Jan 11

Among the many new years resolution we all make, the typical ones include  weight-loss, exercise, beginning a new project, saving more… you name it. Somehow many of us have never include ways to improve our mental health. Mental Health? What the hell are you talking about Dr. Carly? Well… did you know that 1 out of every 4 persons living in the U.S. has some type of mental health disorder? They run the gamut from mild to severe, but that is not what I really want to call your attention to. Did you realize that both good and bad moods are infectious?  Yes! The fact is our mood and emotions are easily affected by others; especially those we are closest to.  Think back, have you ever been in a great mood and then met up with your honey/parent/friend/co-worker who was in a major funk? All… [Read more]

Jan 10

Guys (and gals), when you have a lover, girlfriend, wife, friend etc. you should always introduce them to people unless you are either embarrassed by them or asked to keep their identity a secret beforehand. When you run into friends and family without introducing the person that is with you it leaves room for a ton of speculation about him/her that you won’t like. Before I get into this I must preface by saying that I know with many people it isn’t intended as a sign of disrespect or slight when they don’t introduce their mate to you. Sometimes we assume that the mate will introduce themselves or that you have already met the individual at one time or another. This article is just a reminder to everyone that assumptions is bred from perception and when you have someone silently standing next to you as… [Read more]

Jan 05

Now that I have experienced what it is to have a “failed marriage”, I often wonder why I am still hopeful about getting married again, and making it work. With the high rates of divorce and broken relationships, heightened by the recent debacle of Kim Kardashian, it is so easy to become cynical about “I dos”. Everybody has a personal rule as to what assures success or sure failure in marriage. I have heard advice ranging from “live with the person for at lest year, as in a trial run”, to the other side that says “If you shack up, your marriage is guaranteed to fail”.  There are also those who counsel – “Make sure you get to “know” the person. Date for at least one to three years”; yet I have a friend who got married two weeks meeting her husband, and in June… [Read more]

Dec 27
couple on first date

Dating can be fun but many times after what you thought was an awesome first date, you are stuck wondering why your phone calls aren’t being answered or the person’s profile (for you online daters) is no longer viewable. To help you understand what it is that you may have done to lose that perfect date, we have made a list of secondary red flags that people see that aren’t as popular as the typical stuff. You know the standard flags of: bad hygiene, being rude to waiters, texting or using the cellphone, not really listening but waiting to talk, those type of things. Check out the list of innocent red flags and if you’ve been guilty of one in the past, you may want to reconsider doing it on future first dates. 10 things that may impact your first date negatively: 1. Admitting that… [Read more]

Dec 13

Doesn’t it concern you that out of a vast pool of worthwhile fishes in the pond all eyes seem to be on the lot that swims closest to the surface? What I am getting at is the human need to get with people that do not want us. It’s amazing how crazy the laws of attraction are and it’s even crazier that there are people who would chase a dream over going for the people that actually like them. Chasing Waterfalls… Consider this; Janine loves Mike because he is crazy, dark and a felon. Mike on the other hand knows that Janine likes him so he figures she would be good for a solid poking before he moves on to win the attention of Sarah, who thinks Mike is a loser. Behind the scenes is Larry who thinks Janine is the picture perfect model of his… [Read more]

Dec 12

As a child coming up, I used to see my mother and her friends have conversations around dinner and I was amused at how none of them could finish a sentence. As soon as mom would start to talk, the friend would inject with her own bit, then another would inject on her and the cycle continued. None of them raised their voice or got upset, yet the conversation continued for long periods of time. It was as if the interruptions were accepted, known and unable to break the flow of discussion. To this day I cannot fathom how people are able to communicate like that. As I got older I began to realize that I had somehow been shifted into a category of people who are meant to be the sponge for others who feel the need to vent, brag or complain. If I… [Read more]

Nov 09

So you’ve been a hardcore introvert for most of your teenage life and want to get out, get a girlfriend, get some friends and become “normal” eh? Or you were homeschooled, chained to your house and disallowed from doing anything that mom and dad considered unchristian coming up, now that you’re free you’re a bit worried that you won’t fit into society. The following are a few pointers to getting yourself into the social graces of population without getting the “where the hell are you from?” glare from everyone. Practice makes perfect – as natural as it seems that some people make friends, party hard and get in relationships, the fact of the matter is they have had experience. One doesn’t get experience without trying and failing a few times. That being said, do not for the life of you ever assume that making friends,… [Read more]

Nov 03

One of my biggest arguments for team sports is the normalizing of the Superhero prospect. What do I mean by that? Well when you haven’t played team sports and your only experience with teams stem from either video games or what you see from a distance – your brain tends to romanticize the ability to go beast. See in video games when you are playing sports or even military skirmishes, you have power-ups that can be timed and used to allow one member of the team to single-handedly bring it back. When you play a team sport and you try to individualize the loss and turn on beast mode, you find that it isn’t something that you can call up at will. Only a very small amount of people can turn on the beast successfully but when you play games and watch movies you think… [Read more]