Dec 12

As a child coming up, I used to see my mother and her friends have conversations around dinner and I was amused at how none of them could finish a sentence. As soon as mom would start to talk, the friend would inject with her own bit, then another would inject on her and the cycle continued. None of them raised their voice or got upset, yet the conversation continued for long periods of time. It was as if the interruptions were accepted, known and unable to break the flow of discussion. To this day I cannot fathom how people are able to communicate like that. As I got older I began to realize that I had somehow been shifted into a category of people who are meant to be the sponge for others who feel the need to vent, brag or complain. If I… [Read more]

Nov 09

So you’ve been a hardcore introvert for most of your teenage life and want to get out, get a girlfriend, get some friends and become “normal” eh? Or you were homeschooled, chained to your house and disallowed from doing anything that mom and dad considered unchristian coming up, now that you’re free you’re a bit worried that you won’t fit into society. The following are a few pointers to getting yourself into the social graces of population without getting the “where the hell are you from?” glare from everyone. Practice makes perfect – as natural as it seems that some people make friends, party hard and get in relationships, the fact of the matter is they have had experience. One doesn’t get experience without trying and failing a few times. That being said, do not for the life of you ever assume that making friends,… [Read more]

Sep 29

Many times I hear men joke about going at a beautiful woman without any protection. The joke is along the lines of: She is so beautiful that I would HAVE to raw dog it(slang for unprotected sex)! While we all know that this is just a saying made extreme by the way how men tend to joke, the reality is that it really isn’t just a saying. I can firmly say that most men would not turn down celebrity/model ass if it was given to them sans condom. It’s not so much that you start “thinking with your little head” or any other cliche, it’s that we view it as a once in a lifetime opportunity that must be done. MEN! BUST ONE FOR THE ALLIANCE! Fellas, if you’re shaking your head at my assertion and pretending as if you’re above this, let me paint… [Read more]

Sep 28

I’ve been taking notes on people that I have met throughout my life and one thing that sticks out is that age is a state of mind. In terms of logic, age of course is based on your time since birth but psychologically age is what you make of it. People who live in the now tend to be younger than those who are stuck reminiscing on a time period in the past. I hear more whining about “oh I feel so old” from people that are quick to recall how cool they were in high school as opposed to people that are excited about where they are right now. I can honestly say that my own mother is younger than many of the people I know. My mother has a million things going on, is still goal setting and goal achieving and she celebrates… [Read more]

Sep 12

I have noticed that many people like to stress over the person that their ex has moved on to marry, date or sleep with. They observe the new lover and run comparison checks with themselves in order to laugh at her if she did worse, or feel salty if she did better. While I personally would never partake in this activity it seems to be a sort of curious human nature, which most people are guilty of. One of the most devastating things a man can fathom is that his girl of many years will run off and become a lesbian. It is a huge blow to his ego, an offense aimed squarely at his lack of a potent sex game. A blow that must not be known by his peers lest he be laughed at and lose face for being such a weak man… [Read more]

Sep 08

In the past I’ve talked about a person’s aura having a lot to do with intimidation. Well beyond walking, your presence has to be one of bravado, I like to call it the Panther presence. When I find myself walking into a building or plaza, I mentally assume ownership of everything there. It becomes my metropolis and it’s people become my people. This allows me to take it all in at a glance and it leads me to walk briskly as if I own the place. A good example of this stride can be seen through Bill “The Butcher” Cutting on Gangs of New York or Ari Gold from HBO’s Entourage. Both these men don’t stroll, they walk like business is meant to be handled! When you walk this way people want to get out of your way and on observation they tend to assume… [Read more]

Aug 25
Martial arts take-down

One of the most annoying and inaccurate stigmas with the martial arts is that you have to be a child or pre-teen to enter and take away anything of value from it. As a practicing Karateka of 23 years I am here to warn you that formal training could and will save your life. The statement that is the title was stated by Nas, a rapping emcee who has made a living echoing the sentiment of the street. Of course if you are familiar with the street’s sentiment, it is “I practice Gun fu not kung-fu” which is arrogance in assuming that a. you will always be in a place where your gun is at the ready and b. you are born with the natural skills to fight. My question to you older folks that shy away from martial arts based on this is –… [Read more]

Aug 04

We all know there is a plethora of things that women may like about men that they cannot do without. Most of the characteristics on this list are according to their personal likes and dislikes, so it’s hard to come up with a list of general things that women would look for in a man. However, when it comes to things that we do not want in a man, there are certain turn offs that most women count as a “minus” to your total package.  Behold the Top Ten list of women’s turn offs. 1. A Jacked Up Grill There are several men in this world who look much better before they speak. They usually know who they are, too. You know, that man who hardly smiles with his mouth open and when forced into laughter he visibly tries to keep his mouth closed.  He… [Read more]