it looks as if the man took advantage of her. On the surface the sight of a woman being… [Read more]