At times when I am in really good shape throughout the year, I get cornered by guys asking me what they can do to get where I am. This question is one that is very familiar to people of the fitness lifestyle, especially the beginning of Summer or after New Year’s Eve. To get to a level of loving fitness one has to undergo a proving, it is a path that I call The Road of Kings. The reason I call it The Road of Kings, is because it’s a path that few travel, fewer stay on it and the ones who make it are rewarded with a physique that others will envy. Just like a fighter who has won many battles and utilized his victories to woo the people into making him king. Everyone can envy a story like that, just like everyone can envy that mother of 4 who found the gym to… [Read more]

If you were to ask me to define motivation, I would say that motivation is a methodology of psyching oneself out in order to stay the course in whatever one’s objective may be. When you think of the athlete that has to make the big play or the business man that has to go in there and convince the bank to give him a loan for his dream to come true, you can kind of envision those guys in the bathroom looking in the mirror telling themselves “you’re the greatest, you’re the greatest, you’re the greatest,  you can do it” etc. but it’s all the same because what they’re actually doing is psyching themselves out and letting themselves believe that they are the greatest, even though they may not be as great as someone else. Still, they need to believe that they are the greatest in that particular moment, in order to go out there… [Read more]

Judging people based on their job title is a pretty worthless bit of discrimination. I have grown to really despise the act of doing so to where sometimes I begin judging the person negatively who questioned the janitor’s intelligence just because he’s a janitor. I became annoyed with this line of thinking after knowing the “Janitors” who are financially set, have stock options and manage their money properly across from the big bad Director of the company who is living check to check and on an AMSCOT rotation monthly. A job is a job. You can slap a fancy word like “career” on there and assume that your weekly Happy Hour visits with Gayle from Marketing makes you “successful” but at the end of the day you and the Admin that you were poking fun of is dancing for a boss in order to afford a living and more. It’s all the same thing, different… [Read more]

Recently I had a flashback of sorts. I felt the breeze of the fan in my bedroom and for whatever reason it brought back memories of my childhood. I started thinking about running around the house on breezy summer days, looking out at the green grass and laying down at night with a fan blowing. I remembered playing home run derby with the neighborhood kids, mainly because we didn’t have enough people to actually play baseball. I started thinking about how carefree my life was… way back then. When I was a kid I didn’t really care about anything. In my younger years I ran around the neighborhood without restraint… I’d discover places and things and climb on them. As far as I’m concerned, those were the most carefree days that I’m aware of. Eventually as I got older I started getting more into video games and began understanding life a little better. As the years… [Read more]

If you read my last article about doing a photoshoot, you know my stance on who should be posing for the camera. Again, I think all women should experience it at some point in their lives. I’ve never given someone their final shots and have them regret it. This is all well and good, but I need to discuss the opposite type of person – the numerous, disillusioned women who think they have a future in modeling. They say beauty is in the eye of the beholder. This might be the biggest thing to consider when you look in the mirror and start wrapping yourself in the compliments you’ve gotten over the years about your looks. I think a lot of lady friends are attractive. Yeah, sometimes I tell them that. This certainly doesn’t mean I think they should be in the next issue of Vogue. I will never tell someone they should consider modeling… [Read more]

Women hate the 10 point scale that men apply to their looks, they absolutely do. But here’s the thing ladies, it isn’t going anywhere because we guys are simple and it places a simple answer to a complex question. A question that is often asked whenever someone describes a woman that they want to convey as attractive ie: “man this girl is BAD, hot as hell, a straight up 9, I’ll go as far as giving her a 10 because she’s nice too”. This in man language translates to “I am temporarily stunned by this woman’s beauty and I want you to be as stunned as I am so that you are impressed that I have a chance with her.” Normally when we see the chick she’s like a 7, or an 8, cute as a button but not exactly our flavor (most men have different flavors). Sometimes you luck out and if the guy… [Read more]

Lately when talking to women about choosing the salon over the gym, I am given the feedback of  “we get our hair done for y’all”,  yet all of the guys I talk to say “we will take a girl with jacked up hair if she has a banging body” – so there seems to be a disconnect. Let me preface this by acknowledging that many guys are posers and are full of shit when talking to other men about their interactions with females. A guy who says he doesn’t care about hair may very well be the dude telling you that he wants your hair permed or there will be a problem. I get that and I know THAT guy, but THAT guy isn’t the one I asked about the body versus hair thing, I asked average Joe. There has always been a question amongst us black males as to why the gyms are devoid… [Read more]

I would like you all to join me in an anti-hater movement. To clarify, let me explain what I mean by “hater” because this word gets used so much it is easy to ignore the true meaning of it. Haters are negative people, they are the ones who tell you not to do something that could potentially help your career, they are the ones who you have to constantly say “I told you so” and they are the ones who find the darkest possibility in any situation. These people endlessly flame on message boards and comments (anonymously) and are an ongoing topic on notable news sites on the status of the internet.  Haters will soon cause the internet to be policed, if you want an example just go to YouTube.com and read the comments on any video. It’s a cultural phenomenon. So why do people do it? Well it’s easy to be a sour puss… [Read more]