Why do we as a society act as if mediocrity is such a shameful thing? Most people are average—by a huge margin—yet we pretend as if everyone has the potential to become “great”. Children are pushed to maximize their efforts in the pursuit of material bliss only to grow into miserable adults when life comes back mundane.   We Can’t All Be At The Top The irony in our average-shaming society is that the ones who ascend need the average people in order to maintain position. People who become rich use the money of the average populace to amass wealth. I have always said that the quickest way to wealth Is to find the best way to exploit the ignorant and it is very true of a lot of successful businesses. Athletes, their coaches, and the team’s owners and general managers make ridiculous salaries because average people pay for season tickets and buy the team’s… [Read more]

How many of you out there spend with your hearts and not your brains? Think about it, are you all about experiencing things now and then figuring out how to pay for it later, or are you a planner who makes sure the money is there with enough left over for bills and life before spending? CreditDonkey.com, a credit card comparison company has done a survey of over 1,100 people and found that 41% of them had less than $500 in their savings account. YOLO (you only live once) right? Yet why does this statistic not surprise me? People will blame every aspect of life but their careless spending in order to not feel foolish about being one of those 41%. I personally know that part of the problem with this statistic is that the people with no savings, investments, and nest eggs are able to live this way because there’s always a safety net…. [Read more]

When you win at a sport it is one thing to thank your god and your support base for your success but why is it okay to downplay all of your individual effort and hard work? I’ve written many times about how offensive it is for a wage slave to call an entrepreneur “lucky” for anything that the entrepreneur receives and I believe the same goes for a non-athlete assuming that an Olympian is lucky to receive a gold medal. When you accomplish a goal and chalk it up to luck on your victory speech I think that you do yourself and anyone looking up to you a disservice. This especially goes for those who pretend to be humble in order to spare themselves the scrutiny of people who use words like “cocky”. Listen up athletes, grinders and winners, you are allowed to be cocky if you can and will back it up! Sure there… [Read more]

The number one point of frustration with the dating discussion of today is the fact that women have chosen not to conform to the times in terms of give and take.  When it comes to dating the women who complain (on blogs) about men not “playing their role” will say something similar to this: “I would NEVER ask a man out on a date; that is THEIR job to do! Men should be the ones choosing who they want to be with. And when he notices the girl, he should show her the sort of person he is by what he plans, what he wears, how he speaks to and treats her and whether he follows up the next day.” Back in the day they used to call this sort of thing courtship and it was done when a man was looking at a specific woman to marry. It was a process and it didn’t… [Read more]

Muhammad Ali said “I am the greatest!” Usain Bolt said “I am a legend”. What confidence! I can think of a few others such as Beanie Man who answers this question based on his sexual prowess and attraction as he chants in his song – “Who am I?, the girl dem sugar!!!” This question has the power to elicit confidence as well as confusion, delusion, and doubt. Often times the question comes from the need to introduce oneself. With hand outstretched, do you give your name? “Hi, I am Delaney”, or “My name is Jordan and I am a singer/song writer”. This kind of response indicates the perceived value of associating “who you are” with “what you do”. Have you ever seen the reaction of “Hi, I’m David and I am a doctor” to the response of, “Oh, nice to meet you David, what kind of doctor are you?” What about you? Don’t you have… [Read more]

Many people assume that prostitutes are unintelligent victims of overly smart street hustlers with a hard backhand, a 9mm handgun and a lack of empathy but the truth of the matter is that there is a method to the madness that is The Game and the art of making and breaking a prostitute. The main source of power that a pimp has over his/her product is called psychological imprisonment and I would warn that many of you judging the prostitute may be a broke day and an act of loyalty away from being one yourself. The following 7 rules are a variation of The Laws of The Game that have been used by pimps since time immortal and they are accompanied by my insights as to how your marriage or relationship could very well be along the same lines as a pimp/prostitute relationship. Sure your husband or wife may not beat you with a wire… [Read more]

What is it about some of us women, who once we meet the “love of our life”, we drop our association with “old friends”? I have a girlfriend whom I have spent many wonderful, hours with. Although we do not live in the same city, we used to make time visiting with each other and it was a special treat. We would shop, get spa treatments, workout, chat and laugh for hours, and discover new restaurants together. Don’t get me wrong, I am happy that she (and others of you who might be guilty) has found love; however, what I don’t appreciate is the ad-hoc call you get once in a blue moon, filled with excuses, and then the bearing of the soul to get some reassurance, or to provide a shoulder to cry on. I will be the first to encourage making your relationship a priority, and to take great care in being available… [Read more]

In this world we have some pushy, entitled people who like to think that the world revolves around them when it comes to love. If you want to know if you are one of these people then check if you would answer yes to any of the following: Claim ownership to your lover after having sex even though he/she has not agreed to become your exclusive boyfriend/girlfriend. Get jealous and angry if a woman you are dating is seen out with a guy having drinks. Refuse to claim a woman as your girl but disallow any other guy to talk to her. Sorry ladies and gents but there is no extra step between dating and relationship; to let someone convince you otherwise is to do yourself a disservice as it only means that they are stringing you along in order to have a pass to “cheat” without repercussions. If a woman wants you to be… [Read more]