Let me preface this by saying that in “winning”, I mean coming to common ground or leaving without malice, hurt or shame. Arguing with a woman for a man is very different from fighting or arguing with another man. Men tend to argue with logic whereas with women emotion plays up in a way that men will never understand. So for the man there is usually a feeling that fighting with a woman is futile and you either let her win to shut her up or avoid confrontation altogether. What we lose sight of as men is that it is the way we argue that makes it a losing battle for us every time. In the HBO show The Sopranos, I really liked the Christopher Moltisanti character because of the way that he and his fiance Adriana La Cerva argued. Chris went at her differently than he did with his fellow gangsters. He used the… [Read more]

The want and sometimes need that possesses a man to jump into bed with a strange woman is one that we have suffered from the beginning of time. Some cultures have marriage but the man is still expected to dabble with other women at any given time. In our culture some people tackle it peacefully by becoming swingers, I dip into your wife, you dip into mine, come back next week, rinse and repeat. Many guys keep the urge well into marriage, they see sexy women daily, they comment, they grab themselves and then they go home to the den and rub one out to Aria Giovanni on a porn website. Women as a majority are clueless about this whole, let’s call it “cooch fever”. Men admire women with the thought of getting into it and satisfying the cooch hound within. Ladies it is what it is, that’s how we’re wired. Church types like to… [Read more]

As a woman, having and keeping female friends is one of the hardest things in the world. Well at least for me women are very hard to get along with. It’s a constant losing battle. I’ve done a lot of scary things in my lifetime – driving a car at high speeds, starting a business, approaching authority figures, dealing with death and crying over heartbreak; I’ve dealt with ALL of that. Yet nothing has scared me as much as female friends. Which is sad because it’s nice to have female friends with whom you can share your life with and bitch about men to (men need to accept that all girls do it… just like you all share sexual conquests with each other about us :p). The fact is that having female friends is a nightmare. Women are FABULOUS for relationships but a complete nightmare for friendships. Too bad that i fancy men and only… [Read more]

The reason why a man chooses to fade away versus telling you he doesn’t like you: One of the biggest disconnects between man and woman is a man’s innate wont to protect and defend women. Let me explain, when recently I wrote about men forgoing chivalry due to women acting badly a couple of women came forward to say it should be done irregardless. While I agree with this for men that were raised to behave a certain way (knights), I do warn that this also leads men to behave in other ways that these same women would not agree with. One issue that comes with a respectful man is his inability to tell a woman that he doesn’t like her. Why is this you may ask? Because just like he opens doors for her, walks on the outside of sidewalks, and does his best to protect her as the “stronger sex” – he also… [Read more]

So you’re dating an artist and everything has been lovely so far. He calls you daily; he’s drawn your beautiful face, sculpted your bust and has written a song that led to you riding him for dear life after you stopped crying. But the honeymoon period is slowing down, your nosy friends are starting to talk and your bank account is revealing that things are different with this guy than the stiff lawyer that you used to date. Sure you love the way that life slows down when you are in his company but you don’t really love the way that you’re picking up the tab on most of your luxurious dinner dates. You begin to wonder at the future, if there is a future and will this man ever have the means to pay his part and more. The answer to this question is a resounding NO! Do not get in deep with a… [Read more]

I remember the day my man Lawrence broke up with his girl he volunteered me some photographs of her topless bodice. While I feigned interest because that’s my man and I know he did it to satisfy his wont to humiliate her, what he had done was to burn her breasts into my brain so that I can never be in a state of wonder when I see her again. This humiliation is also performed by women that want to humiliate their ex, but it is done in the form of describing your anatomy if you should be born with less than a hammer in your pants. See fellas, this is the main reason I tell you that when you do get some panties you had better lay it down hard like your family’s life depended on it. You need to go full throttle Brian Pumper on these broads or face the disgrace of being… [Read more]

A woman that has fallen head over heels for a guy will not have the clear judgment needed to see that everyone else in her life wants to cut his head off with a rusty blade. You may not know your douchebag boyfriend is hated until you break up and everyone admits that they thought he was an ass. But luckily for you there are tell-tale signs; normally you can judge through the thoughts and actions of male family members and “friends”. The latter is in quotations because male friends more than likely want to be more than that with you so they will probably give you a bad report on the guy anyway. So read the signs and ask your brothers, uncles or father and get multiple answers, don’t just trust dad’s feelings. Jackass Signal 1 – Short visits from male family members If you notice that people leave immediately after doing whatever favor… [Read more]

Is it worth the time to teach someone that you have slept with (and like) the fine art of making love? Will it yield you and her the rewards of carnal pleasure if she could simply learn to do this or to do that? Is it worth it, or are you of the mind that anyone who isn’t a wife or long-term girlfriend is a potential flight-risk that will take your secrets and use it to blow the next guy’s mind? Or do you believe that sexual curiosity and performance is something that is naturally developed and cannot be taught? In short, you believe that a woman either has it or she doesn’t. Recently the big Celebrity dish has been that of the fractured relationship life of the original Lady Dragon Halle Berry. The Paparazzi scramble to snap pictures of she and her daughter and the writers insert anecdotes of beauty, bitter, broken and sometimes… [Read more]