To the average man it seems as if women want 150% of our attention, all the time… they want us to play on their time, in their stadium, in their city. When asked “what must a man do for a woman to respect our personal guy time?” The answer is always “make time for her”, but how much time is enough time? What about the chick with nothing going on, who will keep you on the couch watching crap TV for hours if you let her? Men don’t find that fun, interesting or remotely desirable – but we feel we have to, or the woman will leave. Sound like hell? Well gamers, loners and forever-aloners, I offer some solutions to your woes with the boring, seemingly demanding woman in your life who always has something to say when you’re enjoying your thing. What’s Her Issue Anyway? Women are selfish and competitive with your attention. This… [Read more]

Recently myself, the girlfriend and her 14 yr old daughter went to go see Red Tails – a movie about the Tuskegee airmen who overcame racist war restrictions to show that black men could fight Nazis just like their white brethren. During the movie the hot shot Ace pilot and resident “bad boy” Joe ‘Lightning’ Little hooked up with an Italian bird named Sophia and the fireworks went off. The two knew maybe 5 words of each other’s language, but through gestures and genuine attraction it managed to work – hell it worked out pretty damn well. Now beyond the fact that Lightning was charming, a prototype of what women love (smooth, mysterious and dangerous if crossed) and Sophia was quiet, lady-like and beautiful; there was something else that led to the unison of these two very different worlds. Lightning needed something to live for and Sophia needed an element of mysterious romance. When you… [Read more]

I am an avid listener of the Steve Harvey Morning Show, and especially of the Strawberry Letter – an email letter format for listeners who seek advice. The majority of the advice sought is about love and relationships, and to a lesser extent other family situations. These letters run the gamut of serious enough for a referral for professional intervention, to downright trifling, repetitive, and stupid! Ooops! Did I say that? Anyway, recently Steve and his cohost Shirley (last name Strawberry) received a letter from a woman who stated she was in a relationship with a married man. She suggested to him for his wife to join them in a threesome (every man’s fantasy right???). After some hesitation on the part of Mr. and Mrs. Down For Anything, this ménage trois was on and popping. This fantastic instigator claims that her lover’s wife is now in love with her and wants to leave her husband… [Read more]

Long distance relationships are tricky and take quite a bit of navigating as you work your way through knowing a person and building a memory bank. For those of us who have our lover just around the corner who we see practically every day, knows the challenges we face and will agree that long distance relationships are not for the feint of heart and the insecure. When you are in a long distance relationship, you tend to depend on different means of contact as a measure of the health of your relationship. When you don’t hear from your sweetie, you might resort to second-guessing yourself by asking, “Is he thinking about me?” “Is someone else siphoning her affection?” Many times these shadowy bits of our imagination are dispelled by the next call or visit, and in some cases may open up a keg of insecurity like a leaking ulcer demonstrated by questions and accusations of… [Read more]

A while back we did an article on men waiting for a Golden Pegasus to show up before giving their heart to a woman. The entire article took men to task who (just like women with lists) had an unrealistic concept of meeting the perfect person when they themselves were imperfect. Many single men with options tend to keep a black book of numbers and contacts in hopes of their queen showing up one day to force them to fight for her commitment. This rarely if ever happens and the man usually ends up with a more realistic prospect or forever alone, searching privately before admitting it’s futility. I call this process “searching for Super Girl”, not so much for the woman’s unavailability (many of our wants are realistic) but the chances of that woman being single, having any interest in you, and willing to give you a chance is a roll of the die…. [Read more]

The day I received flowers I went through a mix of emotions that bordered on “what the f—“. It was confusing, like maybe they were delivered to the wrong person, then I was flattered, and then I wondered how pissed off she would be if I gave them to the company admin (she likes flowers) or if I simply threw them away. Flowers clipped and gifted are doomed for death anyway right? Plus it’s the thought that counts; she wanted me to know that she was thinking about me and I got the message loud and clear – so what if I take that awkward gift and left it in the break room by the dumpster? The above situation is descriptive of a thought process that goes through many men’s minds when their new girlfriend, lover or crush decides to flip the traditional gender switch and send them flowers. It’s not that it is emasculating… [Read more]

Guys (and gals), when you have a lover, girlfriend, wife, friend etc. you should always introduce them to people unless you are either embarrassed by them or asked to keep their identity a secret beforehand. When you run into friends and family without introducing the person that is with you it leaves room for a ton of speculation about him/her that you won’t like. Before I get into this I must preface by saying that I know with many people it isn’t intended as a sign of disrespect or slight when they don’t introduce their mate to you. Sometimes we assume that the mate will introduce themselves or that you have already met the individual at one time or another. This article is just a reminder to everyone that assumptions is bred from perception and when you have someone silently standing next to you as we talk I liken it to the way you treat… [Read more]

When a man talks about sex in a slang-sense to his fellow man (or on blogs) you will find that most of our terms sound like something you would do to someone you hate as opposed to someone you aim to pleasure. The reason for this is because men with all of our pragmatic, graphic thinking, normally refer to the act of the penis entering the vagina (or other orifice) and not the entire act of love-making. Women who see the big picture of foreplay – intercourse – climax – spooning have no doubt overheard men talking and got the wrong idea… 3 examples of violent terms used for sex by American males: Phrase: “I beat it up!” or “I beat that little thing up!” Meaning: The “thing” that is getting beat up is the vagina, not the woman and the beating is a pleasant beating because “beating it up” comes with the supposition that… [Read more]